Uncalled for comments

Oldwoman70. Totally agree. There’s at least one type of thread which seems to be exclusive to those who”agree”.

Yes, I don’t know how you can decide that you ‘don’t like’ something unless you have read it.

Whenever a thread like this is started someone denies it happens and asks for "examples" but haven't we all read a comment, thought it was unnecessarily rude and then moved on without even registering the name of the person who posted it? The fact is, for me in any event, those people are totally unimportant in my life so their comments are irrelevant, although I do feel for those the comments are directed at.

One comment which does appear often is "if you don't like it don't read it", which basically is an attempt to shut down debate

Calling someone a rude 'name' or describing them with a rude adjective is harmless. But generalising about somebody's character is not harmless, and should be disallowed by the Moderator.

Do yourself a favour, let those that insult have their moment, but leave them to it

I think there are many of us who do precisely that. The bullies always rule in the playground and there are times when GN feels just like that.

Sensible suggestion Spangler.

Feeling the sting of a hurtful response, more often than not, invokes a retort. Far better to turn the computer off, put the kettle on and just leave it be.

Politics, religion and relationships are subjects that always have that: "Light blue touch paper, stand well clear," definition about them. Do yourself a favour, let those that insult have their moment, but leave them to it. You can't start a fight in an empty room.

Agree. But its got worse since the brexit controversy. Both sides resorted to name calling.

Lucca

I’m still wondering why it’s ok to refer to posters as loony lefties?

I think it is something that appeared to acceptable in the past along with other insensitive behaviours but shouldn't be in today's more enlightened age. It may be that you think some left wing ideologies are unworkable but calling anybody a "loony" is totally unacceptable.

I’m still wondering why it’s ok to refer to posters as loony lefties?

Please read my post again EV I mistyped DEPLORED.

But this is just how nasty and inaccurate rumours start isn’t it?

Quite the reverse, Furret,it's YOU who usually reports ME !

I've never pressed the report button, but eyes are wide open now.

You have reported me again EV? What fot?

------and reported !

Deplored

And yes, it was rude, and I am usually much more measured in my responses. I have read some terrible character assassinations of public figures on GN and deported them.

Let me put this to rest and set the record straight. I did not call someone on here a f*t s**b. I would never do that. I was referring to a public figure. Chinese whispers.

I think that sometimes there is a slightly inaccurate response to an OP, and subsequent replies are in response to the inaccurate post. Even if the OP clarifies what she meant, once the inaccurate idea has taken hold there is no shifting it, as a lot of people only read the last post on a thread.

I think that is more likely than someone deliberately and maliciously manufacturing a post.

What are you referring to, tickingbird? confused. You said something similar yesterday. I didn’t get it then either.

Maggiemaybe - it’s a strange phenomenon I’ve come across several times on GN. Someone will be discussing/debating on a thread and then someone else responds to something that HASN’T been said. It seems to be a deliberate tactic to get the upper hand or gain the moral high ground. The more charitable view is that a comment has been misinterpreted but on occasion that’s a stretch to be fair. Another common one is asking for details, links and examples. I find it tiresome. It’s akin to schoolchildren arguing in a playground - “prove it”!

A well respected and very measured member posted about this and also the practice of getting posts deleted tactically a few days ago. It’s often the same members too. Disagreeing with someone and then being accused of rudeness. It’s happened to me but I’ve seen it being directed at other GN’s several times.

Oh, sorry to misunderstand, Chewbacca. I totally agree that it’s unacceptable.

A Gran on here called someone a “fat slob” Chewbacca? Seriously?!

No Lisagran, they did not. As I said, it doesn't matter who said it, or who it was about, it was calling anyone that, that I find unacceptable.

Am I loony?
If you become hairy and howl
Only at full moon ?

I am fat ?and a slob (sometimes) but I would hate to be called that just because someone didn’t agree with my politics!

A Gran on here called someone a “fat slob” Chewbacca? Seriously?!

I am sometimes a slob but am not fat.