Uncalled for comments

What does passive-aggressive mean?
No I'm not stirring it, just curious.

Nonnie that is a good point.
However, having myself come to the defence of some who have been bullied on threads, I find that posters are then accused of being in a clique or even a "coven" ?‍♀️

Nonnie

I sometimes think that a thread reduces to just a few people after something nasty has happened. I know lots of support goes on in PMs but it would also be good if supporters did the same on the thread. It might stop those being attacked from feeling so hurt.

That is a very perceptive comment Nonnie.
I hold my hands up to coming out with some spontaneous, out of the box, "maybe" type comments sometimes. There is always one poster who picks apart every little segment of my post to shout me down with questions like what do you know? Little do we know what anyone knows!

She directed comments at me and I responded

She ie merlotgran asked you a question which you answered in a passive aggressive manner, tickingbird.

Passive aggressive - moi? I think anyone on here familiar with me knows I don’t do snide or passive. I say it as I see it.

Some may call I say it as I see it rude and aggressive without the passive.

Thank you for your support, Illte.

I think that was the OP wasn't it? Set the hare running and sit back and watch the fun.

I'm fairly new. I was dumb to fall for it. I'll know better next time ?

merely pointing out that Sarahmob said she had opened a can of worms but then decided to 'step back' from the thread.

We had a friend who was expert at this. Make a contentious point then sit back and watch everyone else become more heated as they discussed it, sipping his ?
We do miss him.

Well put Cabbie21.

I sometimes think that a thread reduces to just a few people after something nasty has happened. I know lots of support goes on in PMs but it would also be good if supporters did the same on the thread. It might stop those being attacked from feeling so hurt.

Aren't you the one doing the nasty bullying tickingbird. You've obviously got a down on merlotgran.

You've had several goes at her.

Thank you for illustrating my earlier point so well. I have not had any “goes” at Merlotgran. She directed comments at me and I responded. It’s the usual pattern these discussions take. Nothing in my earlier posts was directed at Merlotgran and, if my memory serves me well, I have never had any dealings with Merlotgran so have no reason to have a “down” on her.

It’s just more of the same old, same old.

Train crash in slow-mo!

MawB2

Oh dear - another thread exhorting us to be nice to each other which has had exactly the opposite effect.
Twas ever thus.

MawB2 they never end well, do they!

varian

Is there a kind way of saying "you are wrong"?

But the other poster may not be wrong unless their facts and/or statistics are erroneous.

If it's a viewpoint which differs from someone else's view then it is not necessarily wrong, just different.

Cans of worms are only useful for fishing trips.
Threads like this rarely end well......but maybe this one could be the first, who knows??

How unkind,

Not so, Furret, merely pointing out that Sarahmob said she had opened a can of worms but then decided to 'step back' from the thread.

She then came back to say she was still reading the posts.

Hardly surprising really.

Sarahmob

Lucca can I reassure you that I haven’t taken umbrage and left the thread. I’m still following and reading the comments ?

I wasn’t talking about you !! It was a general comment.

Sparklefizz

Lucca I’ve never seen anybody told to “clear off”.

Just because you personally haven't seen things, doesn't mean that they didn't happen.

I didn’t say that it didn’t happen. I said I hadn’t seen it.

Aren't you the one doing the nasty bullying tickingbird. You've obviously got a down on merlotgran.

You've had several goes at her.

merlotgran

Sarahmob

Lucca can I reassure you that I haven’t taken umbrage and left the thread. I’m still following and reading the comments ?

Of course you are. Otherwise it would be a waste of a can of worms.

How unkind,

If you are calling me out as a bully, tickingbird you are clearly on the wrong track.

janeainsworth

That’s another good one Furret, but I don’t think the two quotes are necessarily in opposition.

If you wanted, or needed, to oppose evil, it might be counter-productive to open your mouth and say something that was groundless or stupid.

True. Fools often rush in. But on the other hand you should not feel you cannot speak out simply for fear of sounding foolish.

tickingbird

I wonder why you asked me to point them out then if they’re of no importance to you?

Try reading my reply again, tickingbird.

Passive aggressive - moi? I think anyone on here familiar with me knows I don’t do snide or passive. I say it as I see it. I don’t give a fig for being a forum darling but I detest bullies and call them out wherever I come across them.

I wonder why you asked me to point them out then if they’re of no importance to you?

Oh that was snide, ticking bird.

Or as Suziewoizie would say, passive aggressive.

Hmm. Am I standing up for merlotgran or are we ganging together.