Women's legs & showing too much flesh

harrysgran

Pointing the lady out to your husband says more about your own insecurities would you have pointed out the way she was dressed if she'd been mid twenties with a perfect figure

That’s a huge assumption on your part !And I would definitely say quietly to a friend or partner “look at that beAutiful girl doesnt she look good in that outfit”

Am I being dense ? How is this trolling? I thought trolling was attacking somebody online. Happy to be corrected.

janeainsworth

^It's whether voicing that opinion is acceptable or not isn't it?^
We’re not only allowed to voice our opinion, we are also allowed to offend people, though that sometimes seems to be forgotten.
What we are not allowed to do is incite hatred or violence.

That is correct.

It may not always be the best way to win friends and influence people and, if the OP had expressed her views loudly enough for the other guest to hear, that would have been downright rude and ill-mannered (but it is allowed).

There is a tendency for many people to "let it all hang out" these days and that is their right too, just as it is your right to express an opinion about it.
It would have been unkind to do it so that she could hear you.

I think it's ok when you're young and lovely, but do we really want to see old women letting it all hang out? I certainly don't!

Actually I dont mind at all, Grannyrebel because it makes me feel a bit better about my own appearance.
Quietly and to myself ?️‍♀️?‍♀️?‍♀️ in my long shorts

What people do often in my opinion is confuse matters of opinion with matters of morality.

People can and do say whatever they like within our laws. Their mistake is that they expect others to listen without protest.

Callistemon

Starblaze
Bodach you do understand that your thoughts can stay inside your head where noone else has to put up with them right?

Wrong.

Well, exactly so Callistemon! In fact if we all followed this maxim, there wouldn't be such a thing as a discussion on any topic at all! Policing what thoughts are posted and what should be kept in one's head where no one has to out up with them could be applied on several topics of discussion but, as we are free to post whatever we like, within guidelines, everyone has the right to voice their thoughts/opinions.

I've just been back through the comments and it's degenerated again into

"I can say what I want but you can't have an opinion on that"

As a concept once again that makes no sense.

I don't expect everyone to agree with me, like everyone else I do simply want my right to say it.

What I am/am not willing to say is a matter of morality.

If anyone wants to say "well, Starblaze, you disagreed with me in a way that causes me offence"

I just want to say, well yes.... Sorry about that but not agreeing is generally offensive no matter how you do it because people value their own opinions... I'm sure there are lots of things we do agree on and that's a good enough reason not to stay determined to only communicate unkindly in future right?

Otherwise I just ignore people honestly. I'm not interested in creating enemies or a negative environment.

What does it matter if legs are veiny, lumpy, , wobbly, cellulitey or whatever? The woman was having her breakfast and enjoying the sunshine. You and your husband didnt have to look anyway! Dear me!

Live and let live! Nobody’s business what people wear to eat their breakfast!

Granny rebel seems to have touched a nerve with a lot of you! If she's at all sensitive she'll never post again.

I think it’s sad that we criticise others from our lofty towers of perfection. It would be soooo boring if we all looked the same. This is how humans look, various shapes, sizes and colours, old and young.

“Looks” seem to occupy a disproportionate amount of importance in our society, hence for example, the high rates of anorexia amongst young women and increasingly men, and the never ending search for the “body beautiful” whatever that may be.

If you cant cope with people disagreeing with you on GN, I am not sure it's the internet site for you

I saw a woman wearing teeny tiny shorts and a strappy top that left little to the imagination in a cafe we were in. She was probably late 50s, overweight with huge boobs and her legs were covered in big patches of veins. I pointed her out to DH and he said that she put him off his breakfast

Grannyrebel doesn’t sound the sensitive type to me, kircubbin2000

Good post, Greeneyedgirl

The key here is to find the right clothes for your body type. Firstly, do you wear clothes? Secondly, do you have a body?
If you answer yes to both, then wear whatever makes you happy and ignore the narrow minded judgmental types.
Life is too short to give these people any head-space whatsoever.

Dress according to only two things. The weather and what you want to wear.

Last time I checked, we don't have clothes police but we DO have judgemental and rude people who think they can dictate what others do.

Focus on your own life.

2 simple steps to achieve a bikini body.

1. Get a bikini.
2. Put it on your body.

Galaxy

If you cant cope with people disagreeing with you on GN, I am not sure it's the internet site for you

Indeed Galaxy; I think posters sometimes lose sight of the fact that topics are opened for general discussion and there will obviously be various opinions being aired. Complete agreement is not a requirement. Attempts to close down a discussion are usually self defeating.

WOW! Just unbelievable! What a judgemental post, I hope the poor lady in question that you were slagging off didn’t hear your disgusting comment, thank God I’m not of the same beliefs as you are, live and let live, in fact if I was on the next table to you, I’d have called you out on that!! Kindness matters

I was once on holiday in Spain with my husband and three children. Two of my children have black hair, like my husband, one has bright orange hair like me.
You wouldn't think they were related if you saw them together.

The German family at the next table were discussing the parentage of my children and the fact that I may have been a loose woman and been with different men. What they didn't realise was that I spoke German.
You should have seen their faces, as we left and I made a comment to them German! .

Well done marydoll ?

not agreeing is generally offensive no matter how you do it because people value their own opinions
I don’t agree with you there starblaze and I’m not the least bit sorry if you’re offended.

GagaJo
Dress according to only two things. The weather and what you want to wear
I think the occasion and location have to be considered too.
I can’t imagine that you’d go to your work as a teacher, clad, for instance, in a slinky silk dress and a feather boa.
Saying you don’t possess such items in your wardrobe isn’t a defence.
The point is that we may not have clothes police but we do have some social conventions about dress. Some people might genuinely not care about infringing them, but I think most people wouldn’t want to risk upsetting a bride or a widow by being inappropriately dressed at a wedding or funeral.

janeainsworth

^not agreeing is generally offensive no matter how you do it because people value their own opinions^
I don’t agree with you there starblaze and I’m not the least bit sorry if you’re offended.

Should we all agree to be nodding donkeys, in total and complete agreement, so that the precious amongst us aren't offended?

Blimey.

Please demonstrate and perhaps I can learn better by example lol