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Feeling crap, what makes you feel better

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FannyCornforth Sat 19-Sep-20 18:21:34

I'm a very new member.
I've been made to feel so welcome here.
But, bugger me, I'm having a hard time now. I think that we are getting ready for some sort of lockdown.
Shall we share what what we are worried about and what helps?
I'll start. I'm watching chanel 4s 100 greatest musicals. It's flipping awesome x

kittylester Sat 19-Sep-20 21:01:43

(Hugs) for you both merlot and ann. thanks

Jaxjacky Sat 19-Sep-20 21:02:40

Merlotgran 🤞🤞❤️

Callistemon Sat 19-Sep-20 22:26:53

Sometimes nothing helps, FannyC, when I think about the future for my DC and DGC.
I worry that we may have had the best of it.

Other times it's just the simple things that cheer, a chat with a friend or relative, a nice meal and glass of wine, the garden, a part family get together.

I am normally a glass half full person.

Teacheranne Sat 19-Sep-20 23:58:36


Hi, FannyCornforth, yes, I am beginning to feel really fed up now. At the start it almost felt quite exciting despite the danger, everyone home, and in the same strange circumstances, but that has long worn off.

What is really getting me down is the way things look like improving, you plan some small outing and then it is kyboshed. DD is no longer taking me to the Stitching and Knitting show at Alexandra Palace, we have decided that with the increase in COVID, it is better not done. We have a small antiques business. We did a carboot sale for fun at the Bank holiday, but were really looking to the 2 day Newbury Antiques fair, again an outside venue. This week it was cancelled. We planned a spa evening with DD, the spa are cutting back on the facilities available, so we have decided not to do it.

I am not complaining about the cancellations, they are being done for good reason and I support them. It is just the way your spirits lift a little thinking things are improving and a little outing might be possible then wham, down comes the hammer and you are back in the humdrum again.

Still we plana few days away next week, a friends holiday home, we have the key, we can isolate there during our visit if necessary, we can even take all our food so that we have no interactions with local people, but I just feel that something will happen, to stop us going, new lockdown or something

I think I will go down the garden and eat worms.

You have just reminded me of the song "Nobody loves me, everybody hates me, think I'll go and eat worms" and that really made me laugh, thank you! Mind you, the very large blood orange gin I just drank might have helped as well!

FannyCornforth Sun 20-Sep-20 05:24:46

Big fat juicy ones
Long thin (something?) ones
Worms that wiggle and squirm!

Thinking of you all in the early hours.
Waiting for the sunrise.
Literally and figuratively.

mumofmadboys Sun 20-Sep-20 06:02:50

Nobody loves me, everybody hates me!
I'm going to the garden to eat worms!
Big ones, small ones,
Fat ones, thin ones,
juicy ,uicy, uicy uicy worms
Bite their heads off,
Suck their guts out,
Throw their skins away
Nobody cares how much I dine on,
Worms three times a day!

Remembered from Brownues!!

janeainsworth Sun 20-Sep-20 06:36:14

Momb grin
My favourite song at Brownies was
‘Land of the silver birch
Home of the beaver
Where still the mighty moose
Wanders at will
Blue lake and rocky shore
I will return once more
Boom didi i-di Boom didi I-di Boom didi I-di Boom’

As a child, I had a vivid picture of this in my mind, and then when I went to Ontario in 2016 it became a reality.

Morning Fanny and everyone smile

mumofmadboys Sun 20-Sep-20 06:51:13

Hi Jane. Your poem certainly brings a scene to mind!

Spice101 Sun 20-Sep-20 07:17:09

I'm in Melbourne Australia and we went into a second and stricter lockdown than the first 9 weeks ago. Our numbers of CV in Victoria blew out basically because of the Victorian Government stuffing up the quarantine of returned travellers.

At this time we are allowed to
- shop for essentials once a day but one person only from a household, only food shops, pharmacies, petrol stations, medical centre and a very few other businesses are allowed to be open and are working at greatly reduced capacity.
- travel only within a 5 kilometre radius of home
- leave home for up to one hour a day for exercise but can exercise with one other person
- we have a curfew between 9 pm and 5 am
- we must wear masks when outside the home (I take this to mean off the property)
- cannot have any visitors to the home, tradespeople etc. may come if there is an emergency
- restaurants, pubs, cafes etc are only allowed open for takeaway service - they can deliver.

As of next week these restrictions will be eased a little if the numbers of new infections fall to between 30 and 50 per day over a 14 day period. Which we are well on track to do at this stage. We will be able to exercise for up to 2 hours per day with one other person and people living alone will be able to bubble with one other person who also lives alone.

Some more businesses will be allowed to open.

At the end of October there will be a further easing of restrictions and further easing at the end of November. The easing is dependent of the number of daily infections falling to no more than 5 over a 14 day period.

This lockdown has been so much harder than the first. Not made easier by not seeing family for 3 months and also my Mum passed away in mid July but her memorial (in place of a funeral) has been put on hold until this is sorted as we could only have had 10 people attending.

Annsixty I had a THR last October and in June this year a TKR- opposite side. I was lucky to get my TKR as surgery had been stopped. It then opened again for a short period of time before closing down again. I made it by two weeks. At least in lockdown I have been confined to an extent however, it has meant I have not been able to do hydrotherapy as a large part of my rehab.

Nothing we can do about all of this except hope that the collateral damage is repairable.

lovebeigecardigans1955 Sun 20-Sep-20 09:24:27

I've never heard of that worm song, it sounds positively revolting!

If I'm a bit down in the dumps I like to do something creative such as sewing because it's constructive - you get something out of it. When I look at all the projects I've completed during this lockdown, well, I must have been really fed up.

Sometimes I go out and do a bit of dead heading, weeding or pruning in the garden.

Alternatively, reading a good book or poetry.

FannyCornforth Sun 20-Sep-20 09:31:44

I'm glad that sewing has been mentioned.
What type of needlecraft is really easy?
I can't knit or crochet (I have tried, but just don't seem to have the gene.
My mom taught textiles and had a degree in it. She even made wedding dresses.)
I digress, I tried cross stitch but don't seem to have the necessary patience.
What is needlepoint like? And patchwork?
Any suggestions please?

BlueSky Sun 20-Sep-20 09:33:11

Spice101 your lockdown is similar to the first one in the U.K. Then gradually everything was relaxed but now unfortunately they are imposing more restrictions again. I think it's happening everywhere so no particular bad behaviour in one country or other. We can only carry on and do our bit. Depressing but I knew it wasn't going to be easy.

Callistemon Sun 20-Sep-20 09:35:31

Remembered from Brownies!!
I've never heard of that worm song, it sounds positively revolting!

It's a great song, especially when sung with gusto.

I'm embarrassed to say that DH and I sing a variation of it if we've been out and come home to find no messages on the answer phone. blush
Jane10's song sounds much more respectable.

Spice101 perhaps that will work now and you will be able to return to something like normality soon.
I understand your Victorian Government actively encouraged the street protests too and some even joined in - not a great example to set. Then those who are sensible have to suffer from a strict lockdown.

janeainsworth Sun 20-Sep-20 09:37:04

Fanny the Pre-Raphaelite women were very good needlewomen, weren’t they?
Wasn’t it Jane Morris’ daughter May who founded the Royal School of Needlework?

janeainsworth Sun 20-Sep-20 09:38:22

Jane10's song sounds much more respectable

Hey! It was my song Calli grin

Callistemon Sun 20-Sep-20 09:42:05

I have a couple of cross stitch kits, bought in a moment of optimism, but you do need patience and good eyesight to do cross stitch. Mine are still in the packet.

FannyC perhaps it might be a good idea to buy a few craft magazines, the ones with "free" samples attached, then you could find something which you enjoy without spending a large amount on something you'll never do.

Callistemon Sun 20-Sep-20 09:43:45

Hey! It was my song Calli

Apologies , janeainsworth blush
I need to go to that High Street opticians.

FannyCornforth Sun 20-Sep-20 09:46:39

Callistemon, that's a cracking idea, thank you.
"Spending a huge amount of money on something that you won't do".
Blimey! That's spooky! Have we met?

Callistemon Sun 20-Sep-20 09:48:08

I should take my own advice!

ayse Sun 20-Sep-20 09:52:06

FannyC, I’ve been looking at pinch embroidery as something new to try. It looks like rug hooking but on a much smaller scale. You can buy kids online and there are loads of videos on UTube. It looks fun and easier and quicker than traditional embroidery once you have the hang of it. It is an old form of embroidery that’s taken off relatively recently and it very popular in the USA.

If you want to give traditional embroidery a go then I recommend the A-Z of embroidery stitches. You would need a hoop to keep the fabric stretched.

For both types you can buy iron on transfers or draw your own patterns etc. if that appeals. I think now is the time to try something new.

Last time I was going through a really bad patch I was painting bottles with glass paints. Not to very high standard but it kept my mind occupied and distracted me from my troubles at least for a time. It’s occupational therapy by another name.

There are loads of ideas on Pinterest but the site is not super user friendly. There are also loads of groups on Facebook about upcycling and using household objects for new purposes. There are ways of using pine cones to make Xmas decorations. The list is endless.

Just have a go at something that spikes your interest.

H1954 Sun 20-Sep-20 09:59:27

I'm very much a "glass half full" person really. I maintain the philosophy that there's always someone else worse off, I give myself a regular "kick in the backside" and buck my ideas up. Yes, the first lockdown was difficult, not hugging family, not seeing grandkids etc was so hard BUT we survived it!
As for the loneliness that goes with isolation, I'm a member of a Social Group who would meet up regularly prior to Covid so we do our best to maintain contact with our colleagues. We still produce our monthly magazine, we still email each other and regularly phone those who have no email facilities. As the winter approaches we are stepping up our regular contact with each other; shorter days and longer darker nights are going to be difficult for so many but we have a core Membership who are determined to do all we can to help.

annsixty Sun 20-Sep-20 12:06:55

At the present time I am not sure many people would be looking to buy kids online but I dare say there will be some fed up parents willing to sell one or two. 😄😡😌

MawB2 Sun 20-Sep-20 12:15:58

Annsixty and Ayse gringrin
My DD has more than once threatened to put her “6 going on 16 “ year old daughter on eBay - but no takers!

Actually I am going to be completely superficial now - and am pinning my hopes on a luxurious new shower gel from Molton Brown.
If that doesn’t work it will have to be shoes.
Sadly a new lipstick (former go-to) is no good as you can’t wear it with a face covering.

Maggiemaybe Sun 20-Sep-20 12:55:21

I'm usually a glass half full type, but our latest local lockdown has got to me a bit. A friend living on her own was very upset to hear on the local news that as of Tuesday we won't be able to meet anyone from outside our own household even in the park or other public space outdoors (this is totally incorrect). She won't be the only vulnerable person thrown by that. And hasn't even been updated with our new restrictions, which were announced on Thursday. I feel I'm about to join the why can't they ever get it right? brigade. angry

Family, friends, and a garden bench to sit on with my book are what help. And wine.

merlotgran Sun 20-Sep-20 13:07:40

Family, friends, and a garden bench to sit on with my book are what help. And wine.

I laugh (like a drain) whenever I see another one of those, Britain's elderly drinking themselves to death during the pandemic' articles. grin

Remember the days when a moment of shock, bad news, sadness or just being fed up was met with the offer of a good old cup of tea or 'something stronger?'

Every day feels like a 'something stronger' moment now. We're not drinking any more than usual but boy, do I appreciate that G&T or glass of wine

I tell myself its less harmful than cake, chocolate or biscuits - which we don't eat! grin