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A friend who constantly moans about her Husband

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Vickysponge Sun 04-Oct-20 13:30:33

I think I would just listen and let in go in one ear and out the other. My
Lovely neighbour is exactly like this about her Husband and we end up having a laugh about it.

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LadyBella Sun 04-Oct-20 13:29:47

Not really, Judy54. I find that people who constantly moan about their situation rarely do anything about it. I have a friend who constantly complains about the maintenance on her huge house. She could easily downsize but when I suggest this she finds obstacles to my suggestions. Another friend's house needs refurbishing top to bottom and she complaints but never does anything about it. Other people I know moan about their weight but never attempt to lose it. I have learned that people are as they are. You'll just have to listen or drop the friendship I guess.

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Calendargirl Sun 04-Oct-20 13:27:17

When she starts grumbling about him again, say “Well, I’ve suggested ways of trying to deal with this before, and you don’t seem to think they will help, so it’s no use discussing it again. Now, what else can we chat about?”

If she still keeps moaning, be a bit more assertive.

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Judy54 Sun 04-Oct-20 13:17:40

My friend moans none stop about her Husband (perhaps with good reason) but I do find it too much at times. They are both retired and she says he does absolutely nothing around the house preferring to go out and play golf. He cannot she says work the washing machine or dishwasher, does not shop, cook, wash up or do any decorating/DIY. She spends a lot of time on her own as they rarely do anything together as a couple. I suspect she has brought a lot of this on herself by always doing these things over the years because she has exacting standards. I have talked to her about having an interest of her own, encouraging her Husband to do more round the house and perhaps going out for meals together. Rather than change things she just wants to rant on about him and I am starting to lose my patience and finding her company gets me down. Any thoughts on how to handle this?

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