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Chatting to strangers - do you?

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queengran Mon 05-Oct-20 17:11:25

I was in the bank on Friday and started chatting to the lady behind me who looked a bit dazed and confused. She said it was only her 4th outing since this all began. She lives with her a elderly mother who has breathing issues and is still shielding, and her sister is in a care home. She had a mask on, and a shield. I really felt for her and tried to keep her chatting for as long as I could. She is (relatively) safe from the virus - that is not at high risk - but is shielding herself so as to protect those she loves. It must be so lonely. I know we're all probably sick of the be kind message, but really she looked so grateful for a chat, I'm going to make a point of starting conversations with more people when I'm out and about, not that that's very often though. It might be the only conversation they have that day, and sometimes for me the only conversation I'll have aside from with my DH. I will take a hint though if they look like they'd rather be left alone! grin

sparklingsilver28 Wed 07-Oct-20 19:50:42

Guilty as charged. Many years ago, in my early thirties, I moved from London to a new town. Thursday morning, market day, waiting in silence at the bus stop would be a mixture of folks from very elderly to much younger. One week thought to break the impasse and on arrival at the bus stop promptly said "good morning". Never another silent Thursday morning! The elderly loved to tell me about the days when the town very different and their children young. Others related stories of their life before arriving in the new town. I could have written a book about these lovely people!

Now 83, and three hundred miles from that new town, and still talking to all and sundry (isolated since Feb). My family say I am better known in the town in three years than they are after ten years living here. Shopkeepers tell them they know me and how am I managing - and do I need help. How lovely is that- so keep speaking and smiling and spread a little joy on the way.

Juicylucy Wed 07-Oct-20 20:32:09

This is me all over, I strike up conversations with anyone and everyone. In my work I have a few lonely people that always come to me for chat and a catch up it makes there day.
My dd always gets embarrassed when I start chatting to people in queues as she’s shy.

Strictlynana Thu 08-Oct-20 10:15:17

Yep, give a little and receive a lot more. I came to Surrey from the Midlands when I was 18 to do my nursing course. I talked to people in the street and bus stops ... and dogs too smile. I had made friends with a local girl who thought I was mad. The only thing is you need to read people’s body language and know when to stop!

OceanMama Thu 08-Oct-20 10:59:17

I do if they seem to want to. I like to think that it might make someone's day a bit brighter if they are lonely or just in need of a smile.

LauraNorder Thu 08-Oct-20 11:07:42

I certainly do, a chat and a smile makes the world go round.
Having said that, I was painfully shy as a youngster, had a hyper critical mother and consequently low self esteem. After marriage we emigrated and I found confidence by coping with a new life. Later as our social life grew I realised many people are shy and are grateful when others engage them so this is what I did. My confidence grew and by the time I was thirty I was a happy chatter to all and sundry.

Daphne99 Thu 08-Oct-20 20:30:56

I’m from South Wales and we speak to everyone!

downtoearth Sun 11-Oct-20 18:42:31

I am a friendly sort,and will chat to anyone,I have always had a customer facing job.

Surprising what you see,hear,and learn from a hello and a smile