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I am so angry need to vent my spleen about dh

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Lisagran Tue 06-Oct-20 15:05:37

If your last sentence is true, then you’re not going to really take advice that’s offered are you? (I know you didn’t ask for advice, but no one should be spoken to / treated in the ways you describe and you know that)

I wait on him hand and foot. Why?

kittylester Tue 06-Oct-20 15:03:59

Why cant he place his own order? I wouldn't do it for him after that!

Liz46 Tue 06-Oct-20 15:03:25

It's tempting to advise you not to do the order and then later just make dinner for yourself but that would probably lead to more trouble.

It could be a good time to give him his own jobs. Ask which jobs would he like to take over. Mine does the ironing and vacuuming.

Oopsadaisy4 Tue 06-Oct-20 15:02:42

No. Let him do it himself.
Time to stand up for yourself. I often hear DH say that I’m interrupting him on the phone when I’m explaining that I know something that he doesn’t, similar to you getting the email and your DH not realising.
So I stopped, if he doesn’t need my help ( he obviously doesn’t, he has just retired from owning a very successful company) then I’m not going to give it.
I refuse to be treated like his secretary ( not that he’s had one for years )

25Avalon Tue 06-Oct-20 14:57:52

Dh wanted me to place an order on my IPad for various cheeses for himself and sil birthday from an expensive shop. Should have had a discount but not appearing at Checkout so he rings the company. Won’t wait for me to check online. They ask if he has received email, so I check on iPad and tell him I have. Only he won’t listen, says ‘we haven‘t had it’. Lady on other end says she can’t hear with 2 people talking So he says “It’s my wife interrupting. She always does it”. Lady goes off to find someone so whilst he is waiting I quietly tell him I was trying to tell him we had received the email. He literally tells me to shut up. I lose my cool and tell him to s*d off and he can do it his bl**dy self, fling I pad down and vacate room.
I go into kitchen and clean dishes. He does nothing, and I mean nothing to help me ever. I wait on him hand and foot and this is one moment resentment overflows.
Dh appears at kitchen door in yrbu mode. I interrupted him he has code. Tell him I was trying to help but he can place his own bl**dy order. His response is “stop squawking” which made me doubly mad. He likes to say that a lot. I find it offensive and told him so yet again.
I am still seething. Thought it might help to vent. No doubt I will calm down and place his order later.