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MawB2 Thu 22-Oct-20 11:23:30

Have you ever said anything tongue in cheek only to have it fall flat on its face because the other person took it literally?
My SOH must be very esoteric (or unique to me 😱) because it does happen 😕😕
I have just jokingly commented that our planned Book Group lunch in a local pub marquee might count as a “Business or Working Lunch” which allows more than 6 according to what I read in today’s paper, only for one member to earnestly text me back to say she was sure the pub would be Covid compliant or we could split into two groups.
BTW we may possibly be 7 but will probably only be 5 or 6 as it happens.
I’ll get me coat.

Lucca Thu 22-Oct-20 11:29:24

Yes. Often.
One lady I know just doesn’t get that sort of thing, and innuendo also just goes right over her head !

Squiffy Thu 22-Oct-20 11:36:01

… and isn’t it so disappointing when that happens?! You think you’ve been so witty and it falls as flat as a pancake 🙄😟 Even worse when you have to try and explain it! 😆

EllanVannin Thu 22-Oct-20 11:36:17

I know the feeling.

EllanVannin Thu 22-Oct-20 11:38:21

It's the po-face that gets me. Thick as a plank. grin

kittylester Thu 22-Oct-20 12:09:42

One of our neighbours is like that and I feel really silly if I have to explain or backtrack. She obviously thinks it's me's not - it's her. grin

Squiffy Thu 22-Oct-20 12:12:49

My DM never ‘got’ jokes. She used to say that she understood the joke, but couldn’t understand why it was funny. I found that really sad, especially if my DF and I were in hysterics.

grandMattie Thu 22-Oct-20 12:14:55

DH is permanently like that! His jokes are hilarious to him - I just don't get them. You would think that after 46 years together one of us would get it? But no, I still can't understand his silly things and he will insist on making those jokes. I do have a sense of humour just not like his!

Witzend Thu 22-Oct-20 12:19:31

My hyper-sensitive mother, often, though can’t remember specifics.
She just didn’t do irony or tongue-in-cheek jokey, and took everything personally.
I once had to warn a Christmas guest who fancied himself as a joker, not to take the pee out of her, however gently or mildly, but of course he was too full of what a hilarious party animal he was, to take that advice.

Result, one mother launched into a prolonged huff in the middle of Christmas dinner!

sodapop Thu 22-Oct-20 12:34:58

Yes its so much worse when you have to explain the joke Squiffy

Jane10 Thu 22-Oct-20 12:58:29

I once made a very jokey comment at a meeting and ended up having to give one person a written apology. Everyone else at that meeting had laughed. It got worse as the offended person was upset that I'd had to write to him and he then apologised to me.
I was much less relaxed at meetings after that.

Parsley3 Thu 22-Oct-20 13:01:45

Due to bitter experience, I now have to pick my audience before cracking a joke.

annodomini Thu 22-Oct-20 13:18:51

I twice had what I thought were well constructed jokes fall flat at political events. Maybe they were too subtle! Anyway, I concluded that my fellow party members just had no sense of humour.

kircubbin2000 Thu 22-Oct-20 13:50:46

I used to play tennis with a lady like this. Several of us were teachers and I made a sarky remark about something saying typical of male teachers. She ,non teacher,gave me a lecture about how she didn't like that type of remark etc and didn't get the joke at all.

GrannyGravy13 Thu 22-Oct-20 13:54:06

Oh so relieved it’s not just me with a quirky sense of humour.

kircubbin2000 Thu 22-Oct-20 13:59:54

I have another friend who never quite gets it either. My dil who is Asian but has lived in London for 20 years, often has amusing anecdotes about her job.On one occasion the girls at work passed round biscuits but didn't offer her the plate. When she asked why the answer was'oh, they're only from Asda.., we didn't think you would want one'. This was funny because of her expensive tastes but when I told my friend she didn't get it and advised me to tactfully explain to dil that British people might not warm to her if she was standoffish and to help her fit in.😨

DiscoGran Thu 22-Oct-20 15:37:02

Yes, all the time. Some folk take everything literally, or are very thin skinned. . Also, emails and texts are a complete minefield in that respect.

DiscoGran Thu 22-Oct-20 15:38:43

Nice to see you back MawB. Been busy planning your Christmas party?

vampirequeen Thu 22-Oct-20 15:41:05

I was once told that I have a different sense of humour to everyone else. Yes everyone else. Not a few people. Not some people. But everyone in the entire world.

MawB2 Thu 22-Oct-20 16:07:42


Nice to see you back MawB. Been busy planning your Christmas party?

As I shall probably be on my own, I’m not sure what you mean. sad

JackyB Thu 22-Oct-20 16:33:38

I hate it when I'm working up to a punch line and someone interrupts and messes it up for me. Timing, people, please!

LauraNorder Thu 22-Oct-20 16:39:47

Witzend I once had to warn a Christmas guest who fancied himself as a joker, not to take the pee out of her

Does this involve a catheter?

EllanVannin Thu 22-Oct-20 16:45:00

I'm so glad that I was blessed with a very humerous family who could always see the funny side whatever the situation.

EllanVannin Thu 22-Oct-20 16:53:46

A good sense of humour means a lot and my dear friend was exactly the same as myself which is why we got on so well through our 50 odd years of friendship.
Can't be doing with poker faces, I don't usually get on with them either.

Auntieflo Thu 22-Oct-20 17:15:06

Bit like Margot in A Good Life, she didn't get the jokes.