Help!?

Another CBA here too! Nowhere to go, nothing to do. I can't believe how much money I've saved by not going out, buying clothes and make-up.

Shower and wash hair every day, just using moisturiser these days, though I do make an effort when I go to DD's and use tinted moisturiser. What's the point of anything else when you're wearing a mask if you go out? No-one's going to see much of you anyway. Have been to the hairdresser a couple of times and have another appointment in December.

Mostly spend the day in jeans/jeggings and a jumper. Need a bra though, as God was very generous in that department. No smart shoes needed, am in walking shoes if I go out for a walk. And that's about all I go out for. Am often in my dressing gown till lunchtime!

Must make a move or else I shall be on here till lunchtime and have nothing done.

There is a particular charity that really wants formal work clothes, so that women can be appropriately dressed for interviews etc. Sorry I don’t know what it’s called.

It’s an economy measure no to shave your legs! I gave in and harvested my legs in the summer.....coo it was really chilly so will leave it over winter?

I partially slipped in to the CBA earlier this ear when i couldt get to the hairdressers for my fringe to be trimmed. I ended up clipng it back and it wasnt a good look!!! Now i have been a couple of times and am due next week for a trim i feel better. Back to putting on mascara and lippy every day. Still wearing joggers and t shirts indoors but always change when i go out even if just for a walk round the block. I do get days when i CBA but i try to get myself together otherwise i know i will feel even worse.

I have had days when I haven't put a bra on and slobbed about, but I have felt rubbish on those days. My posture always seems worse when I'm not wearing a bra and I just don't feel right. Somehow I feel more depressed on those days or maybe I didn't get dressed because I felt depressed?

I ditched underwires and now only wear comfy ones, so that is amazingly freeing! Mostly I wear comfy leggings and jumpers at home, but pull it all together with a smart coat, boots and bag when I go out. I do feel better when I have got properly dressed and eye make up definitely helps me look and feel more with it.

Maw I have that book, passed it onto my daughter, (oh how she/we laughed).

Showered, moisturiser, dressed and perfume every day. I have sorted out leggings, skinny jeans and tunic type tops for indoors.

However, I do put on lashings of mascara if I go out. Wearing a mask my eyes are the only things visible!!!!

I have intentions of buying some new leisure wear lose trousers and tops for hibernation days so that I do not frighten the delivery men

I try to have an excuse to look nice everyday. It makes me feel better especially when I catch myself in the mirror. It brings a little normality to my life.

I’ll try to be more ‘gay’ for him , that will make his life more interesting won’t it?
I have showered This morning and I’ve got clean clothes on, no bra, I’m going to brush my hair. My excuse is that today I am moving stuff around in the garage and shed. I’m not sure what my excuse has been since March though.

I’m moving stuff in the garage and shed because is more interesting than cleaning the house. After that I will probably take up the offer of a free photo book, which means there wont be time to clean the house today. Again.

I am glad it’s not just me! My hair has gone a patchy grey frizz I usually don’t now wear make up whereas pre covid I always did. and I desperately need new clothes and new specs but CBA! I think the lack of motivation is depression linked I know I am highly anxious!

Just reading the comments on this thread have cheered me up no end. Jeans and jumpers for me. Hair only washed once a week but in better condition as a result. Did actually put some lipstick on for a zoom coffee morning with friends yesterday which felt very glamorous after not wearing make up for so long.

I’m the same DorsetCupcake! Shower and perfume every morning is the baseline - everything else optional!

I find that I need to plan something, trivial or not, for each day or I feel dissatisfied with myself. Baking, dusting, kitchen or bathroom blitz, crafting, phone calls, finances admin, beauty treatment - you name it!

I suspect there will be more of this to come and finding your own way of keeping an even keel is very important- good luck everyone x

Sorry bollocking ON! Think I like saying that, very satisfying ?

Well I'm having Galaxy's bollocking along, great expression ?I used to wash and straighten my hair daily, so even though I always shower, hair can sometimes be every 2nd of even 3rd day. I love handbags and have loads but find myself using the same one since July (birthday present). Wear jeans every day unless out for lunch once a week and sometimes even then (my smart ones!). Using expensive perfume as air freshner before it goes off. CBA days happen sometimes, sign of the times. Roll with it!

I'm right there with you,well not literally that would be weird?.
My level of CBA varies. I havent worn any make up since March and I tend to wear the same rotation of clothes that are warm,comfortable and dont need ironing. I'm someone who loves make up and hand bags both of which I would have to blow the dust off.
I live on my own which has its disadvantages and advantages.
I shower every day and keep the house clean and tidy and eat a reasonable diet. I suppose from my point of view my baseline is I would not curl up in embarrassment if sudden visitor.
In all seriousness though there is a line at the moment that none of us want to slip under. The difference between relishing being free of social expectations and veering towards depression. All too easy as the days get darker and news grimmer.
I love crafting and have many projects I want to complete as gifts. My concentration is awful though and I sometimes have to really push myself to start/complete things. It seems to be a common issue. I find a change of room/project helps.
Leg shaving? Dont know about anyone else but I'm in my late 50s and hairy legs not a problem! I always moisturise my face and always wear perfume!

Phoenix I believe Gay Abandon is a good friend of Willy Nilly.

I too fit the CBA mode. What's worse is that after effectively 7 months of being told we must "stay at home" unless shopping for essentials, medical reasons or work, four months of which we have only been allowed to travel within 5 kilometers of home if we go out, I'm finding it a struggle to do anything other than sit and do nothing. I have no wish to go out and embrace our new "freedom" from restrictions. I'm hoping this will pass soon.

Well I am not sure I should be encouraging you in these habits.
Take a leaf out of an article aimed at young wives in the 50’s
Before your husband comes home
Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.
Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it

So remember that ribbon in your hair and all will be well .

I love this thread. I have found my people. ?

I hung on to my mother of the bride hat in case I ever got invited to Buckingham Paalace although I did throw the stilettos out to the charity shop (worn for about 3 hours).

The situation we’re in has made me realise just how few clothes I really need

Absolutely this. I bought a triple wardrobe when I moved house last year. Well that was a waste of money! I have racks of formal office suits, shirts, stiletto heel shoes and formal coats and jackets. Never worn since March and never will be again. Formal evening wear that I've spent £££ on; never need them again. The charity shops will be inundated.

Snap- so glad I’m not the only one. Decided to sort through my jewellery today ( yes, inventing jobs to avoid the ones which really need doing!) and it dawned on me that I hadn’t really worn anything apart from my wedding ring ( which I don’t remove) and sleeper earrings since March. Not even a watch! Had no cause to wear any bling or get dressed up...
As for clothes I’m having to force myself to put something decent on ( not that I’d wear anything indecent you understand?) rather than look scruffy.
Also realised have no cash at all in my purse... haven’t used any for ages so can’t remember when I ran out!
I was thinking about going to get some tomorrow but the weather forecast is for rain so I’ll probably stay home, again!

I believe I may have met Gay Abandon in about 1982 (see unplanned pregnancy thread)

Best suggestion I have is try for a while just sitting with your CBA, do as little as possible until you get boarded.

Give yourself a couple of weeks unless you feel yourself slipping into an even sadder place.

Sometimes sticking with those CBA times until our mojo returns works better than trying to force ourselves to "get on with ..."

I know it sounds counter productive but it can work.

If however if you think you are heading for depression that's a different situation and needs a different approach. Get help, but I'm sure you are very capable of doing that.

I think a lot of people are feeling like CBA. It's the weather, sorter days, C19 on the rise, being limited in how we can live life just now and no real end in sight.

I'm into a whole lot of CBA myself and many of my friends are also saying they CBA. Things like what's the point, nowhere to go, no one to see and nothing worth planning for. Christmas and family get togethers aren't likely to happen, plans have gone to the wall and so on.

I hope this is only a phase and it passes soon but I don't think you are on your own with the CBA but it's still an awful place to be.

Take Care of yourself whatever route you choose to take.

Again, many thanks.

I've decided that bras are the garment of the devil! I only wear one to actually give me some sort of bosom, being very lacking in that department (Asda "One size bigger")

Don't bother indoors, take it off with gay abandon once I get home. Not sure who Gay Abandon is, or why she is in my house, but we seem to divest ourselves of our cumbersome under garments at the same time!