Help!?

Does it matter. I spent today in shorts, baggy top and giant rabbit slippers.

You and me too phoenix.

Just go with it. It will,pass I’m sure and is quite possibly a Covid effect. Showered is good !!

Look at the positives phoenix

It does your skin good to go without makeup.
I'm wearing all my old clothes then I'll throw them out later.
I'm saving money not buying clothes or makeup.
My hair is shocking since I took the scissors to it the other day, but, looking on the bright side, I saved £45.

I really need new specs though.

Oh - my nails are better since I stopped wearing nail varnish

Oh thank you all! I feel so much better already!

Now, if I could just feel motivated to shave my legs, currently I might pass for a hobbit.

Phoenix I work from home and there are some days I get up, have a shower and then work all day in scruffy leggings and sweatshirt, no bra. I long since gave up on makeup, in fact, it's been so long since I used it, I'm not sure I could properly apply it now. I'm firmly in the CBA range.

You're clean, clothed, fed and comfortable? What's the problem?

The situation we’re in has made me realise just how few clothes I really need.

I think it's very freeing, I heard trinny or susannah bollocking on the other day about how no woman should wear joggers and I just felt really glad that that kind of thing wasnt taking up my headspace.

Think of the time you are saving not bothering, Phoenix.

galaxy
That's a great phrase.
I feel the same, by the way.

Now, if I could just feel motivated to shave my legs, currently I might pass for a hobbit.
Just wear trousers all the time.

So pleased to read this, thought it was just me!!

My hair is really awful, though.

I need tips on DIY from Nicola Sturgeon.

Woolly jumpers and cords - what more do I need? My legs aren't as hairy as they once were, but no-one can see them anyway. Just be yourself, phoenix.

Again, many thanks.

I've decided that bras are the garment of the devil! I only wear one to actually give me some sort of bosom, being very lacking in that department (Asda "One size bigger")

Don't bother indoors, take it off with gay abandon once I get home. Not sure who Gay Abandon is, or why she is in my house, but we seem to divest ourselves of our cumbersome under garments at the same time!

Best suggestion I have is try for a while just sitting with your CBA, do as little as possible until you get boarded.

Give yourself a couple of weeks unless you feel yourself slipping into an even sadder place.

Sometimes sticking with those CBA times until our mojo returns works better than trying to force ourselves to "get on with ..."

I know it sounds counter productive but it can work.

If however if you think you are heading for depression that's a different situation and needs a different approach. Get help, but I'm sure you are very capable of doing that.

I think a lot of people are feeling like CBA. It's the weather, sorter days, C19 on the rise, being limited in how we can live life just now and no real end in sight.

I'm into a whole lot of CBA myself and many of my friends are also saying they CBA. Things like what's the point, nowhere to go, no one to see and nothing worth planning for. Christmas and family get togethers aren't likely to happen, plans have gone to the wall and so on.

I hope this is only a phase and it passes soon but I don't think you are on your own with the CBA but it's still an awful place to be.

Take Care of yourself whatever route you choose to take.

I believe I may have met Gay Abandon in about 1982 (see unplanned pregnancy thread)

Snap- so glad I’m not the only one. Decided to sort through my jewellery today ( yes, inventing jobs to avoid the ones which really need doing!) and it dawned on me that I hadn’t really worn anything apart from my wedding ring ( which I don’t remove) and sleeper earrings since March. Not even a watch! Had no cause to wear any bling or get dressed up...
As for clothes I’m having to force myself to put something decent on ( not that I’d wear anything indecent you understand?) rather than look scruffy.
Also realised have no cash at all in my purse... haven’t used any for ages so can’t remember when I ran out!
I was thinking about going to get some tomorrow but the weather forecast is for rain so I’ll probably stay home, again!

The situation we’re in has made me realise just how few clothes I really need

Absolutely this. I bought a triple wardrobe when I moved house last year. Well that was a waste of money! I have racks of formal office suits, shirts, stiletto heel shoes and formal coats and jackets. Never worn since March and never will be again. Formal evening wear that I've spent £££ on; never need them again. The charity shops will be inundated.

I hung on to my mother of the bride hat in case I ever got invited to Buckingham Paalace although I did throw the stilettos out to the charity shop (worn for about 3 hours).

I love this thread. I have found my people. ?

Well I am not sure I should be encouraging you in these habits.
Take a leaf out of an article aimed at young wives in the 50’s
Before your husband comes home
Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.
Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it

So remember that ribbon in your hair and all will be well .