M0nica you said ‘none of us gets rid of anything without offering it around the family, furniture, clothes, household goods. When we set up home we were very happy to have everyone cast offs until we could afford to buy furniture of our own.‘
That’s great - if you offer things and people would like them, no problem. What I found unpleasant was the sneering implication that poor people shouldn’t be so picky as to want matching furniture or a flat-screen TV. Almost everything we had when the kids were growing up was second hand, but it was our choice of second hand, sometimes from junk or charity shops, very occasional hand-downs from relatives, and quite a few things we made or renovated ourselves. When you are very hard up, one of the very few ways you can hold on to dignity is by exercising choice.