Need Advice on how to deal with strange questions from Dad with dementia

Had this with my mother

She was convinced my husband was her boyfriend.

Often asked us to phone her Mum, ( long dead)

My father had died and she'd occasionally ask how he was.

We just went along with it all.

Best way I believe

Lots of good advice here!!!!! Not ?

Lots of good advice here?

Try distraction techniques like - ok, we can do that tomorrow, shall we gave a cup of tea now?

Talking point is a brilliant source of advice!

He is aware that your Mother is dead, but sometimes he isn’t, I’m afraid that’s rather way Dementia works.
As another poster has said, just go along with it and reassure him that you are working on it.
My Mum was constantly being told ( in hospital) that my dad had died some years earlier and I’d arrive to find her in floods of tears, I just asked the Nurses to please just tell her that he is at work because 5 minutes later she will have forgotten all about it.
But this is the way it’s going to be with your Dad, it’s such a shame and I feel for you both.

Both my aunt and uncle had vascular dementia.

Live in the world your father is living in. When he talks of 'resurrecting' your mother, just say something like 'I have spoken to the doctor but he cannot come today' or other such open ended answer.

Do the same with the death certificate. Tell him that the Coroner has it but will not give it to you until he has died, or another such answer.

I had this problem with an aunt and uncle I was responsible for. The questions were not quite as odd as the ones you have, but at one point my uncle was convinced that he had an appointment with his bank manager and kept worrying about missing it. I kept reassuring him, but after a month I just said to him, 'I have spoken to the Bank Manager and he said not to worry he will make a new appointment later on'. he accepted that immediately and never mentioned the matter again.

I found with my Mum, similar situation, I just agreed, often said I’d put it on my list of things to do/ have posted it off to be done or similar. Whatever it was, was then soon forgotten. It’s hard, but I learnt not to challenge, just agree.

Here is the link for Talking Point

www.alzheimers.org.uk/get-support/dementia-talking-point-our-online-community

Sounds like you need advice from a Mental Health Nurse?

Can you make up a Death Certificate on your PC? And ask him to help you fill it in? Or tell him you are working on it? It's extremely difficult when they 'get a bee in the bonnet'

A better place for your question would be on the Alzheimer's Society's Talking Point. Although their name is Alzheimer's they cover all types of Dementia and their membership is a mine of information about all aspects of the disease and ways to cope as a Carer.