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Sending a Hug to the Keyboard Warriors

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Notinthemanual Sat 14-Nov-20 08:20:26

That was quite a week for unpleasantness. I’ve wondered why some Grans are that way. Do they feel unheard IRL and vent their frustration here?

I saw an anecdote elsewhere recently… A mother had told her young son off for being cruel to his school friends. The child replied “They are dumb, and they need to know that.” I’ve known some really smart, self-reliant, resilient, well-dressed adults who never needed to make sure everyone knew that are others were less so. They had healthy self-esteem, compassion and were wise enough to know that not everyone’s reality is the same.

There are ways to disagree without being disagreeable. There is a preview box. And of course, the guideline to not say something that you wouldn’t say face to face. Perhaps those Grans are as forthright with people they barely know IRL. Perhaps that is why they are here.

I don’t take the good advice to just skip past their posts – I think I have some fascination with the horrible. But I have come to a new conclusion. IMO those Grans need a hug. I’m sending love and smiling; imagining them indignantly trying to bat it away with a fly swatter; my good wishes drifting through the mesh and settling on them.

It also occurred to me that they might just need to up their fluid and vegetable intake.

Thankfully, those Grans are a tiny minority. The rest of you lovely people brighten my day with your kindness, wisdom and good humour.

sodapop Sat 14-Nov-20 18:52:09

grin LauraNorder like the Atilla reference.

LauraNorder Sat 14-Nov-20 18:49:38

Lucca count your blessings, no one ever called me lovely lady and if I’ve been called Hun it could be Atilla related

LauraNorder Sat 14-Nov-20 18:47:07

Chewbacca Geoffrey the llama is not bandy.
Gwyneth someone upthread explained, apparently goady fuckery, an expression often used on mums net we were told. Learn something new every day.

Lucca Sat 14-Nov-20 18:41:03

Gwyneth

What is gfery not in list of abbreviations

???

I don’t mind the odd hug but I do hate to be called “hun”
Or “lovely lady “

Gwyneth Sat 14-Nov-20 18:32:25

What is gfery not in list of abbreviations

Chewbacca Sat 14-Nov-20 18:08:13

AGAA4

Chewbacca grin isn't Geoffrey one of the llamas at the Argy?

Dunno AGAA4 , but he's been banded about prolifically on here today! grin

LauraNorder Sat 14-Nov-20 17:50:24

Group hug anyone?

Now that’s g’fery

eazybee Sat 14-Nov-20 17:21:40

This reminds me of the village fete a few years ago.
An evangelical church group set up their stall next to the tombola and placed two of their members in front to offer hugs to passing strangers.confused I am not sure what their objective was, but we got an awful lot of terrified customers as they scuttled past to avoid the hug.

ps to Anniebach: bloody but unbowed!!

AGAA4 Sat 14-Nov-20 17:16:36

Chewbacca grin isn't Geoffrey one of the llamas at the Argy?

MaizieD Sat 14-Nov-20 16:50:56

Gwyneth

suziewoozie if there is so much stupidity, lies, false information and laziness on this site why are you wasting your time by being on it then?

Isn't that suziewoozie's affair, Gwyneth?

We're all supposed to be grownups here who can make their own choices..

(Don't anybody ever hug me, please)

Gwyneth Sat 14-Nov-20 16:44:51

suziewoozie if there is so much stupidity, lies, false information and laziness on this site why are you wasting your time by being on it then?

Stansgran Sat 14-Nov-20 16:24:17

Among the few benefits of lockdown is not being hugged by randoms.( others include no airports and not standing a reasonable distance in a queue and suddenly finding they are tossing back much longer hair than you thought possible and it going in your face) ( unless it’s Rapunzel let out from her tower)

Chewbacca Sat 14-Nov-20 16:05:37

GFery

Suziewoozie who is Geoffrey and why do you keep referring to him?

Maggiemaybe Sat 14-Nov-20 15:32:01

Lucca

Maggiemaybe..... so temped to offer you a
Ok I won’t.

grin

Callistemon Sat 14-Nov-20 15:31:27

Please God don’t anyone offer me a hug. grin

I'd be very careful, self-isolate for two weeks first and wear a mask.
?

suziewoozie Sat 14-Nov-20 15:31:23

phoenix

Hmm. Not quite sure how to take this, although of course, sending hugs to anyone is commendable.

No it’s not - it’s patronising GFery claptrap.

phoenix Sat 14-Nov-20 15:30:03

Hmm. Not quite sure how to take this, although of course, sending hugs to anyone is commendable.

kircubbin2000 Sat 14-Nov-20 15:26:55

Grans.

kircubbin2000 Sat 14-Nov-20 15:21:13

As usual I'm late to the party. I only look at a few of the active threads each day and seem to have missed something. No idea what this refers to or who the bad grand are!

Lucca Sat 14-Nov-20 14:53:27

Maggiemaybe..... so temped to offer you a
Ok I won’t.

25Avalon Sat 14-Nov-20 14:52:23

There are posters whose views I don’t agree with who post links supporting their views. I like to read those links as even if I disagree I find they are still very interesting and thought provoking.

rafichagran Sat 14-Nov-20 14:42:58

A very strange original post, I found it unnecessary, it was patronising and presumptuous about other posters. All this let's give them a hug is annoying.
The poster is either quite naive, or was it to cause trouble, because when I first read it I knew what the reaction would be, I have to say I just thought the poster came across as smug.

seamstress Sat 14-Nov-20 14:38:13

I've no idea what or who this thread is about but I think the OP has made some smug, virtue signalling remarks about unnamed people which seems to have backfired on him/herself. Talk about high horses. I suppose I will now get a hug for being unpleasant. I don't need one , thanks. Its not personal, its about the remarks.

Lucca Sat 14-Nov-20 14:21:47

Yes Galaxy, spot on.

suziewoozie Sat 14-Nov-20 14:11:36

Galaxy

And what I would say is there are posters who I disagree with completely on a number of issues and we have had some fairly 'to the point' debates but I dont think any less of those posters, I admire them putting forward their beliefs even if it on occasion ends up with us being a little snippy towards each other. I much prefer that to this below the radar stuff.

There’s a great deal of under the radar stuff mostly practiced by those who rush to say how nasty GN has become and how mean people are to be critical of lies and/or false or misleading information. They confuse ( deliberately or otherwise) being criticised or corrected with being bullied or abused. I’ve no patience at all with posters who through laziness, maliciousness or stupidity post false information on important issues like vaccines, lockdown rules, legal or financial issues. I’m not going to pussyfoot around a grown women who thinks it doesn’t matter what she posts is factually true or not and especially when said grown woman then bleats about a ‘certain poster’ being mean to her.

It’s one thing having an opinion on for example abortion ( to choose a nice uncontentious example) but quite another to make false claims about the number or abortions or the stage at which they are carried out.