You never hear of a bossy boy

My daughter’s not bossy - she’s just demonstrating her leadership skills.

No Alegrias I don't, she can still give as good as she gets and believe me she does have the upper hand in that relationship being the eldest. I just remember her as quite bolshie when she was under 5, she's not like that anymore, or not with us at least. He, my grandson is a lovely little boy and is always happy to read to me when I ask and play other games such as "Jenga" or "Cat Bingo" but has set idea along the lines of who plays with traditional male toys.

I'm going back well over 25 years as to the "kindergarten Valykeries" the woman who ran that nursery was quite unorthodox but the children were very happy with her.

I'm going to be very careful how I put this Terribull....

Do you think your GD's declining positivity could have something to do with her brother issuing orders about what you are all allowed to do, and being let off with that?

And if I thought women in charge of little girls were referring to them as valkyries because of their leadership skills, I'd be having a word.

When my boys were young and I took them to play groups, the types where the mums stayed and had a coffee. It seemed to me that never a week went by without some girl coming up to say "he can't do that, he's not allowed on that, he's not doing that right", at that time it got on my nerves so much so, I was inclined to say under my breath to all these assertive young female children "why don't you mind your own business" which generally took the wind out of their sails.

Before my younger son went into his school nursery, he went to a private one a couple of mornings a week that appeared to be run by two four year old girls. So adept were they at organising all the younger children the woman who ran it, and bearing in mind they were both blonde, referred to them as "the valkyries" all they seemed to be missing were a couple of horned helmets !

My granddaughter was of a very positive nature when she was a very little girl, but less so as she's got older. Her younger brother however, does like to issue his own edicts at times of a very sexist nature such as you can't play with cars because you're a girl. I don't take exception to his chauvinism because that lets me out having to scrabble around on the floor, and more importantly he thinks of me, mid 60s, as a girl So it's a bit of a win win situation as far as I'm concerned.

Patriarchal thinking is imbibed from a young age.
Men are natural born leaders.
Woman are bossy shrews.

Yes, "bossy girl" - "strong confident personality boy"

It wouldn't be so bad if 'bossy' didn't have negative connotations. Our 3 year old granddaughter is an organiser , like many little girls, elbows out she'll wade in to sort things out.
'Drama Queen' though does seem to have transgressed gender and apply equally
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Much a, not muca.

Ah, I think the title confused me! Yes, there is very muca double standard.

I once heard a guy at work describe me as ‘scary’. I told him he was easily frightened. Giving instructions and seeing they were carried out was part of my job.

Sorry not made myself clear maybe. We decided to stop using “bossy”!
It’s a bit like the double standard of “nagging”. If I asked exH to do something more than once I was nagging, if he did the same (and believe you me he was very controlling !) it was “just telling you for your own good”.

I'd like to introduce you to my 4 year old GS. The word "bossy" was invented with him in mind. And he's frequently told to stop being so bossy.

Absent,

Exactly

Boys are natural leaders, while assertive girls are bossy. Go figure.

No, some of my nephews are very bossy! However, I don’t think there’s a male equivalent of ‘proper little madam’ or ‘drama Queen’. It cracked me up hearing a little great niece refer to one of her male cousins as a drama queen.

Now you say it yes, I have a bossy 3yr old GrtGD, she likes to organise activities at nursery and even corrects the staff when they do something differently. We’d probably say a boy was ‘confident’ if he did the same, so wrong.

Never thought about it before but I think you're right Lucca.