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Do you still send Christmas Cards?

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vegansrock Wed 25-Nov-20 07:29:40

I remember my late mother in law writing what seemed like hundreds of Christmas cards to everyone she had ever known . She also loved receiving lots back. Given the financial and environmental concerns, it seems card sending is going out of fashion, particularly among younger people. How many cards do you send? Will it be fewer ( or more) this year? I quite like cards to decorate the house, but wonder if anyone would notice if I didn’t send any. My DH never sends any - so is there an age/ gender divide?

Lollin Wed 25-Nov-20 13:18:30

Yes (and easter and occasional card at some random point in the year). I think of the cost as the equivalent of going for a coffee with the friend or relative but the card as lasting longer

grandtanteJE65 Wed 25-Nov-20 13:00:25

I send a card to my sisters-in-law and their husbands and to two cousins who aren't on the Internet.

Cards here cost over £1 apiece and postage is expensive too.

For years now, I have send a Christmas e-mail to all my friends and family who use computers.

I simply cannot afford to send something like fifty cards.

Alioop Wed 25-Nov-20 12:57:19

Love giving and receiving cards, but a lot of family now gone and others don't seem to bother anymore. I got my stamps the other day and cards all sorted ready for the postbox or letter boxes. Stamps are a ridiculous price now so the dog and I go for walks dropping cards through the doors where I can.

NannyC2 Wed 25-Nov-20 12:55:26

Yes, I do. Not as many as when I was working. Postage is expensive now though. After the past year I think it more important to send cards to let people know we are thinking of them.

LovelyLady Wed 25-Nov-20 12:32:37

Yes of course I send Christmas Cards. Christmas is a time to celebrate and acknowledge our faith and tradition.
When some say that they don’t send them but give to charity instead, this makes me cringe. Charity, we traditionally have been taught, is a private matter that will not be made public or discussed. Of course we give to charity too! It’s not an either or. Remember the Widows mite.
Please send cards, it’s positive teaching for the young and comforting for the elderly who know they’re being remembered. Ok it’s not cheap but it gives such comfort. Some of the elderly can’t send cards but do appreciate receiving the distant hug.

Unigran4 Wed 25-Nov-20 12:29:12

I love sending Christmas cards (about 70) each with an individual personal letter (not a round robin - I hate those). And the envelopes are decorated with Christmas stickers, (one per envelope) and always the return address on the back.

I cannot stress enough the importance of a return address on the back of the envelope. Many a misunderstanding has been caused because the recipient has either died or moved and the new occupant has no way of letting you know - a card simply signed "with love from Gran" doesn't give anything away. At the very least, Royal Mail will return it to you with a sticker letting you know why it cannot be delivered (assuming the recipient puts it back in the post box marked "unknown" ) . Even if it means you no longer have contact, at least you know not to send to that address again.

I worked for Royal Mail for 20 years and one of my duties was to send piles of returned Christmas cards (and gifts) to the Dead Letter Office because there was no return address on the back. The DLO open these letters to try and find a return address inside, in which case they will reseal it and return it, but 90% of these letters are just loving Christmas cards, signed with good wishes and no other clue who they're from. These are destroyed. Here endeth the Royal Mail lecture, but if you have any questions, I would be happy to answer.

EllanVannin Wed 25-Nov-20 12:25:43

A good 30+ or so and receive pretty well the same because they're all over the place grin, mantlepiece, hearth, sideboard and blue-tacked at the back of the door.

Annaram1 Wed 25-Nov-20 12:23:26

PS I usually buy Christmas cards after Christmas when they are reduced.

Annaram1 Wed 25-Nov-20 12:21:49

When my husband was alive I used to send around 40 cards and we got about the same number back. Now I rarely send cards but I might send an ecard by Jackie Lawson to those whose email addresses I have. I saved all the cards I got last year and will put them up in my living room together with any new ones so it will look as if I am very popular.

Dearknees1 Wed 25-Nov-20 12:21:23

I don't see a charity donation as an alternative to Christmas cards. I'd prefer it if people simply said they weren't sending cards. I feel as if I'm being made to feel guilty for 'wasting' money that could go to charity when there are plenty of opportunities to donate. Personally I love cards. When I see them on display I feel remembered and surrounded by love. I hope other people feel the same way so I keep on sending them.

Aepgirl Wed 25-Nov-20 12:21:07

lot, not kot.

Aepgirl Wed 25-Nov-20 12:20:48

Yes, I send Christmas cards. Every year I ‘prune’ my list a little, and then find myself adding someone who has meant a kot to me over the year. However, it was a shock to find that a 2nd class stamp is now 65p!

sodapop Wed 25-Nov-20 12:19:27

You are not bringing anyone down Lucca we are just sympathetic to you feeling sad at this time of year. If it helps then that's what GN is good at.
Hope you feel better as the day goes on.

KathrynP Wed 25-Nov-20 12:12:46

I thought that this year I’d get to do my cards early with lockdown ..... no. Still not done! Where does the time go!

RosesAreRed21 Wed 25-Nov-20 11:59:20

Yes I still send lots of Christmas cards although I have tried cutting down as the price of postage is a lot. I love getting cards through the post

aonk Wed 25-Nov-20 11:57:10

Yes I send cards. I bought some charity ones before the shops closed. Plenty of supermarkets sell them too and also M and S so you can buy on line if you wish. There are people who I’m only in touch with via the annual Christmas card. I keep the ones I receive for a couple of weeks and they’re part of my decorations. I would be so sad to see this tradition die out. Perhaps it won’t as I know my GC love exchanging cards with their friends.

BBbevan Wed 25-Nov-20 11:56:46

Yes we send them. Just got cards, address book etc all ready. Start tomorrow.

songstress60 Wed 25-Nov-20 11:48:24

This is the worst time of year for me. Last Christmas I was burgled, and my dad died 3 days before Christmas in 2013, but I always send out cards because I have relatives all over the place and it's nice to receive them.

Lilyflower Wed 25-Nov-20 11:33:46

Sending cards makes Christmas for me. I always choose a classical, usually Renaissance, painting or a variety thereof and printed on a decent weight card. I add my Christmas newsletter (hopefully chatty rather than boastful) and address with proper ink from a proper pen.

I ensure my handwriting is at its best and get great pleasure thinking about the people to whom I am sending the cards. I love writing the addresses as English place names are fantastic.

I also love the month running up to Christmas when fat, crisp, lovely white, red, gold and silver envelopes burst through my door. This year the deliveries are going to be even more eagerly awaited.

TonysBride Wed 25-Nov-20 11:30:57

I love sending Christmas Cards. I used to handmake all my cards (including the Christmas Cards) for years. The Christmas ones were my favourite because I could go mad with the glitter ha ha. Unfortunately I have had to stop making cards due to my health, but I still make sure I send them. I enjoy sending them and although I probably send a few more than I get back, that is fine. Quite a few of my friends now make a donation to a charity rather than send cards, but I'm sorry, Christmas Cards it is for me and I think it always will be

lovebeigecardigans1955 Wed 25-Nov-20 11:30:18

I still send cards, some homemade to those who appreciate them, maybe about 25 in all which is manageable. I don't make or write them all at once.

Gwenisgreat1 Wed 25-Nov-20 11:27:37

Yes, I send Xmas cards, fewer possibly because fewer friends remain with us. I always buy them from a charity shop, where they support the charity and are also made from recycled paper, so hopefully greener

4allweknow Wed 25-Nov-20 11:27:05

Still send cards. With postage costs though trying to whittle down list. For some I will send e-cards not quite the same as a tactile card but still a way of letting folk know I am thinking of them.

Caro57 Wed 25-Nov-20 11:23:18

Sending about 30 - the rest will be by email and the money I save (on cards and postage) will donated to a charity - this year probably Shelter or similar

Bijou Wed 25-Nov-20 11:22:37

I send and receive less cards each year. My friends were all older than me and have practically all passed away. Some people only get in touch at Christmas and birthdays and it is nice to hear from them.