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Feeling ill (in normal times) is no excuse for not going to school

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Humbertbear Sat 28-Nov-20 09:40:09

Giles Coren is writing in The Times this morning about how he was never allowed to have a day off school. His mother would dose him up with ibroprufen and send him off as usual. He went to school the day after he broke his arm. In my house the rule was very much ‘if you can get out of bed you go to school’. On one occasion my DDs school rang me up at work and the gym teacher said ‘your daughter has the flu. Is it alright if I take her home and put her to bed?’ My DS knew the rules and once got up and put on his uniform before fainting.
My daughter says her upbringing has instilled in her an attitude about not taking duvet days from work.

sodapop Sat 28-Nov-20 17:16:52

I was sent to school come what may, only allowed to stay at home if there were visible signs of illness e.g. measles, chickenpox etc.

Pantglas2 Sat 28-Nov-20 17:23:29

Another “if you’re not in school you’d better be in bed” child here which never bothered me as I loved school and never saw the attraction of moping about the house - no daytime tv in those days!

Callistemon Sat 28-Nov-20 17:27:28

I have my father's school leaving medal which is inscribed:
'Never Absent, Never Late'

Jayt Sat 28-Nov-20 17:32:31

You have to be careful with children. I was often sceptical about whether or not my children were ill but on one day in particular I was so glad I’d listened and acted on the sore side story. My daughter had surgery to have her appendix removed later that morning.

Delila Sat 28-Nov-20 18:08:59

My mother used to threaten us with “the school board man”?! I imagined a monster wearing a board with the word “school” on it.
Was there really such a person?

GagaJo Sat 28-Nov-20 18:32:58

A dodgy school I only briefly worked at (got out as soon as I could) had such a low attendance rate, once the students were through the door, were not allowed to leave unless at death's door. If they felt suck, they were sent back to class with a sick bag. TWO students threw up in the classroom in my very brief time there. Both into their bags thankfully.

GagaJo Sat 28-Nov-20 18:33:51

Not bl**dy 'suck'. Sick!

trisher Sat 28-Nov-20 18:56:45

If I was ill I was kept at home, not usually in bed but on the settee with a blanket and a hottie. The living room was the warmest place-coal fire. There was no daytime TV anyway. I was allowed to read but had to rest as well. My grandmother always said "She'll sleep herself better."
Parents who sent their sick child to school really annoyed me. I've had children throw up all over my desk. Listened as they were wracked with coughing and were obviously running a temperature and tried to comfort them when they cried. They should have been at home.

rosecarmel Sat 28-Nov-20 20:10:36

I attended a parochial school where the nuns told the girls to hold out their pleated skirts in front of them and puke into the skirt instead of onto the floor!

Marydoll Sat 28-Nov-20 20:26:12

I've seen my fair share of children vomitting in my classroom and it's not very pleasant! If it was a winter vomitting bug, it would spread around the class in days.
We once had to have the school deep cleaned over a weekend, it was so bad.

I worked in an area of high deprivation and often the child's parent was working and couldn't afford to lose wages by staying off work to look after the child, so they were sent to school, regardless of how ill they were.
If we did phone, the parent would ask us to keep the child until hometime.

We once had a parent send a child to school, suffering from German measles, because it was "only a rash". We had two pregnant teachers in the school, highly irresponsible of the parent.

V3ra Sat 28-Nov-20 20:42:35

My daughter was once sick on the floor at the National Space Centre in Leicester on a junior school trip.

"I told the teacher it was your fault Mummy, I told him you made me eat liver for tea last night even though you know I don't like it."

She'd been perfectly well when she left for school that morning...

lemongrove Sat 28-Nov-20 20:48:37

trisher

If I was ill I was kept at home, not usually in bed but on the settee with a blanket and a hottie. The living room was the warmest place-coal fire. There was no daytime TV anyway. I was allowed to read but had to rest as well. My grandmother always said "She'll sleep herself better."
Parents who sent their sick child to school really annoyed me. I've had children throw up all over my desk. Listened as they were wracked with coughing and were obviously running a temperature and tried to comfort them when they cried. They should have been at home.

Similar story to me trisher
Children who are sick should never be packed off to school, it’s cruel behaviour.
Good parenting is knowing when your children are really unwell, and being able to tell if they don’t want a double maths or PE day, so are trying to pull a fast one.
My mother had to work, but never sent us to school if we were poorly in any way.

Callistemon Sat 28-Nov-20 20:59:12

I was kept at home in bed.
If the doctor was called, I had to get out of bed, sit on a chair, wrapped in a blanket, whilst mother changed the sheets before the doctor came.
I remember him producing some huge M&B tablets for me from his doctor's bag.

Chewbacca Sat 28-Nov-20 21:05:27

DIL works in a children's nursery and often tells me of tiny little children who are brought in, early in the morning, looking clearly unwell. One such toddler was just 3 years old and he didn't look, or seem, very well at all, but his mother made it clear that she was anxious to get away and leave him as she had to go to work. As anticipated, the little lad was violently sick, and had diarrhoea, within the first hour. A hasty call was made to both of his parents to ask them to come and collect him asap but it was almost home time before his father arrived. He was informed that the boy would have to be clear of sickness and diarrhoea for 72 hours before he could come back but the next morning, the little boy was brought back to nursery as though nothing happened the day before. His mum wasn't at all happy that, for the well being of all the other children, she'd couldn't leave him.