How often do your adult children call?

My two daughter call at least once a day and message and WhatsApp. I think it’s because I called my mom every day so it’s a family thing. However if they don’t call I panic and think there is a problem and have to call them

DS FaceTime’s us about once. Month.
DD calls when she either wants something or wants to know the answer to something. Both of which now happen once in a blue moon as she’s learned to stand on her own two feet.

SheilsM

Interesting post. My only child, a son, phoned me couple times a week though in beginning of the shock lockdown every day. What hurts is my DIL who has never phoned me for a year when in normal times I used to do so much to help her and their two children. Please can someone help me with all the shortened names for members of the family - just can’t figure them out. Only one I’ve got is DIL

Take a look at the 'Acronyms' tag at the top of the page. They're not all there, but a good few are.

How frequently my children call is not something that I keep track of but I would say both Son and Daughter call at least a couple of times a week.
Son calls around to mine maybe a couple of times a week as quite a lot of his ‘stuff’ is still here, mainly paperwork, a lot of which is still delivered here and one of his vintage cars in my garage and his caravan parked on my drive. Luckily, it has room for several cars, so I don’t complain.
Daughter and family live literally across the road, so I tend to wander over whenever I feel like it.
All my family have a key to my house, including Grandchildren and I have keys for my Daughter's house but not my Sons.
No one needs to call if they are coming round, just let themselves in, Son usually rummages in fridge before saying hello.

Like kittylester we have a variety of WhatsApp groups so there is daily text/photo/video chat on there.

Number 1 lives in NZ and she Facetimes regularly.
Number 2 calls her dad and me individually several times a week.
Number 3 Facetimes us about 3 times a week, usually from the bathroom while his daughter is in the bath.
Number 4 FaceTimes almost every day. He lives, (and due to the pandemic currently also works) alone in a very isolated hamlet.

Our Number 2 is also our business advisor so we’re currently speaking much more often than is usual.

I remember when my sister got married, being shocked to discover her husband spoke to his mum every day - and now I am that mum!

ALl live locally, text on WhatsApp generally, check in as we call it once week depending on how busy

Hardly ever but we are in toudc daily with Whatsapp and the like

DD every day
DS probably once every three months.

My DS lives in Ireland...calls approx once every 6 weeks...I used to get hurt but now I figure if he isn’t ringing then he’s happy and getting on fine.....on the other hand, I ring my parents every single day at least once a day, but then they are very elderly...

i have one son, he has always been good at phoning even when he suddemly went from the TA to serving for 6 months in iraq years ago, now he leaves it up to my daughter in law, i am on facebook every day so we message and she puts up pics and videos of the children, when i had cancer 2 years ago he called every day and even called the hospital in case i was not telling him everything...lol

Interesting post. My only child, a son, phoned me couple times a week though in beginning of the shock lockdown every day. What hurts is my DIL who has never phoned me for a year when in normal times I used to do so much to help her and their two children. Please can someone help me with all the shortened names for members of the family - just can’t figure them out. Only one I’ve got is DIL

Thank you all!
It’s amazing how different our AC are.
I don’t think frequency is important, it’s just good families are in touch.
One or two sad stories, in these cases it’s always important to keep the door open.

One DD used to call only to out babysitting. Now it is never!

Eldest Daughter every day on video call, text or messenger.
Youngest (22) still lives with me

I have one daughter and we are in contact on a weekly basis as a minimum. No 1 son is a huffy little git and has fallen out with me and I have no idea what for, I guess it's my turn. He hasn't spoken to number 2 son for 10 years and No 2 doesn't know why. He's always been huffy even as a baby. No 2 son and I are in weekly contact as a minimum and No 3 son calls me intermittently when it suits or when he needs a hand with a bail out - much less often these days than it used to be. I think the important thing is they know I'm here for them and, if the chips were down they would be there for me. We're all different.

We have lots of WhatsApping to and fro in normal times, but just the occasional call, nearly always "of purpose". We're lucky, we live close enough to all our DC to see them regularly, though obviously not so much right now. We've added weekly family Zoom quizzes to the mix since last March, and they've been ringing us every couple of weeks or so.

DD messages several times a day, lives within walking distance.
DS rarely but I do speak/hear from our DIL most days.

DD is not big on phone calls, so she rarely ring us unless it’s that lovely expression that Baggs used - “a phone call of purpose”. We have a family Whatsapp group, and they will FaceTime us occasionally. DS rings or FaceTimes every week and is never lost for conversation! Personally, I don’t care for FaceTime; I find it rather trying, but it’s the only chance I get to actually see him now. I haven’t seen him in the flesh for nearly a year, so technology is the glue that is holding us together these days, is it not?

DS1 and his son, maybe once a month. DS2 rarely...when he or his offspring want something, eg. birthday gifts and the like. I wish it were more often, but hey ho. Maybe if either DH or I were alone, they would be in touch more. Who knows?

One son every day and the other when he remembers - roughly every fortnight. Don't know which I prefer. I think probably once a week from each would suit me fine but that's not going to happen.

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I speak to my daughter in Australia once a week.

My son, who lives a few minutes walk away, I rarely phone him, he rings maybe once every two or three weeks. Before Covid, we saw quite a lot of him and the GC, but of course very little the last year.

We have frequent calls, WhatsApp messages from 3 sons, DS1 at least every other day to arrange drop off and pick up times, as I look after DGS three days a week while both parents work.
DS2 and DS3 ring or message for a catch up every 2/3 days.
When we are abroad, which we used to be alot pre Covid, we are in regular contact also, especially if they need some technical advice from DH, or health or cookery advice from myself!

Well since I live alone calls and messages from friends and family very important. Literally helping me stay connected. My youngest son lives in London. He maybe calls every 2/3 weeks or vice versa. Messenger information also. My only daughter has been furloughed a year now and so her life has been less frantic. Through the lockdown we have been in contact most days in some form. They gave me a Portal last year and that has been great for chats and seeing my 2 grandchildren. It will change drastically when she has to work again! My eldest son lives in same town and lots of face to face contact there. I have one son I have been estranged from for 7 years. Finally my second youngest son - well you wait a while for him to phone and usually when he wants a favour! The have a very busy household with 5 and 3 year old. DIL just about ready to start her job and my son with his own business. We use Messenger quite a bit.

In answer to the OP, basically never. That's not never never, just hardly ever. Phones as phones, for me, are for conversations of purpose (and you can use text and Whatsapp for many of those nowadays), not for chat.

Whatsapp's also good for group chats with all one's offspring at once but in their own time, so to speak.