How often do your adult children call?

I was just about to add another comment when DD phoned. I also have the problem TerriBull has of her ringing at the most inconvenient times. If I want to do something without being disturbed I ring DD first, but usually they ring me rather than me ring them. DS seems to pick better times and always says 'Is it a good time?' when I answer, which is nice.

Every couple of weeks on average, or sooner if there's a specific reason to call.

Each family to its own ways. I was brought up to be independent and practised this with mine.
I would worry if there was constant contact especially multiple times in a day.
It works for us we feel no less for each other.

No regular pattern here. Son in Asia regularly through WhatsApp and messenger. Daughter lives locally but loads every day, messages and chat, usually pics of her gorgeous dog. Youngest son staying with us due to covid. Normally hes in London. Chat when we need to and message as/when. Sometimes every couple of days. Sometimes not for a week or more. Ex DIL/ grandsons in Asia at least once a week. Depends what we are all up to. I’m not keen on video calls either, prefer messenger and WA. Couldnt bear the regular “ courtesy call” approach. Want them all to to go off, live their lives and chat when actually have something to say. They all know we are here for them if needed and vice versa. Seems to suit us all fine

Two to three times a week, often just as we're about to sit down to eat plus fairly frequent WhatsApp texts. They ring more often than we ring them, but weekends, if it's coming up to meal times and I'm anticipating a phone call, I ring instead.

DD phones most days, sometimes twice. It has been slightly more during lockdown as I have now retired so if she goes in to work she will phone during both directions as she walks. Son phones once a week on average. He lives abroad and has a young son so keeps me informed about my grandson's milestones so uses video calls. Before he was married his calls were less frequent whereas DD has always rung daily, usually while walking home from work. DS used to express surprise at the frequency of DD's calls!

I am staying with one AC so I speak to her every day, middle DD is every few days and eldest is daily

Eldest daughter only comes on Christmas day. She lives 100 miles away and she is very busy have not seen her since Christmas 2019 you get one have not had any contact with for 11 yrs blame me for every thing that gone wrong in her life I suppose its better than blaming herself

With 3 sons - normally when they want something

Daughters 1 and 2 FaceTime just about every day, daughters 3,4,5 in regular contact by WhatsApp and actually speak every few weeks, son 1 - speak every month/six weeks. Quite happy with it all really I think I’m lucky ☺️

Lots of whatsApping in my family, every day really.
Messages, photos, jokes.

Son whenever he feels like it, or "has a feeling something is wrong" - he and I have a private network, so we know when the other needs us. Generally speaking, I hear from him, or get in touch once a month or so.

Foster-daughter texts frequently and phones more often than our son, but never really tells us her personal news.

Two nieces and nephew: when they want something, so contact has been minimal since my sister died. Sad, but I am not prepared to be the aunt /great-aunt who gives presents she cannot afford and gets nothing - not even a birthday text message in return.

Both sons call me pretty much daily.

D1 has some mental health issues ATM so is in contact a lot, often daily, sometimes twice daily by phone. D2 always calls at least weekly for chats but will whatsapp if she needs something in particular. I tend to let them contact me but if I haven't heard from them or I'm in need of a chat, I'll just give them a call. D2 is a source of kindness and support and is always the first person I would go to if I was upset or worried, not that I abuse that in any way and I know I help her too.

FaceTime most days with my DDS, DGD 3 times a week. We WhatsApp a lot during the day!
I ring my parents twice a day and I got my husband to ring his mum daily.
We love talking!!!!

I hear from DS and DD at least once a week and saw DD and family weekly, sometimes more, before Covid came along. I hope to resume this once the Covid threat has receded.

If they don’t get in touch I will if only by text. While my cousin is ‘forbidden’ by her husband to get in touch with her daughter unless the daughter calls first! It makes for a lot of unnecessary stress and unhappiness.

I live with my daughter and her family so only occasional texts or phone calls. DS1 phones about 3 times a week and I’m his childcare provider so see him at pickups . DS2 as OP , when he wants something

Two sons, elder one not 'spoken' in about 4yrs, nor did we text until a couple of months ago when he suddenly texted about something his nan had done (which neither of us approve of) and he's texted twice since then.

Younger son used to call every day (much closer relationship) but since the start of covid he's been shut up indoors with his partner and only set for outside maybe 5 or 6 times all year so doesn't really have a lot to say but he's still called at least once a week, if only to moan about how much his partner is getting on his nerves!

This past 10 days he's been back on daily calls but we've been discussing some job interviews he's been doing on zoom and I actually saw him yesterday because he had a f2f interview and rather than messing about with public transport I usually drive him because they're normally in different parts of the country. Now waiting to hear from him as they said they'd let him know today whether the job was his (fingers crossed).

Only have the one DD but usually only hear when she wants something, usually money!! She doesn't live very far from me but as she works and I live alone and therefore self isolate, we are not in a bubble. I don't let it worry me as I have got used to it now!

Son still lives at home.
Daughter has lived in several places including abroad. She rarely phoned when living away, unless to ask something or to have a rant ?
She is now back living locally and we are in her childcare bubble so see her regularly but she calls more now than she did when living away.

my daughter at least twice a dayshe calls for a long blether and msg's me during the day.We havent seen her for exactly a year because she has multiple health problems and we dont want to take any risk of carrying covid to her .

We see our son most days ,he'll visit on the drive with his one year old and his 11 year old on the days she stays with him.I really appreciate seeing them as I had his eldest living with us for half the week from a year old until covid .He also sends me videos of what they get up to at home or on their walks and milestone events like the wee ones fist steps .

I facetime once a week with DD.DS only when he remembers.

Not often enough! But then I’d have them back at home if I could. They’re only 30 and 33.

My daughters and I have a WhatsApp group and message every day. DD1 rings me 2/3 times a week for a very long chat. DD2 rings every couple of weeks. We Zoom occasionally with all the granddaughters, everyone talking at once, lovely, as we haven't seen each other for over 6 months.