faringdon59 There seem to be conflicting reports re the body language depending on which 'side' is asking the questions. I think it's true that a huge amount of what we communicate is non verbal, however I also believe that body language is specific to the person. For instance you twiddled your ring when you had doubts about your marriage, someone else might twiddle their hair. But I see the symbolism. When engaging in stressful conversations DH lines things up exactly, like coasters and cups etc. I've even known him unconsciously line up people's ornaments! He has no awareness he's doing it at the time, but it's his 'thing' when he's nervous.
Having said that, it's impossible to be certain that H's body language pointed to the things you suggest because 'we' would need to be able to observe his stress responses over time to have any certainty, but it was definitely uncomfortable viewing. One thing I think is clear is that he's not a happy man anymore and the 'blame' is ricocheting.
