One upmanship

Oh for goodness sake. Whilst there may be the odd person who likes to think they are better than others, mostly it is just a difference of ideas , preference or taste. Boring world if we were all the same.

Oh for an edit button.....

I once had
Handed to me......

Ooohh, Ellianne ?

I think sometimes it is terminology.
I once gphad my... ahem...bum handed t9 me when * referred to the back kitchen and boot room.
No, i dont have a huge pile in the country, but with dogs, converted a garage into a boot room, complete with dog cleaning facilities.
The back kitchen is the utility room ? I have always known it as the back kitchen, but am apparantly a major snob to refer to it as such?

I've just had my Fortnum's delivery. Rare breed pork and leek sausages. Is that what the OP meant?

Oldwoman70

When the butler brought me my mid morning coffee, I was sitting in the orangery looking out at the pool, he assured me that I have never indulged in oneupmanship

Just saw your lovely post after I finished instructing my household staff.
Now I must check how my gilt-edged investments are getting on.

Callistemon, I’m going to one-up your clever dog with a clever cat who used to do the same. And at the risk of fellow cat-women shouting me down, I think a clever cat is rarer than a clever dog.

Callistemon I hope you're going over to check on it next week so it's up to my usual standard!

Ellianne how did you get hold of that photo of one of my holiday homes?

I don’t mind that ! I do mind not knowing who he was.....I’m very nosy/nosey.

Me too!!

Cherry, my favourite car ever was a Ka. I had it for 10 years, and only had to give it up due to terminal rust. It was great if I ever went the wrong way as it could turn on a sixpence!

Urmstongran made a good point about the sacrifices they’d made to have a holiday home, and while many of us can make choices like that, some can only afford a very modest lifestyle however careful they are financially. Without knowing someone’s whole background it’s impossible to say and certainly not our place to judge.

I just enjoy the glimpses we get on GN into the lives of other folk, the differences of opinion, different values, the sense of fun in many in spite of all that is going on at the moment. I’ve never sensed any overt oneupmanship in all this.

I’m off to the stables where I hope the groom has my Arab mare ready for my afternoon hack.

Casdon

Oh no, I responded to the thread about animals this morning and said my dog can tell the time (he can!) was that one upmanship? (Oneupdogship?)

We had a dog that could hear DH's car from a mile away; he'd go and wait by the door although DH rarely got home at the same time.
The dog could also talk - yes, truly, some words.

Now, wasn't that the cleverest dog in the world?

Will I be caught out if I post this and say I've just been for a nice swim in my pool?

Clue .... the owner lied she'd actually got married, when she hadn't.

Seems showing off doesn't pay!

Is it that important what other people on gn have or don't have?
A detached house, a one bedroom flat, an old Ferrari or an old ford Ka? A detached house in one area of the UK can have the same £s value as a one bedroom flat in another part. Some people have inherited, some people haven't. Some people have divorced and had a good settlement and others have lost everything. Some people have had good earnings in their lifetime, others have not.
What's important?

I haven't seen any one-upmanship on gn really. Gn has a mix of people posting, each poster is different, each poster has their own background, their own story to tell. Some people reveal a lot about themselves, background, what it's like to live where they do etc, etc, etc. Other posters do not. We only know about people's homes or possessions because they reveal it, are they boasting or just posting about themselves and their family? I'm inclined to believe it's the latter. Should people not reveal anything about themselves, where they live etc?
What is gn for? Should people be banned for telling us about the easter eggs they've bought?

Oooh I suspect inside knowledge.....

Ellianne

Football manager?

In reply to Lucca.

Football manager?

Cornishpasty
We bought a house in Cornwall in order to demolish and rebuild in 2019. Due to Covid planning has taken ages. Anyway, my son found a photo taken from the garden as a plot for sale including the field beyond our boundary !!
Soon sorted but did involve a few sleepless nights at the time.
Never ceases to amaze me how dishonest some people can be.

annsixty

Oh I agree.
I posted in the hope she would be forthcoming.?

What do you reckon ? Actor ? Rock star ? Politician ?great train robber ?

I wonder if RL we all know someone who appears to boast ! I know a lady who has a kind heart but still manages to give the impression she’s been everywhere, seen every exhibition, read every book, can cook everything and her children and grandchildren are amazing, she’s run off her feet having them all to stay and do creative things with them (pre Covid). Sorry that turned into a bit of a rant, but being around people like her doesn’t help my tendency to feel inferior !
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Oh I agree.
I posted in the hope she would be forthcoming.?

annsixty

Someone said a few days ago that although she had a very quiet wedding ,the media were there and they got free champagne at the hotel as her husband was recognised.
Now that truly is oneupmanship.
She actually is a regular and genuine poster.

I don’t mind that ! I do mind not knowing who he was.....I’m very nosy/nosey.

I've never noticed oneupmanship on here. If that is the case, I would be afraid to post anything in case I was being judged.
I don't believe people are intentionally boasting.

Ellianne

Lucca there have been a few interesting car threads started by people asking about makes to buy. Inevitably it went from minis to Range Rovers. That's why mine got mentioned. Not that I ever paid for it outright! Some of us confessed to being speed junkies

Ah. Ive never seen those, hence my query.

Oh no, I responded to the thread about animals this morning and said my dog can tell the time (he can!) was that one upmanship? (Oneupdogship?)

Maggiemaybe