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Sallywally1 Tue 23-Mar-21 17:20:43

Who does it in your house? I do most of ours partly because I am better at it. (Talk about a poisoned challis). I also do the food shopping. other half is retired and I work 21 hours. He has to be quite closely supervised when he does cook.

If you do it, do you mind?

Moggycuddler Wed 24-Mar-21 11:22:38

I do, without exception. Neither DH nor daughter who lives with us can cook. The only time they go near the cooker is if I'm actually so ill in bed that I can't do it at all. Then between them they produce beans on toast (usually not hot enough) and act as if they've prepared a Cordon Bleu meal, bless their hearts. smile

rowanflower0 Wed 24-Mar-21 11:26:16

since the stroke, I only have full use of one hand, so he peels veg, chops onions etc. but I am the better cook.

Supergran1946 Wed 24-Mar-21 11:28:30

53 years of cooking is starting to become a bit of a drag ! Just recently my husband has started to cook the odd meal, and it is a real treat for me, and he is getting to become very good at it ! I have also started to buy the odd ready meal, but why do I feel guilty about it ?

Pudding123 Wed 24-Mar-21 11:32:12

I have been married almost 40 years and have done 90% of the cooking this time last year I lost my taste and smell but still did the cooking and to be honest from it being my hobby I completely lost interest and my meals were not the best .Two weeks ago DH criticized my efforts for the 3 rd time in a week ,I had a bit of a meltdown and since then he has cooked all the meals ...who knew he could cook ..all meals served nice and hot I still can't taste much but it is such a relief not to have to do it any longer ,not sure how long it will continue but so far so good.and he is enjoying it.

Beanie654321 Wed 24-Mar-21 11:38:04

I have always done every thing in the house and recently retired from 40 years as a full time nursing sister. My husband is still working and has recently told me I clean too much. Since retiring I cook every thing from scratch, including bread, biscuits and cakes. I plan every meal a week in advance and shop accordingly. Must admit we have very little food waste and our food bills have nearly halved. If hubby wants fish fingers it's fresh fish which I crumb using fresh crumbs and away to go. Got to admit I'm enjoying having the time.

Kartush Wed 24-Mar-21 11:46:28

My husband cooks his own meals and I cook mine as we eat different things, i will sometimes share his vegetables if hes steaming or stirfrying them. I will help him chop his veg if he is doing them but apart from putting stuff in the microwave i cant say i cook anymore

Foxglove77 Wed 24-Mar-21 11:48:47

My OH is happy to cook. At the moment he is dieting and has cut out carbs. He stir fries one meal a day with chicken or lean mince, mushrooms, peppers or whatever veg there is and seasoning. Hes lost over a stone in weight which is great. I don't like that sort of meal so prepare myself something. I haven't lost any weight!

wetflannel Wed 24-Mar-21 11:55:38

I do the majority and I like to get it all prepped in the morning. Nothing worse than getting to 5pm and thinking what we are having. Shopping is mostly online due to Covid, and we both do the order.

Riggie Wed 24-Mar-21 12:00:53

It was me, but since he has been working from home, husband has taken over. I think its a chance for him to switch kff from work - his long commute bybtrain used to do that. I have become chief bottle washer and boy does he make a mess!! I do make soups and sometimes bake. Hes a good cook, but sometimes I want to do something my way, or see a new recipe I want to try, by which I mean I would like to cook. If he does it he'll fiddle with it so that what I get, however nice it is, won't be the dish I wanted.

I know that sound ungrateful, and I do like the help, but just sometimes I wish he would find the urge to do some cleaning instead!!

Jennyluck Wed 24-Mar-21 12:02:08

Oh, it’s 100% me, preparing, cooking and washing up, loading the dishwasher. And I’m fed up with it. OH has dementia, so he’s not up to it. My daughter started doing lots of cooking, but seems to have got fed up with it. I have been shielding since Xmas, so I have had the time. But I’m so bored with it. Friday night is chip shop tea, oh heaven ??

Craftycat Wed 24-Mar-21 12:05:52

I love cooking & baking so I keep it all to myself. he is not retired yet so quite easy. I doubt he would want to anyway.

Direne3 Wed 24-Mar-21 12:07:35

greenlady102 "I do it all because the dog and the tortoises can't cook". [grin}

Direne3 Wed 24-Mar-21 12:08:38

grin

BusterTank Wed 24-Mar-21 12:09:42

I do the shopping and the cooking . The washing up and clearing up afterwards . I do all the house work and the gardening . I may grumble now and then but if my family didn't need me , there would be no use for me . Plus I like my own cooking and my own tea and coffee .

Jillybird Wed 24-Mar-21 12:10:23

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Davida1968 Wed 24-Mar-21 12:13:55

DH does virtually all of the cooking, because he loves it. (I do the clearing-up!) DH also cleans the bathrooms, does the vacuuming/mopping, the ironing (there isn't much of this) and some dusting. I take charge of cleaning the kitchen, including the appliances (oven, washing-machine, etc.) and we clean the fridge-freezer together. These tasks aren't fixed in stone: it's simply a partnership and we just get on with what needs doing. Though I have to admit that I am getting slovenly since the pandemic began - some surfaces really need dusting, now....

Sheilasue Wed 24-Mar-21 12:22:56

. Me but have been ordering a few Wiltshire meals and puds
Which are very nice. My husband doesn’t eat curry, spag Bol
He’s a veg and meat guy. I couldn’t be bothered to cook the things I like for one, so I look forward to a nice meal someone else cooked.

grandtanteJE65 Wed 24-Mar-21 13:01:39

I have done it all, since DH broke his collar bone two years ago!

He used to love cooking, so I am trying to get him to start doing some of it again.

LuckyFour Wed 24-Mar-21 13:38:41

I do all the food shopping and cooking of all meals. This is no different from normal, non Covid, times. Once in a while he may offer to cook but I have to tell him what to cook and how to cook it etc. It's a very rare occurrence.

4xGranny Wed 24-Mar-21 13:57:18

I cook our main meal but DH makes lunch. He also peels the potatoes and prepares vegetables. He peels and chops a whole bag of carrots, divides into freezer bags and puts them in the freezer.

seadragon Wed 24-Mar-21 13:57:29

DH does both shopping and cooking, is pretty good at it and often excels himself.... We have gone mainly veggie with fish twice a week in deference to my heart condition. We feel healthier than ever though now in our 70's. The downside is the clearing up of the, admittedly tiny, kitchen afterwards which can take well over an hour, even with the dishwasher....

Theoddbird Wed 24-Mar-21 13:59:01

My cats refuse to learn to cook so it is me..

Yammy Wed 24-Mar-21 13:59:46

I prepare, cook and clear up Mon/friday. We share at weekends now DH is retired. Never before although he can cook and has had to for himself in the past.

JackyB Wed 24-Mar-21 14:13:27

I also plan, shop, prepare and clean up. I think I'm a bit of a control freak as I can't even stand it if he empties the dishwasher. I can never find anything afterwards.

The cooking doesn't bother me, but I don't really enjoy eating, so sometimes I just say"sorry, I can't eat anything tonight and leave him to it.. He is capable of boiling pasta or getting some cheese out and cutting a slice of bread.

CrazyGrandma2 Wed 24-Mar-21 14:16:30

I sort out the food shopping, but cooking is 50:50 as we both enjoy cooking.