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"Tradition is just peer pressure by dead people" ?

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Mamissimo Thu 25-Mar-21 11:30:50

This caught my eye in The Times today and brought me up short. I've been mulling it......and I think I agree...do you?

Callistemon Thu 25-Mar-21 13:10:42

I’m not sure if burning witches and crucifying Christians could be classed as traditions?

'Burning at the stake, a method of execution practiced in Babylonia and ancient Israel and later adopted in Europe and North America.'
'Burning at the stake was a traditional form of execution for women found guilty of witchcraft' for hundreds of years.

Crucifixion of Christians has brought about the tradition of the cross being a symbol of Christianity.

FarNorth Thu 25-Mar-21 13:13:03

depending on the family and the tradition they can become a strait jacket......
As with the people who moan about doing lots of driving to visit assorted relatives at xmas.
(Of course, this is a comparatively recent 'tradition').

3nanny6 Thu 25-Mar-21 13:14:41

Gagajo : okay then you wish to decline that question so your
choice.

You ask Aren't we all for diversity? No I don't think we are
and if we were we would not need The Racial Equality Board
we would not need ongoing training in the workplace for Diversity and we would not need specialist complaints procedures for those claiming racial discrimination.
I could go on and on but am going to leave it there as I
have had enough now.

Peasblossom Thu 25-Mar-21 13:19:18

3Nanny6 still like you to name one town/city where the Pakistani population is the majority. Just one???

But, there we are. Quit rather than accept you are wrong.

Oldwoman70 Thu 25-Mar-21 13:19:56

GagaJo

*Copied and pasted.*

While assumptions and stereotypes about white people do exist, this is considered racial prejudice, not racism. Racial prejudice refers to a set of discriminatory or derogatory attitudes based on assumptions derived from perceptions about race and/or skin colour. Thus, racial prejudice can indeed be directed at white people (e.g., “White people can’t dance”) but is not considered racism because of the systemic relationship to power. When backed with power, prejudice results in acts of discrimination and oppression against groups or individuals.

Could you give the source you copies and pasted from?

GrannyGravy13 Thu 25-Mar-21 13:21:23

Callistemon I understand what you are saying.

Are we to include hanging, or any form of execution practised nowadays (I am against corporal punishment) as a form of tradition ?

Thinking this way makes the line very blurry.

Callistemon Thu 25-Mar-21 13:25:27

GrannyGravey We abandoned or made illegal many traditions, as you pointed out FGM is another tradition which should be made illegal worldwide.
It was not one imposed by white men as far as I understand.

We need to carry on with the good traditions, those which lift the spirits and leave behind those which are dark and damaging and which arose in all cultures.

GrannyGravy13 Thu 25-Mar-21 13:26:47

Totally agree Callistemon

MaizieD Thu 25-Mar-21 13:36:38

Peasblossom

“In every town/city across Britain the contingency of Pakistani/culture is no longer a minority.”

I don’t know whether to laugh or cry at this. Where on earth did you get that idea.

Not in my town.
Not in my first sons town.
Not in my second sons city.
Not in my daughters city.

In fact I don’t know one town where this applies. Anybody?

I think I should just have ignored it.

I think it's racist and has no place in our society. It isn't true, either.

Debating whether or not to report it.

Gannygangan Thu 25-Mar-21 13:38:13

FarNorth

My explanation was as clear as mud!

The children born into my husband's family would take the surname of the maiden names of the mothers.

So I married John Smith, his mother's maiden name was Jones.

So I would have had John Jones Smith.

Something like the Spanish do which I think is rather a nice idea actually. The Spanish tend to have 2 surnames.

So Jaime Garcia Diaz and Maria Mesa Nadal would have a child called Mercedes Garcia Mesa

Now I trust I've cleared that up but it's doubtful.

Sorry for my ramblings

As you were

Summerlove Thu 25-Mar-21 13:44:36

A lot of my grandparents traditions don’t work for my family.

However my father insisted on having them.

He felt it was disrespectful to stop them.

I can understand how the quote makes sense for lots of families.

Each family generation should get to make their own traditions without push back from the one before

Callistemon Thu 25-Mar-21 13:45:29

GrannyGravy13

Callistemon I understand what you are saying.

Are we to include hanging, or any form of execution practised nowadays (I am against corporal punishment) as a form of tradition ?

Thinking this way makes the line very blurry.

We have to distinguish between what traditions are worth keeping and what should be abandoned but not forgotten in case we make the same mistakes again.

Peasblossom Thu 25-Mar-21 13:46:13

Then we’d have to be deleted too Maizie and people might think we were deleted because we agreed with her?

Gannygangan Thu 25-Mar-21 13:47:52

*I would disagree totally with that and say most certainly
that the white race is greatly out numbered now by the
Pakistani race and in every town /city across Britain the
contingency of Pakistani/culture is no longer a minority
and although people say they are the minority they are not*

Now this I can comment on quite clearly.

You're wrong.

Approximately 86% of our population is white

JaneJudge Thu 25-Mar-21 13:48:29

Even if you use Luton as an example (which is always popular with racists) the demography is 54% White, 30% Asian or Asian British - 14% of those from Pakistani heritage

PippaZ Thu 25-Mar-21 13:51:45

GrannyGravy13

PippaZ traditions are ethnic passed down from generation to generation, whether they be white male traditions or any other traditions in any Country/Race/Religion throughout the wide World.

It is just blatantly wrong to say that the majority of traditions emanate from white males.

I for one think tradition on the whole is a good thing, especially family traditions it brings about family unity and keeps our dead loved ones alive in our hearts and minds.

FGM is a different matter all together as is circumcision.

Where do you get these arguments from GrannyGravy13. Some traditions are ethnic, but not all are specifically so. However, I hadn't mentioned ethnicity when you replied to me. You replied as if I had. Weird.

You have, as I said, twisted what I said and twisted it so it suits your personal which is almost Trumpian in the level of duplicity it brings in. All I can say is back off and don't twist what I said - or rather didn't say.

PippaZ Thu 25-Mar-21 13:54:57

your personal you personally

Whitewavemark2 Thu 25-Mar-21 14:04:12

Tradition is embedded in a society’s culture, but it changes over time, particularly if it no longer fits with the current way of thinking.

I’m sure that we can all think of a tradition that no longer exists. Many were dropped when the U.K. industrialised from an agrarian economy and those agrarian traditions no longer Ed answered the needs if the new economy. New traditions are continually arriving, like the modern Christmas, which in itself has changed continuously over the millennia.

Many of our traditions are based on our belief systems, each religion bringing with it traditions without which would almost certainly see the demise of that particular belief system.

Whitewavemark2 Thu 25-Mar-21 14:05:31

Not Ed answered (where in earth did that come from!) but no longer existed

GrannyGravy13 Thu 25-Mar-21 14:16:36

PippaZ not sure if telling posters to back off is in the spirit of GN.

PippaZ Thu 25-Mar-21 14:24:54

Droit de seigneur was a tradition at one time. Hopefully, like this, and many of the traditions, that some hang on to because it gives them power, will be thrown out as soon as possible.

I found, long ago, I wasn't going to swoon if a man didn't stand up when I entered the room. That was certainly a tradition of my youth which certain sectors of society continue for a few decades after that. It could be that those who hang on to traditions most are those who don't like their positions challenged or life to move on and give others opportunity.

GagaJo Thu 25-Mar-21 14:25:28

Here is a tip, OldWoman70, if you want to check something that someone has copied and pasted, copy it yourself and put it into your search bar. The source will come up.

Here it is:
www.aclrc.com/myth-of-reverse-racism

However, there are thousands of links for explanations of how racism against white people isn't possible, due to their being the group with the most social power.

PippaZ Thu 25-Mar-21 14:28:08

GrannyGravy13

PippaZ not sure if telling posters to back off is in the spirit of GN.

I am absolutely sure that twisting or implying someone said something they didn't is not in the spirit of discussion. I asked you once then told you as you took no notice. It's up to you what you do now but I will not reply to any more of this nonesense.

Summerlove Thu 25-Mar-21 14:28:43

GrannyGravy13

PippaZ not sure if telling posters to back off is in the spirit of GN.

But changing quotes and misrepresenting what they said is?

GrannyGravy13 Thu 25-Mar-21 14:30:09

Totally agree with your post Whitewavemark2