Are you a people pleaser?

I'm very much a people pleaser. I have zero confidence and have never felt as good as other people so I go along with all sorts of stuff that I don't really want to do. Pathetic isn't it?
One good thing about lockdown is that I don't have to go to lunch etc with people I don't particularly enjoy meeting.
I've been in situations with all sorts of awful people because I didn't want to offend them.

I started out being a people pleaser until I realised that I was sometimes being taken for a mug. Now I smile sweetly and just say no.

Don’t explain or make excuses as others can then try to push you into changing your mind. Occasionally someone pushes and I say that I don’t want to do it. A bit blunt but they can’t then tell you that you do really.

I’m another that used to say yes to things automatically and be lumbered with stuff I didn’t actually want to do on reflection!

However as I’ve gotten older I’m more measured in my enthusiasm, find myself giving more polite noes and consequently feel so much better!

Probably more a mug if the truth be known

Over the years too many to list !
These days I have no problem saying "No" - simple as.
It's taken me decades to realise life is way too short to do anything I have no interest in. I also rather enjoy having the
confidence to say it, mean it and no longer a scintilla of guilt !!

I'm a yes person then I moan about it. When will I learn?

Instead of leaving the club nanna8 perhaps you could not go for a while.

No, I’m not, when I was much younger I most certainly was, but as I’ve got older I find it much easier to say no and mean it! In a nice way obviously, I was a giver and it got me no where as I found it was me giving a lot of the time and nothing in return, when I asked very small favour, much happier now

On the whole I am a bit of a people pleaser but I am much better than I used to be at saying, ‘no’. I have a tricky situation with someone I know who keeps trying to get lifts to various places. She wants me to pick her up and take her to a club we go to. She lives several kms out of my normal way and I find it hard to refuse. Added to that is she is never ready when I get to her house. I just don’t really want to go with her because she is a bit of a nasty gossip for one but we go back a long way. I am even considering leaving the club.

Generally No!
Although if a close friend wants to do something which I’m not keen to do, I will sometimes agree, as making them happy would make me happy.