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Life is getting a bit trying! Should I relocated!

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Libby65 Sat 10-Apr-21 11:24:48

72 and very fit gran on my own now
woke up to
freezing cold and snowing in remote part of Scotland.
Nicola threatening independence from GB
Pandemic loneliness
I want to relocate near my son in Hampshire
Am I leaving it too late?

TerriT Sat 10-Apr-21 20:52:39

Go for it. Hampshire is a fantastic county. Coast,countryside,great for getting to London,ferries to France,can’t recommend it enough. Emsworth is a fabulous small town. Do it!

GrandmaKT Sat 10-Apr-21 19:44:39

My DH is 71 and we are considering emigrating to New Zealand "at some time in the future"!

BBbevan Sat 10-Apr-21 19:18:42

Yes , go for it. We did at exactly your age, four years ago, to be near D D . Love it where we are now

V3ra Sat 10-Apr-21 18:18:03

Peasblossom my Dad thinks it's colder here in the Midlands as well! In fact I've just had an extra radiator fitted in our lounge next to where he sits ?

Peasblossom Sat 10-Apr-21 17:58:24

Two years ago OH, at the grand age of 75 moved from Hampshire to live with me in the Midlands.

He says it’s sooo cold up here compared to the South Coast?

There’s some lovely places down there. One of the nicest counties I think.

EkwaNimitee Sat 10-Apr-21 17:56:18

I live in a remote part of Cumbria and was widowed 5 years ago. My DH loved long distance driving, I don’t. The family live in Surrey and Australia and I have found it increasingly tedious using public transport to reach them and it’s a long trip up for them. Our remaining friends here were my husbands and have now drifted away. There is little to do here for a single older person unless you’re fit enough for walking in our lovely countryside. Therefore I sold my lovely bungalow and am moving to the city. There I have a mainline station, only 3 hours to London and hopefully clubs and societies to join when we diminish COVID. Although I’d decided to move before the pandemic, the lockdowns have emphasised how lonely and cut off you can feel and I’m someone who likes their own company.
You need to think how you will manage and feel when you’re a lot older. Think hard about it. The younger and fitter you are, the less stressful it will be to uproot yourself. And, believe me, it is stressful!
Good luck!

Callistemon Sat 10-Apr-21 17:27:02

merlotgran well done, it's good to have some plans and something to look forward to.

Libby65 another one who says yes, go for it but make sure you join social activities and make friends as others have said.

LauraNorder Sat 10-Apr-21 17:07:50

Good move Merlotgran, flowers

merlotgran Sat 10-Apr-21 16:57:41

You and me both, Libby65. DH died six weeks ago and if all goes well I'll be upping sticks and moving from East Anglia back to Hampshire where I come from.

I'm 73 and I'm looking forward to being close to family and old friends. After 45 years in EA it will be a wrench but also an adventure.

Go for it!!

Nandalot Sat 10-Apr-21 16:49:28

I would go for it. Your son is happy with the idea. At the moment, the physical distance between you is about as far as is possible on this island of ours.

Visgir1 Sat 10-Apr-21 16:48:01

Good luck go for it... Welcome to Hampshire.

Redhead56 Sat 10-Apr-21 16:40:14

I say what’s stopping you and there are grans living there. When everything’s settled you could probably have meets ups. That would be wonderful for you go for it!

Goldbeater1 Sat 10-Apr-21 15:11:53

My husband and I migrated to Australia in our mid sixties to join our daughter ... you’re never too old if you’re fit and well. Top tip for resettling (we’ve done it several times) Join every club you think you may be interested in ... you can stop going to the ones you don’t like later ... we hated the table tennis club but made a good friend there. Good luck!

blue25 Sat 10-Apr-21 15:06:19

Sounds exciting-go for it. It’s definitely sunnier down there!

Gingster Sat 10-Apr-21 14:52:13

Definitely do it and look on it as an adventure, something to look forward to and have fun meeting new people. Join the U3A if you’re that way inclined. They have any club you could wish for and a great way to meet other like minded folks. Good luck whatever you decide. ?

NotAGran55 Sat 10-Apr-21 14:43:09

Go for it Libby65 , it’s wonderful here .

V3ra Sat 10-Apr-21 14:16:26

After Mum died my Dad (86 at the time) moved from the Hampshire coast to the Midlands to be near us.
It's been tough over the last year with all the lockdowns, but he's starting to make friends. He still drives so is very independent.
We're both working still but Dad comes to us every Sunday (as a bubble).
He said he feels safe living in his extra-care apartment and we're only 15 minutes away now, not four hours away. It's reassuring for us as well.
We're all looking forward to lockdown easing and life becoming a bit more sociable again!

fevertree Sat 10-Apr-21 13:56:39

Libby definitely go for it - the combination of your son being delighted to have you near and you valuing your independence is a wonderful thing. Hampshire is lovely, we have relatives in Andover.

flowers

LauraNorder Sat 10-Apr-21 13:47:04

If it feels right, do it. Never too old for adventure.
Be somewhere where you can join things, make new friends and establish a good and fun life.
Good luck, enjoy yourself.

Libby65 Sat 10-Apr-21 13:43:08

My son is delighted that I should move nearer him. I would value my independence.

JaneJudge Sat 10-Apr-21 13:06:30

gt66

Could you do a trial run for a month maybe; enough time to get a feel for the area?

This is a good idea, there must be lots of holiday lets in Hampshire

gt66 Sat 10-Apr-21 12:57:55

Could you do a trial run for a month maybe; enough time to get a feel for the area?

Dottynan Sat 10-Apr-21 12:49:42

We are a friendly lot in Hampshire

nadateturbe Sat 10-Apr-21 12:43:17

And no, its not too late. Good luck!?

nadateturbe Sat 10-Apr-21 12:42:34

The weather will be better which is a definite plus. But check with your son, maybe don't move too close and make sure you will be able to be independently happy in the area.