Friends who dip in and out of your life

My ex-daughter-in-law is like that. She used to ignore calls and texts, quite often ignore us in person (not even acknowledging we were there, in fact she sat upstairs when we visited our son once). She's been like it with so many people and most have got tired of her peculiar ways. We reckon she's a psychopath in the true sense of the word - she has every one of the characteristics.

Thankfully, our son got wise to her in the end and left her. She's still been the same, with her subsequent boyfriends. Nobody stays with her for long because she's so difficult.

No CafeAuLait it was never good when she was around. You cold be right that she was not sharing about health issues. However her behaviour was always like this in all the years that we had known her so it was nothing new. Which is why after a lot of thought my friends and I cut contact with her years ago and she is no longer part of our lives.

You said she doesn't have any problems "as far as I know". That's it there. You don't know and she might not be sharing. Maybe she has depression and sometimes just can't? Or health issues that flare? Or maybe she is one of those people you catch up with irregularly or once or twice a year? It's up to people if they want that kind of irregular relationship or not. If it's good when she is around, I'd just go with the ebb and flow of it.

Some people just don’t need other people in the same way. I have a friend like yours. I used to bother about her behaviour but I just accept it now. She’s lovely when she’s there and I appreciate her for that. She just doesn’t want to be ‘attached’ to others in the same way.

Sounds as though she did not want to be friends with all of you.

If I notice that it is me that makes all the contact with people I stop to see if they contact me. If they do not I assume they do not want to and do not contact them again.

Of course she might have been having bouts of anxiety or depression, and been finding it difficult to leave the house or face people.

Quite sad all round really. Nobody 'wins'.

Attention seeker for sure.
What a pathetic person she is .
Stick to the real friends you have and stop enabling her.