It's our GN zoomiversary!

I think you could have said something like - Many GNs have, in the past, met up in groups large and small. We have a group that have been meeting up for years, but as face to face meetings were not possible last year, we set up Zoom meetings. Many people will have used Zoom or similar platforms for the first time last year, but if anyone has not tried it, we found it very successful.

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Goodness, Callistemon, I think I’d leave that group! How strange.

On the whole, it's fine, Polly12 as it's generally meetings with a speaker and trips; everyone is friendly so it was a surprise to hear about 'The Inner Circle'.
Goodness knows why my friend keeps telling me about it though.

If this select group of GNetters feel that having more than 8 attendees in their zoom meeting might get out of hand, maybe they could ask Jackie Weaver to chair it?

She could remove any undesirables

Damn! That's me out!

Chewy

Elegran

I meant, Marydoll that the meeting would not have been so enjoyable if it had been more crowded. Even an in-person meeting is best if you can hold conversations with everyone, and not have to shout from one end of a long table to the other, past people discussing something else entirely. At least a face-to-face group can break up into several simultaneous chats between people sitting near each other, but online it is all or no-one.
Sorry that wasn't clear.

Callistemon I replied to that question in the post quoted above. I hope this removes your puzzlement.

Elegran there's no point in responding really. You were right in suspecting the sort of response I've had to my opening post which was posted in good faith with no hidden agenda of any kind.
I didn't think that Grans would take so much pleasure in making someone miserable. Well done to them. They've succeeded.

It is the Social Media virtue signalling virus , Aveline, which has been around for the last few years, but has become more prevalent recently, exacerbated by the recent move toward righting ancient wrongs linked to race and gender, and by awareness of how even more recently much disruption has been caused by CoVid.

All this awareness of the problems that happen in society is great in itself, but it does have a side effect. Sufferers from SMVSV feel obliged to put right what they see as errors in other people's attitudes, words, and actions in areas which are harming no-one and are nothing to do with them.

Aveline

Elegran there's no point in responding really. You were right in suspecting the sort of response I've had to my opening post which was posted in good faith with no hidden agenda of any kind.
I didn't think that Grans would take so much pleasure in making someone miserable. Well done to them. They've succeeded.

Aveline nobody is trying to make you feel bad! Have you read the reasons people found your OP and other comments confusing ?

Lucca have you read my reasons for posting? Oh just forget it.

Perhaps this thread brought back unhappy memories to those who have ever felt left out or excluded for any reason.

I'm sorry I posted, it is a bit sensitive at the moment.

Callistemon, ?

It's a horrible feeling, feeling when you don't quite cut it. Their loss, not yours! It says more about the kind of people they are, than it does about you. Try and move on!

Thanks Marydoll

They are always very nice but I obviously haven't got what it takes!

No, you’re obviously way too good for them, Callistemon.

Last and final statement from me on this thread - not prepared to waste any more of my time on trying to explain anything to those who have already made up their extremely narrow minds.

We do not have a meeting, we have a conversation. There is no muting of mics, no raising hands to speak or sidebars to post questions. If any of you technical wizards out there would like to try facilitating an online conversation with 15/20 plus people then knock yourselves out. Arrange your own ‘meeting’ for multiple grans and then you can come back and comment. Until then do not be so smug, it’s neither funny nor clever.

I cannot believe that mature women who should be showing the next generation what is acceptable behaviour can only show resentment, bitterness, narcissism and more than a touch of the green eyed monster. You nay sayers are behaving like the ‘gang’ you accuse us of being - ironic really - it’s like Lord of the Flies, I’m sure you’d be delighted if your grandchildren exhibited the same behaviours you have been demonstrating today.

None of you have any idea of the circumstances of others’ lives but you have obviously failed to consider this before making smart alec, so-called amusing remarks to the detriment of others. Oops - weren’t you suggesting that’s what the OP had done? Not considered others’ feelings? Well, there you go ladies, isn’t it nice to know you’re fallible?

Time to draw a line under this, but the attitudes shown on this thread by a few posters make me so glad that I have such a wonderful group of Gransnet friends. Thanks to all those who have been pleasant and understanding on this thread

Aveline

Lucca have you read my reasons for posting? Oh just forget it.

But the op says nothing other than "well done us"
I'm not convinced that you started this thread in the sisterly spirit
Apologies if you did...

Maggiemaybe

No, you’re obviously way too good for them, Callistemon.

Thanks Maggiemaybe

No one has ever wanted me in their friendship groups but I thought the original post was just trying to illustrate that something nice had happened in an awful year because of gransnet. I don't think it was meant to be spiteful

That is just plain daft Katek.
resentment, bitterness, narcissism and more than a touch of the green eyed monster. You nay sayers are behaving like the ‘gang’ you accuse us of being - ironic really - it’s like Lord of the Flies, I’m sure you’d be delighted if your grandchildren exhibited the same behaviours you have been demonstrating today.

I've been chatting to a primary school DGD about inclusivity and the need to be kind and include a classmate who is displaying the kind of tendencies you accuse some on the thread of having.

Katek I too, even as a bystander am saddened, I’ve seen a side to people that’s disappointing.

JaneJudge

No one has ever wanted me in their friendship groups but I thought the original post was just trying to illustrate that something nice had happened in an awful year because of gransnet. I don't think it was meant to be spiteful

I don't think it was, JaneJudge but perhaps ill-judged.

Aveline

Lucca have you read my reasons for posting? Oh just forget it.

Yes I have and I understand but I was just trying to point out why posters may have had a negative reaction but you do seem unwilling to accept that