It's our GN zoomiversary!

cannot believe that mature women who should be showing the next generation what is acceptable behaviour can only show resentment, bitterness, narcissism and more than a touch of the green eyed monster. You nay sayers are behaving like the ‘gang’ you accuse us of being - ironic really - it’s like Lord of the Flies

Cannot believe my eyes.
It has been said over the last year or so perhaps that GN is no longer the friendly, non-judgemental , inclusive place it was.
This confirms it - insults are being hurled around like cabers at the Highland Games and never who might get hurt.
Way OTT KateK
This was a private group , by dint of it being by invitation only, - fair enough- but was it not unfortunate to add the GN “branding” of the OP heading the thread GM. zoomiversary ?
A day which will go down in the annals of GN as doing it it no credit whatsoever.

Katek, total overreaction, sorry but it is.

Well done GNers for taking the initiative and doing something to help keep the lock down blues away.

Having fun is obviously another of those things you are not allowed to mention for fear of upsetting someone - adding to the list of husbands, houses, holidays, cleaning....what nonsense.

what nonsense!

I think its lovely that all 8 of you enjoyed your Zoom meeting, but it was just that a meeting of friends, it was not a GN zoom meeting.
It's a shame the way the OP was worded, in fact it is a shame it was posted at all. It seems to have caused alot of ill feeling.

rafichagran, you have summed it up perfectly!

I'm sad that it has caused much upset, which can't be undone.

Congratulations on your Zoomversary! ??

I’ve been to ‘real life’ meetings in Scotland, Manchester, Exeter and Paignton. I met some interesting people and one or two of them have become (albeit distant) friends.

I think it was very enterprising to set up an online group to continue meeting during the lockdown periods and I’m glad to hear about it.

Every group I have ever belonged to has had sub groups or cliques as some would say. Just a part of life. I am in a few groups and in some I am part of the ‘inner circle’ if you like, others not so. I don’t care, it doesn’t matter.

The problem with this thread is the op used the word ‘gransnet’ in her thread title.
That’s the only reason I clicked on it.
Had she said; ‘yay! A small group of us have been chatting on zoom now for a year’ I wouldn’t have bothered looking at it.
The title was extremely misleading - that’s what annoyed people.

We met at Gransnet meet ups. We only knew each other via Gransnet. We would never have met at all if it hadn't been for Gransnet. That's why it's in the title. Thank you Gransnet.

Aveline I do hope that you are okay.
I was critical of the thread yesterday, and I still maintain that it was ill considered, so please don't think I'm being two faced or hypocritical.
However, I am concerned that you are really taking this to heart too much. We do love a bit of a barny on here; please don't take all of the critisim so personally.
In addition, many posters have been very supportive.
If I were you I'd ask for the thread to be taken down, as it's just going to rumble on, stoking ill feeling, with no resolution on the horizon.
I'd just draw a line under it and move on (and other assorted clichés!)

I thought about asking for the thread to be taken down but don't want to as it illustrates what people are like on here. It was a positive happy thread that seemed to irritate others. Interesting.

Aveline Well it irritated me, as I said. What does that illustrate? Not much.

I don't think that it's right to try to make out that GN is populated with bitter, envious, narcissists as Katek said. (I don't understand the choice of the word narcissist here btw.)

Anyway, as long as you are happy with it.
I thought that you might be upset, I'm glad that you are not.

Did I say I wasn't? I'm irritated myself now and disappointed in a lot of people.

Op; what you should have done is ask for your thread title to be amended. Very simple thing to do.
It was clear from page 1 that this thread had caused confusion, and possible upset in some cases - but rather than admitting your thread title was misleading, you, & others from your tiny friendship group, became very defensive and at times damn right rude!
It doesn’t matter that you wouldn’t have met if it wasn’t for GN, it wasn’t a GN ‘Brand’ anniversary.

I really don't get your point Kandinsky. We always referred to it as the 'Gransnet zoom'. That's what it was.

Aveline

I really don't get your point Kandinsky. We always referred to it as the 'Gransnet zoom'. That's what it was.

Don’t let folks upset you, as I posted up thread, friendship is a gift to be cherished.

It sounds like your zoom meet-ups helped you all through the last months ????

Aveline

I really don't get your point Kandinsky. We always referred to it as the 'Gransnet zoom'. That's what it was.

I think that you may have chosen not to understand anything slightly critical, even constructive criticism

Sigh. I really haven't. I don't offer 'constructive' criticism to other thread posters as I realise that people are free to post what they like within the limits of taste.

Aveline - I’m happy you & others have formed a good friendship group I really am.
Anything that helps & supports people through difficult times is brilliant.
I just thought the thread was about the GN I belong to - this one that me & you are chatting on now.
But probably time to let this thread die.
Again, I’m happy that you have made good friends.

Love & Peace x

I read Aveline's OP yesterday and thought "that's nice". I didn't feel left out or offended or any of the other things. I certainly wasn't confused

GN isn't a membership group with rules and regulations; if some posters want to meet up over Zoom, more power to their elbow.

I'm going to stick to the Politics threads from now on. Less aggro.

Too late now anyway. Those who wanted to offer "constructive criticism" on it have already done so, and the rest of Gransnet have either read it as it is or are not interested.

As for Aveline not being upset, I can tell you for a fact that every member of that zoom group is upset at being labelled, (in different words) a selfish clique who excluded lonely people from their self-congratulatory gang. That wasn't constructive criticism, it was destructive playground invective, and since no-one has apologised for that, I think you should lay off Aveline for not rushing to follow your "advice". I am surprised she came back to post at all.

Oh dear, all the years of insisting there are no cliques on GN and in one post you confirm that there are elite groups.
When you are in a hole stop digging.

I Absolutely refuse to be included in any accusations of bullying playground invective bitterness narcissism (?.)etc

I did try to point out to Aveline that she missed out some information which led to the whole reaction but as Kandinsky says she became quickly very defensive.
Anyway as several of us keep saying……moving on !