Dost thou love thy neighbour?

I had awful neighbours on both sides up till December.I live alone and I was scared of the one connected to my house as he threatened me. He was a heavy drug user and often not in control of himself. Now I am a long way away from them.

New neighbours are ok. Elderly man next door does think he is charge of our cul de sac but I have learned to limit our conversations and feel happier now. He used to want to know where I was going, who I was seeing, commenting on how long I was gone.............you get the picture.

The other side are nice folk. The only issue is their 30+ year old son who lives upstairs and plays the saxophone badly at night. The mother is deaf so it probably doesn't bother her. He also flooded my lawn by emptying his hot tub out . Both of his parents apologised. He didn't. She calls him "baby". You get the picture here too perhaps..........

Still,I feel safer and that's wonderful.

Bird song. That is the phrase that made me read on. Whoever complained about it better have a council meeting with all the birds and make a timetable. I have beech hedges and morning and evening the air is filled with birdsong. Humbug I say. Have no regard for the nature of our world which is fast disappearing. It's bad enough complaining about birds, but cutting a precious tree like that won't make any difference and if I were the owner I would sue them.

We have lovely neighbours on the one side but the other side are a bit of a nightmare, with the son constantly banging a football against the fence. Also, constant swearing, even the 10 year old. Totally ignored all Covid restrictions despite the fact that the woman works as a carer.

I live in an old house, listed Grade 2, divided into 5 flats. I've been here 17 years and all the neighbours have been lovely. About 3 months ago a couple in their 60s bought the basement flat, no.5, which is partly attached to Flat no. 2 which had just been bought by a lady from London who intended to use it as a holiday flat, and she was having several changes to made to the interior. The new owners of Flat 5 also own the curtilage which is the land surrounding the building. A few weeks ago I looked out of my window to see the owner of Flat 5 totally demolishing the row of rhododendrons which were about 15 ft high and full of bud. She said she was cutting them down before the birds started
to nest in them. Where they were growing is on a fairly steep bank leading up to the garden of the house beyond. She said she was going to make a car park for 4 cars. There was enough space along along that part of the drive for 3 cars anyway. I managed to get her to stop any further cutting and saved about 4 rhododendrons which are currently flowering. A few days later a man arrived with a circular saw and chopped down a huge bay tree and 2 more smaller trees. The rhododendrons and tree choppings are now piled up and rotting and no attempt has been made to clear them away.
Then I noticed that no lorries and vans etc were arriving to work on Flat 2. I saw the owner of Flat 5 and asked if she knew why not. She told me that the owner of Flat 2 was making changes to the interior and had caused a crack in the her wall. So she asked the Council to come out and they had stopped work being done while they thought about it.
I want to move as I hate seeing the devastation outside my window, but who will buy my place with all that mess outside? And who will want a car park opposite?

L’enfer ces les autres …!

It took three house moves to finally get good neighbours following years of different types of neighbours from hell. Been so happy here for the last 20 years.

We have been here for 53 years, and have had good neighbours, until the house next door was let out to tenants, after a family tragedy.
Most of them were good, but we did have one awful family here for about two years. I discovered that there were drugs involved. Luckily they did a flit, and were replaced with more lovely people.
At the moment there is a small family in the process of moving in, and yesterday we had a note and small present on the doorstep, introducing themselves. Dad, daughter and son, from Hong Kong.
We have yet to meet them face to face, but what a nice start!

I normally like my neighbours but the current one so clearly loathes us I can't say I have any positive thoughts about her at all. Very noisy, loud music until 5.30 am and constant complaints about us, everything from our car to me sitting in the communal garden. She's looking for things to complain about aggressively by email, and is insulting and rude. I'm normally quite easygoing but I have grown to loathe this woman, very sad. I'm not alone as the other neighbours are starting to experience the same and mentioning it to me.

When my dgd lived here my upstairs neighbour was a nightmare. She constantly complained about the 'noise' my dgd made. Playing, crying etc. It was normal noise of a small child. Who was always in bed by 7/8 pm. Not up in the night.
It made me unwell.
Until one day I realised she had no right to make me feel like that. Nothing that was going on was antisocial.
The next time she banged my door I told her where to go..... she didn't do it again!
She's complained about every tenant in the rented property above her and has even complained about the small child two floors above her!!
I have to say she isn't the quietest of neighbours herself!
My neighbours next door have been very difficult, worse during the pandemic.
I hear him shouting at his wife, I've heard him beating her too. Sometimes their music is so loud there isn't a room in my flat that I can't hear it ?
More recently the neighbour above them has a dog who is being left all day to howl.....
The council and the rspca will do nothing about this poor dog!
I can't wait to move ?

In a word ‘NO’.

I have great neighbours now. In my last house I had the neighbours from hell both sides. When we moved in we had a glorious view from our garden over miles of water meadow and out to the distant sea. Neighbour A bought mature trees and planted them by our fence. They grew to the top of his three storey house and lost us all sun in our garden. The other side raised the fence, planted fast growing trees, unsuitable for planting near a house as they had very intrusive roots and planted mixed hedges that grew to nine feet. Our sunless garden felt like a cage. They were both rude and aggressive. We sold to get away. We now have a sunny garden and lovely neighbours. Fingers crossed that they stay.

? Greciangirl - my husband wants to start a new movement: “Loathe thy Neighbour’!

We have the best neighbour in the world one side. She is 95 now and the kindest and sweetest person. The other side are a real pain in the proverbial. His lordship knows everything about everything, thinks he is always right and aggressively defends his right to do anything he likes, no discussion is ever possible. He is the barbie king of the neighbourhood, with the barbie positioned on the fence line next to our patio where he stands seemingly for hours, usually bellowing down his mobile phone to his 'mates' whilst 'cooking'. If the barbie isnt fired up, then its power tools of every kind imaginable. It got so bad over the past year we have taken to going to the village green with a picnic rather than try and sit in the garden. He has been on furlough seemingly for ever and I am praying for a return to work in the hope I can at some point reclaim my beloved garden. The patio doors havent been opened since they were installed eighteen months ago!

I live in a courtyard(sounds posh, really just a square) of 20
houses, with a built up garden in the middle. It had a lovely tree in it which I loved, the birds nested in it, and the blossom was beautiful every year. One of the neighbours, who had been here the longest, complained all the time, that it blocked her view, and made a mess when blossom started to fall, so waited till most people had gone out , and had it cut down, it took 30 years to grow and I was so upset.

I would be so stressed to have neighbours who hated birdsong and then did something silly and destructive. What a miserable pair they must be. My immediate next door neighbours are wonderful; the other side are a bit strange, but I try to remember that everybody is somebody's 'weirdo', so we nod and smile - they are no trouble!

I have lovely neighbours apart from one couple who have a second home beside me. We call them "Barbie & Ken" and everyone knows when they are here as there is always a big flourish of activity and he needs to have the parking bay nearest to his house for his Discovery (Square box model) with the private reg KW61 DAD. The rest of us are amazed at the pair of them who dart out into the garden every time any of the neighbours go walking past. Last time they kept the couple the other side of me talking out on the communal lawned area for 3 whole hours. Luckily with lockdown and the tiered system in Scotland we haven't seen that much of them for 18 months. Peace & quiet for our birds to sing.

We had a small tree growing in our back garden by the boundary wall, came home one day and found it chopped in half. Neighbour denied doing it. Must have been the fairies.

I have okay neighbours . of the 6 neighbours 5 are elderly and one is still young enough to work. We tend to look out for each other and rarely have problems. I would say we are all quite tolerant.

My Neighbour is lovely - and literally saved my life! In April this year he had a parcel for me the postman left with him for me, and a friend, who had been trying to contact me, both tried my door - he has a key - when they realised it was bolted inside he called the Police, who called an armed response unit and broke in - and to cut a long story short I was in bed unconscious and had been for 3 days!! I had near renal failure and Sepsis - it was touch and go but I survived. He previously checked in on me when I was ill and took me to hospital appointments when necessary - I'm not really ill or disabled normally I just have kidney stones, and some other medical issues but until now I've been running my own business from home. He occasionally buys me a few groceries when he's out, and nowadays checks in on me quite regularly. He's around my age (mid 70s) and has prostate cancer himself - but I couldn't wish for a better neighbour. I am so lucky.

Touch wood my present neighbours are fine. There was a bit of a problem with noise with the previous next-door-but-one chaps - two young men who treated their home as a party house but they've moved on now.

At a previous house there was a couple who kept trimming the hedge between us so that it never grew into a proper boundary but we decided to ignore it. By comparison to some I've been lucky.

I think if I lived next door to the moaning minnies in the newspaper article, I would be buying a CD of birdsong which I might find I enjoyed so much it be played very often right next to a window on their side of my house which also might happen to be open.

I live in a bungalow with 5 terraced houses nearby, one of them who moved in 3 years ago I found out has accused me of complaining about them parking, I have live here for 10 years and have never ever said anything of the sort, my son was going to have a word, but I said it wasn’t worth it as he is a very arrogant man, all I could think of was the wife must have overheard me talking about sand and cement that was left in a parking bay by the council and I had said to my daughter that I hoped it wouldn’t be there for long as we need all the parking bays, the wife is obviously very paranoid and only caught half of the MY conversation, it’s made for uncomfortable living

GrAnne2

L’enfer ces les autres …!

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No my neighbours are awful. One side they shout and scream all day. I think the grown up daughter actually is psychotic. The other side an extended family (parents and several children and grandkids) inhabit neighbouring houses. Imagine a cross between Jeremy Kyle show and Wayne and waynetta slob……you get the picture.

We have awful neighbours also, Mrs is a screaming banshee from 5 am in the morning, vacuums at 05.30am, screams at the dog, screams at her partner, screams at her daughter but is sweetness and light once her foot is over the front door threshold on her way out… we started to renovate the house just before 1st lockdown… she has inherited a large sum of money and has had hers done before we have finished ours, we had a hell of a mess after 8 months of her renovations,but if we accidentally drop anything onto “her side”of the face she goes absolutely mad!
I’m sure she isn’t wired up right as they say, as she complains about everything so much so the whole house is out of bounds permanently except the extension where they sit watching what we are doing all day as she has retired now… nightmare comes to mind it so e rule for her and another for us.