left out of mothers will

Before my dad died he asked me who he should leave his savings etc to.
I suggested he leaves everything to my brother as he gave up his flat and moved in with dad to a, keep him company and b,
to take care of him.
Dad had cancer.
Dad did just that ,but my other brother and two sisters were fuming.
I still think i gave dad the right advice and he must have agreed or he would`nt have done it.
There is so much more i could add,but it`s a small world.

My husband and I both had this. We were both estranged from our families for the last 20 years. This meant we had nothing to do with them as they aged. Actually, while our dads were alive, we saw them periodically. When they died, and left the mums, the sources of the problems, we opted out. I’ve had absolutely nothing.
However, the lack of inheritance paled into insignificance, and was well worth it to us. We didn’t have any part in their lives. The money went to siblings who put up with them. We thought that fair enough.
Maybe you need to think along these lines.

A difficult situation to be in sunnybean so much falling out within your family.
As Namsnanny said your mother is entitled to will her estate in any way she wants. Of course that doesn't stop it being hurtful, I'm sorry you and your family cannot support each other.

I totally understand how you feel sunnybean as my mum did the same thing and left everything (although very little) to my brother.

It was a shock and even though it came as no surprise, like you are feeling now, I was hurt. My mum died last year and my brother had already estranged me to the point that he didn't tell me she'd been taken into hospital, and got one of our cousins to 'phone me to tell me that she'd died.

I was told that there was no money to pay for her funeral and that unless we were prepared to foot the bill, he'd go to social services for funding.

We took it on and that is something I will always be thankful for. He didn't attend and it gave me the opportunity to say my final 'goodbye' the way I wanted and how I believe my mum would have wanted too.

I know that there were a few personal items that were still left to me, but as I already had her engagement and eternity rings bought by my father, I decided that those are enough and have never contacted my brother about any thing else.

It will take time for you to fully digest this and you may find, as I did, that finding out before your mum dies is preferable to finding out when she does, and you are trying to come to terms with her loss.

Please feel free to private message me about this any time if you need to talk more privately.

I'm in a very similar position. I'm so sorry it can become all consuming cant it?
When my father was dying he apologised for making a will that left his share of the estate to mum (which is normal), which I didn't understand at the time.
My mothers love and her and Dads estate goes to the favourite offspring.
Nothing can be done. People have the right to choose who the leave their possessions to.
Sorry I have no helpful answers.
I will be reading incase someone else does.

It's rough to be treated that way, for sure. I don't know what you can do about it other than accept it's your mother's decision. I might also expect younger sister to be the one to foot the bill for any care. Not for nasty reasons but just because she will make it up when she inherits everything and you need to make sure you have retirement funds.

Did you offer to care for your mother too?

Yes, a kick in the teeth. Did you at any point offer help and assistance to either your mum and dad as your sisters have? What does your younger sister think? There's nothing you can do. I understand how bitter you must be feeling. I hope that you can find some solution.