Estranged from adult children

I think an invitation for tea & cake, nothing too strenuous and only needs a short time. As Greta said its worth trying to extend the olive branch
I hope things work out for you and you have a good recovery.

I agree with greta8 - invite them over. We've got out of the habit of entertaining. Ditto with holidays instead of tagging along with them, suggest one?
Even just for a cup of tea but set a time & date. They might think you're so busy - putting a brave face on things - as we do.

Hope you continue to recover from your surgery.?

I’m so sorry this has happened to you. You sound as if you’re on your own? Husband/ partner?
Could you possibly go back to how it all started, and try to start again with your daughter?
I don’t understand the stance of the other three. Perhaps you could try to talk to each of them individually, and work from there. Your other children say they love you and you are being silly. Therefore, maybe they could suggest a way forward.
Are they all busy with lives/ families? Do you have grandchildren?
We were estranged from one daughter for about 18 months. Like you, we have four children. In our case, the other three acknowledged her wrongdoing, and I think it was because of this, we were able to reunite. I also had my husband’s support.
As suggested, there is an estrangement forum on here. I’m sure you’d get loads of help, and also the chance to meet up, and meet new people.
Take care.

I do know exactly how you feel there is a group on here for estrangement. It seems a lot more common nowadays I don’t exactly know why . We also have one son who is estranged and seems to poison the memories of the others who we do get along with . If you go on the estrangement group you will find lots of wise advice on there . I’m afraid I can’t help much except to empathise. Just hope you can rebuild some kind of relationship with your AC .

Did you respond to the texts that you did receive to engage a conversation? That could be a start and say it would be nice to see them if only for a brief visit.. it’s worth a try. I hope you are well after your surgery and looking after yourself ?

You're not doing anything wrong, I'm sure. Relationships with adult children can be a minefield. If years have passed, this behaviour has probably become ingrained amongst them all. Would it be worth extending an invitation to all of them for dinner? And explain to them all once again how you feel. It's a shame your other children have dismissed your feelings as you being silly, it must be very sad for you not to see them. Our children do have busy lives but that's no excuse for them not seeing you. I hope you can maybe try extending the olive branch once more with a better result.

So sorry that you feel so isolated x