I took care of my three grand girls for 11 years. I cleaned every day,etc. Not once and I mean this did I ever stick my nose in my son’s life. I took not getting spoken to by his wife for years. She is a text book narcissist. The entire family knows this. I never retorted back to her cruel remarks. Not once. I carried it all inside me. Covid put her working from home from now on. We’ve never ever had words, I knew what would happen if I chose to speak back. She has made one of her children have an eating disorder, my son dies nothing. The constant lecturing these girls is indenting. There’s so much wrong with this woman it would take pages. After helping above and beyond, I might as well be dead. I’m sick of all the advice on kiss her ass. She is leaving us out of functions now and that pleases her. The fact is she was jealous of me with the girls. We had fun, I went by the rules however. She criticizes how they walk across a room. The middle child had issues from birth. Cried all the time, threw horrible fits, that I kept to myself due to punishment this needy child would get. I was never spoken to when I arrived there every morning. When she brought babies home I was never allowed to hold them or anything until the day she went back to work. The whole family knows what she is but all too afraid of her to say or do anything. It’s a very long story and most of it people would t believe anyway. I prayed plenty and bit my tongue till it bled. Anyway, about now. She deliberately keeps spirts events from us and 2 of the girls are excellent athletes. I’m pretty sure she thinks we are beneath her and withholding info makes her happy. We ask our son and all he says is talk to her. He’s such a coward. Her mother went off the deep end at 39. She is far worse than her mother, but, she just looks better doing it. The girls usually couldn’t wait til she went to work, so they could be free to be kids. I know this is a hopeless situation. Many may not believe me. But never have I done one thing to her. The stress of being scrutinized by her took a toll on my entire life. I stayed for the girls. She’s insulted my daughter’s family more than I can count. The middle child is on the adhd scale but a brilliant child in the top one percent in the nation, and a top athlete. To look at this family from afar everything seems perfect. Beautiful home, great jobs, everything anyone could hope for. Only people haven’t a clue. She lies to us constantly, I realize recently had a hip replaced. Not once did she ask me about it, not once has she ever cared about anyone’s health but her own. After 11 years of babysitting when she was told she could work from home from now on, the way we told that was my son mentioned it in passing only. Neither of them considered for one minute how I would feel losing them. I don’t have a problem with her staying home, but we knew little by little she’d shut us out. I’m sick to death with doctor’s advice when unless they’ve lived it far as I’m concerned they haven’t a clue what people like this do to families. She hates holidays, trees, flowers, animals, you name it. I know she can’t be cured. On top of it, we don’t even recognize the son we have now. We don’t have a clue who he is, he’s not the child we raised. Her father who has been married 4 times is a nut case. It’s something I just can’t explain well enough for when I tell people what she’s done over the years they find it beyond shocking. Say what you will: I’m not idiot. I won’t rock the boat, I love those girls too much. She’s beyond Hope. I don’t feel like correcting this post. There is no hope for us. We know that.
