Hi there! First ever post. I am early 50's and husband few years older. I've recently discovered by accident (because he won't have his bank statements lying around the house and shreds them as soon as he receives them) that he has gone through £25k of his pension installment (which I knew he was applying for ) in just under 3 years - that's as well as working decent job full time.
In addition (and not to my knowledge) as the funds were dwindling he has approached his pension provider for another payout letting me believe he still had a lot of his original left.
In addition he has had other small windfalls in the last couple of years.
So when a bank statement arrived I found it - one day alone was £1100 on gambling and he has admitted that he plays on line when he is bored and its never normally that much (just the 3 months I viewed the statement for conveniently!).
He's adamant its his money to do what he wants with even though I stress its our future joint pension money (I work full time too and we have a similar income and future pension pot). We pay everything for the house/holidays etc 50/50.
He says as long as he is paying his share of the house etc its his money to do what he wants with and is none of my business.
How would you react?
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