Grief, Baby medical termination.

So sorry to hear this, heartbreaking for all of you.

Sorry Ms Lioness didn't mean to offend you, i just worded it wrong, but i hope you can all begin to heal from this tragedy soon by talking it over together?

Thank you.

Of course it is, and you do't sound selfish at all. Anyone would feel the same.

Thanks everyone, I am so sad for my Daughter, and her Husband She worries this may be her last chance due to her age, we do talk about it and she asks how I am. We are very close, and this child was very much wanted.

When I say a few people. I mean Grandparents, ie her Dad from whom I'm divorced, and his wife and 2 sons to his second marriage.

I hated that this would sound selfish, I live alone and I'm single, I thought /hoped this would be a safe anonymous place to talk.

It's very sad for all concerned.

I know that nothing can be said to make it better, MsLioness, but I hope you can all look after one another.
x

When this happened to my family, my first grandchild, I definitely felt (at the time anyway) that nobody could see that my heart was broken too.
My thoughts are with you.

Nannan2

Lucca- i did say I'd maybe worded it wrongly.I understood she's devastated for her daughter- i just meant,its far far worse for her daughter.

Yes our posts crossed

I am deeply sorry to read your post. I cannot begin to imagine your pain. Just be there to listen to your DD and SIL when they feel they want to talk. In the meantime, you say you have no one to talk to, have you considered writing your feelings down, taking moments of reflection that way if your unable to talk about how you feel?
I hope you find some comfort and peace and feel able to support your DD. ?

Have you got a religious representative you could speak to? Or even the hospitals chaplain perhaps?

Are there any organisations you could contact that would help you and your daughter at this terribly sad time. You could perhaps speak to them to get expert advice in what to say to your daughter and how to deal with your own grief given that you’ve both been through a bereavement. And you’re dealing with your own sadness and the sadness of your daughter. I felt that, when my daughter was pregnant I had hormones that had been dormant for a long time that kicked in in a strange way. I’m really sorry for what’s happened

Lucca- i did say I'd maybe worded it wrongly.I understood she's devastated for her daughter- i just meant,its far far worse for her daughter.

Maybe you could discuss it with the few who do know? Or I'm sure when its all sunk in your daughter will talk it over with you- she might be in shock still...till then maybe you could discuss it with a professional counselor or someone from a charity for 'bliss' or some such.?

I am so sorry for your loss . I lost a baby at beyond 12 week stage and had to be induced. The hospital had a remembrance garden and I cant tell you how much that helped me. At first I wanted nothing to do with it but am glad I changed my mind. Just having somewhere to go was a comfort. I wonder if this would help you. Maybe find a place where you can go to remember your loss. You will feel lost, you are grieving. I know you will want to support your daughter but please also look after yourself.

Nannan2 OP has says she is devastated for her daughter.

So sorry for the loss of this baby msliones..

I've probably not worded that right, but you know what i mean. I know you're hurting but the 'parents to have been' must be devastated.

That's the last thing I'm doing, I haven't told her how I feel of course, I just wish I could talk about it with someone.

Please don't make it all about you think how bad your daughter must be feeling.....