Blamers

Same here. If he forgets to do something it is always my fault for not reminding him!

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I divorced him!

me too!

Sorry, was commenting on the comment by Cossy who said her husband blames her for everything

My ex. What a relief it was that when he had a shunt, he was alone in the car and couldn't blame me or the kids for distracting him, which was his usual fall-back tactic.

Yes - my stepdaughters. Their Mum left my husband for someone else (before he met me) and managed to brainwash them from a very young age so we were the bad guys. Even as they got older they were secretive, guarded and if there were any problems it always got twisted so it was our fault. They even got their husbands in on the act - that we put too much pressure on the girls etc etc. It seemed all they wanted was our money but any interest or involvement was seen as interfering. We gave up in the end and no longer see them. Sad but we weren’t prepared to be the fall guys any more!

Mine too unfortunately!! All his work
life he suffered so called idiots - it was never his fault. Does it with me now?

Thank you for all your comments. I'm so glad I'm not alone on this. She is slowly turning everyone against me and she herself has fallen out with (to my count) 15 people, close friends and family members, always it has been their fault and never hers.

Most anti-vaxxers!

The words of Monsieur Macron, France ...
“Everyone is free to express themselves peacefully. But ‘freedom where I owe nothing to anyone else’ doesn’t exist. Freedom relies on reciprocal duty.
If tomorrow you infect your father, your mother, or me, I am a victim of your freedom, despite the fact that you had the option to protect yourself and to protect me.
In the name of your freedom, you may get a serious form [of the virus] and you may go into hospital. And then all the staff who have to take care of you will have to stop taking care of someone else. That is not freedom. That is irresponsibility and selfishness.”

Absolutely spot on!

My ex husband.

Yes, I hate it when people don't take responsibility for their own immunity but insist that the world and his wife (and government) should do it for them.

My son, lol. But he has learning disabilities so it goes with the territory

Oh god yes, my daughters partner. Typical narcissist. He’s always the victim or the hero, but never the villain. I’m also obviously stupid because I don’t believe anything he says ?

My mother never ever apologised to anyone ever. Didn’t have many friends as I recall. My sister is the same. Never admits anything could have had anything to do with anything she ever did. Mainly because in her world, she didn’t do it! ?

And yes Anna domino, my ex husband always blamed me for everything he did wrong. It was even my fault he didn’t get a job once. Despite the fact he went to the interview alone!

The Phrases 'you made me feel like this or you made me do it',
get 'right up my nose'. NO-ONE can make you feel or do anything that you do not want to feel or do!!

You always have a choice. I know, I have learned the hard way.

Newatthis - their problem, not yours.

Some sad stories but Dartmoorgal you made me laugh out loud, it took me straight back to when my DC were little!
I do know someone like this but, having heard more about his childhood over the years, I think he was frightened to ever own up to anything as he would have to answer to his father. Even now, he would blame someone else to avoid the smallest embarrassment.

My dad would never take responsibility for his actions and always had an excuse - I don't think I've known anyone since who was quite so thoughtless. He was devious with it too, in fact a nasty piece of work all round.

Yes, my DH and more than one of our children follow suit at times. Incredibly frustrating as I know full well that if I bring up anything he's done, he'll respond by pointing fingers at others, often over things that have nothing to do with the issue I raised. Quite obviously deflecting but then again, if he does ever apologise it's sort of spat out, as though I'm wasting his time and being annoying.

My ex husband. And his brother.

We went on a canal boat holiday as an extended family, my MIL, my Ex, our son and I plus my BIL, SIL and their two daughters. We three ladies walking back from the shops with lunch were crossing a bridge in time to see my BIL crash the boat into the side of the canal (broke some glasses, toppled the little TV etc). On boarding the boat he glowered at his wife and said "it's your fault for distracting me" .... Same holiday, one of the girls was chatting to the other and didn't see the low branches of a tree that would brush over her head - BIL put his hand on her head quite forcefully and pushed it down - hitting her head on the boat door quite hard. Her fault for not looking. Dreadful man!

My ex and son came home - ex in a dreadful temper, son (probably 15) teary eyed. It was very foggy and waiting in traffic a car had run into the back of my ex's car. While my ex got out to examine the damage the other car reversed and drove off past them. I said to my son - did Dad blame you? Yes, apparently my son should have got the number plate and my ex had taken his anger out on him. I pretty much ignored it when he blamed me for "stuff", but not my son!

My mother

ex husband. Blamed me for things that happened before I even met him, it would out me if I said them here, but he was so persuasive that it was my fault that there was a certain problem, it was only when his brother came and said you've got that awful warped bit of furniture, and how they hated it as children. Not me at all but if brother had not said anything he'd have blamed me forever
He blamed his teachers for not getting the eleven plus and thus not going to a good school, but knowing him at uni [ he did eventually get there] I suspect that it was just that he didn't work hard enough. He even said that one teacher who didn't like him must have changed the marks he got

One of my SILs. Always someone else’s fault, he is perfect. He never holds down a job for more than a couple of weeks because of his bosses. All of them. How my daughter can stand it I can’t imagine.

My mother always blamed me for the fact that my husband is overweight.
"Why do you let him eat so much?"
Like I was force-feeding him ?

I bet there isn`t many people who don`t have a few of those types in the family and a few people we know.

Sadly my grandfather and father were both like this. As a consequence they didn't particularly get on. But the family scapegoat was me. I was blamed for my parents marriage breakdown and then blamed for being sexually assaulted by another family member. The cherry on the cake was my grandfather blaming me for him not going to my fathers funeral ??‍♀️
That was the last contact I had with him (apart from the shitty letter he sent just to make sure I'd got the point)....
Unfortunately for my siblings he cut them off too. Bitter old git. He forbade our grandmother from speaking to us too.
I don't accept such behaviour from anybody anymore. I am not anyone's punching bag ?