Emphasising children are adopted

Newatthis

Hope the children know!

Strange comment Newatthis and not really your business

my first husband was adopted and never knew until he was 16 and asked for his birth certificate for his 1st job, his mother threw it at him and said you were adopted and she never wanted him. he asked for a key to the front door as some of his shifts finished late and was told no as him being adopted he might steal from them. after we split up he moved to england and never contacted them again. i think with celebs they say adopted because nobody ever saw them pregnant and that is fine at the start but they should not keep harping on about it.

I seemed to put my foot on it when I asked a friend if she had watched Nicky Campbell in Long Lost family as it had been so interesting. She said she didn't watch as it was ùpsetting and changed the subject. I had forgotten that her 2 kids are adopted. Also need to avoid talking about IVF or miscarriage.The kids are so much h part of the family most people don't realise.

Soda pop I was talking about the famous people who the article was about. It would be terrible for this family if their adopted children had found out through this newspaper article.

I once made a boob when I told a lady her daughter looked just like her (but she did) and she answered that she was adopted but I think in a way it was complement
I think that’s awful Felice
It was done to hurt me, she never wanted a child but my Father threatened to leave her unless she agreed …..were you your fathers’ child or was he just a more caring person? I cannot understand anyone being so cruel to a kid glad your fathers side have compassion
Another horrid family nexus why do people have children they don’t want it never ceases to amaze me

I thought that was what you meant Newatthis - I'd had that thought too.

Thanks everyone for your support, I will not comment again as DD came downstairs yesterday and found me a wee bit upset, big hug and a lecture followed.
She has a point, the only family I have left that I contact are my Dads and they are all much loved and loving.
to all have a great weekend.

When you’re adopted, as I was, many things get said or done, which at the time don’t make an impression, but later, I’ve found myself asking, would that have been said...or done, if I were the biological child. I can’t think of specific examples, but I do have recollections of people saying things like, “ she’s bound to be different to you”

felice that is awful, and a disgrace to the adoption system. With me, my father wasn’t bothered, my mum was. My father in many ways ended up more nurturing. I always felt my mum regretted it with me, but this regret came after they’d adopted another girl, ( different birth mother to me ), and found her to be very like our adoptive mum. Needless to say, I had no relationship with either of them, but a good one with my granny.

I wonder if the reason for announcing your children as ‘ adopted’, somehow appeases the parent of any blame, should later on, those children don’t ‘ turn out well’, especially if you’re in the public eye.

When celebs are unable to have children, that fact sometimes comes out in interviews and news articles. It is then available in archives when reporters are writing subsequent items, and gets added it in as a further "human interest" angle. Once something it in the media, it is public property - even such an emotional subject as difficulty conceiving, and the parentage of your children.

As for adopting and then not treating the child as your own wanted offspring - words fail me.