Big weddings versus more intimate ceremonies

I do hope you and your family will enjoy this special day. There are many ways of marking a wedding. I think it’s “each to their own.” From my perspective I have 4 AC all of whom were married pre Covid-19. They all had fairly “big” weddings. Each of the 4 days was so special and, looking back, I wouldn’t change a thing. I particularly treasure the memories of the beautifully decorated churches and the wonderful singing and the sound of the church bells afterwards.

* eazybee* I am not being critical, I find it very interesting how COVID has changed the way we do so many things and how many weddings are big because it’s what people expect.
I just wanted other peoples opinions.

I’m sure there are posters out there who think it’s a miserable way to marry as well as those that think it’s really special.

Your children have chosen the wedding they want, which sounds lovely, for them; I hope you will all have a wonderful day.
Is it necessary to imply criticism, ever so subtly, of those who decide on larger celebrations?

Wishing you all a lovely day and many congratulations to the happy couple.

i hope every couple has the day of their choice
that is what is important

have a lovely time sago

It’s a very personal thing really isn’t it? We had a very quiet wedding with immediate family and a few friends. Even that turned out to be bigger than we had planned! I would have hated anything any bigger than that and cringed at the thought of walking down the aisle! We were at a family wedding at the weekend. It was a fairly large, very jolly affair but the church service was lovely and very meaningful. This couple had been together for ten years, know each other inside out, established themselves in good careers. I suppose a wedding was just the culmination of all that. It seems to be the way these days.

Surely not a rule Humbert!

Yes. A very special day indeed.
Are they having a party of any sort later Sago?

There was a lovely story from (I think) Germany about a couple getting married during lockdown in their lunchreak after years of engagement, date changes and planning. They said it was the most meaningful, magical and perfect thing they could have done. The registrar had called them to say they were closing at lunchtime - they were told, almost in passing, that there were cancelled spaces if they were fed up waiting.... Yes! They were.

I hope you all have a lovely and meaningful wedding day and that the couple have a strong, long, and loving marriage.

sometimes I think large weddings lose the meaning of the day. How many can we invite, shall we ask for money or gifts, expensive honeymoon to Thailand, at the end of the day we all want to share with our loved ones, but aunt and uncle, never seen for years, brides banning sisters because she doesn’t want her hair done the way a bride demands. It’s all got rather out of hand I feel, and the actual most important thing, the binding of two people together, is forgotten in the stress of putting on a show. Cynical, maybe, realistic yes.

Oops - I wish your son and his future wife every happiness.

We married in a registry office with just 6 friends in attendance. What mattered to us was getting married, not throwing a party. My mother has a rule that says that the more you spend on the wedding, the shorter the marriage.

I do hope so. It’s meant to be an occasion to celebrate and have fun with friends and family - not show off how many fancy things you can buy. I doubt anybody even remembers what colour napkins were had or how perfect the table arrangements were. Brides put themselves under far too much stress trying to outdo each other.

Congratulations to the happy couple and Hope you all have a lovely day.