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Hurt by a friend

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Lollipoplove Sun 15-Aug-21 14:29:18

A good friend & I had a conversation about finding a mutual friend. My friend messaged her on messenger when she said she was at work & had to go. Then I went onto messenger to speak to another friend, I noticed that my friend ( the one that had to go) was active on messenger. I though ohh maybe she’s heard back from our mutual friend so I said your active. Expecting to not get a reply as she was on it by accident or she was talking to our mutual friend. Instead I got a barrage of insults. Basically saying I was checking up on her & she shouldn’t have to justify herself to me. She compared me to her possessive controlling partner. Which I hear about over & over again I’m always there for her even though she lets him get away with everything. Well I’m very upset hurt about it because it couldn’t be further from the truth. Should I say anything. What should I say. I can’t let it just go x

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Lucca Sun 15-Aug-21 14:34:23

Hard to follow this! Don’t want to be unkind but it does sound a bit playground

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Skydancer Sun 15-Aug-21 14:35:07

It's so easy to fall out with people out of misunderstandings. It has happened to me a couple of times. The speed of the internet means we are always in touch. Words can easily be misinterpreted. I'd just do nothing.

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Mouseybrown60 Sun 15-Aug-21 14:51:23

I couldn’t let it go either Lollipoplove. Contact her when you’ve calmed down and talk it through. Don’t speak to her whilst you are angry.
I agree with Skydancer, it’s probably down to misunderstanding.

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welbeck Sun 15-Aug-21 14:56:49

i couldn't understand who was who.
maybe if you'd labelled them, friend a, friend b, it would be easier to follow.
anyway, just go low contact if people stress you or are unfair or ungrateful.
sometimes it's not worth trying to sort everything out.
just re-direct attention and interest.
good luck.

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FarNorth Sun 15-Aug-21 15:17:45

I guess that having a controlling partner has made your friend over-sensitive to this.
I'd be inclined to apologise for contacting her about being online, but say that her response was uncalled-for.

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sodapop Sun 15-Aug-21 17:29:39

FarNorth

I guess that having a controlling partner has made your friend over-sensitive to this.
I'd be inclined to apologise for contacting her about being online, but say that her response was uncalled-for.

Spot on FarNorth

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