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Do you hate the sound of your own voice?

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GagaJo Tue 24-Aug-21 00:37:55

As part of my job, I have to record student oral exams. An unfortunate part of this involves me asking them questions. When I mark the exams, I have to listen and relisten to the recordings as I go through the criteria and pick out bits for comments. I have NEVER got used to listening to myself on them. I know how to make myself sound 'better' to my own ears but in the midst of exam performance anxiety, I frequently forget to modulate, flatten my accent and enunciate.

Cymres1 Tue 24-Aug-21 16:54:38

I have only heard myself on an answering machine and I was honestly taken aback. Thought I sounded a bit too like Shula on The Archers, yet as soon as I hear an accent from my home patch in Wales I fall into it like I'd never left. I don't mind that although I haven't actually heard myself. I wonder....
As for all the people who don't like their own accents, please don't lose them, they're music. I love interesting accents so please hang on to them, they are a real joy. I genuinely do appreciate them, honestly.

Buntymart Tue 24-Aug-21 16:48:33

Welshy

Lauren59

I absolutely cringe when I hear my own voice on a recording. I feel the same about seeing myself in photos too.

Ditto Lauren59 I feel exactly the same, both voice and photo's of myself!

Ditto both of you.... loathe my voice and every photo of myself since I was 21 years of age!!!

Kamj Tue 24-Aug-21 16:38:23

I actually like my voice, i cant believe my voice sounds like it does when I listen to it back, I'm always pleasantly surprised.

Welshy Tue 24-Aug-21 16:21:37

Lauren59

I absolutely cringe when I hear my own voice on a recording. I feel the same about seeing myself in photos too.

Ditto Lauren59 I feel exactly the same, both voice and photo's of myself!

grandtanteJE65 Tue 24-Aug-21 16:20:13

I think anyone who is bi-or multilingual prefers the sound of their recorded voice in one of their languages to the other or others. I know I do.

The other thing about it is that voice production goes on in our bodies - larynx, sinuses, nasal cavity and mouth so the sound we hear as after all our ears are in close proximity to where voice production is going on is different to what others hear.

Most people get a shock when they hear themselves on tape.

Not much we can do about it, although we can as OP does try to modify the bits we dislike most.

Ellie Anne Tue 24-Aug-21 15:45:23

Absolutely. Hate hearing
My voice and seeing my face.

queenofsaanich69 Tue 24-Aug-21 15:43:19

Don’t like my accent much,but at least I never have to introduce myself on the phone everyone recognizes my voice,everything has a good side.

GardenofEngland Tue 24-Aug-21 14:43:41

I don't like my voice/accent and it definitely sounds worse on an answerphone and I cringe as it sounds like a cross between Hilda Ogden and Cilla Black with a touch of Irish!

Zoejory Tue 24-Aug-21 14:36:45

I certainly do. I sound like Joyce Grenfell.

Amberone Tue 24-Aug-21 14:36:41

A long time ago I left an answerphone message for OH but then heard it myself when I got home. I was a bit surprised to say the least.

I always sound quite gruff to my own ears but the voice on the answerphone sounded like a very shy 10 year old girl. I actually said to OH 'Who is this?' when the message started and he just looked a bit confused and said 'It's you'. When I heard the rest of the message I realised it was indeed me ? ?

Altissimma Tue 24-Aug-21 14:32:01

I'm a reader for two different local Talking Newspapers and, yes, I don't like the sound of my own voice!

Forestflame Tue 24-Aug-21 14:23:30

Hate my voice. Heard it on a recording at school and I sounded like a boy instead of a girl and had a decided Welsh intonation, nothing at all wrong with that but it was a suprise to me as I am from the English side of the border!

RosesAreRed21 Tue 24-Aug-21 13:24:52

I hate the sound of my voice when I hear it back

highlanddreams Tue 24-Aug-21 13:18:27

I can't stand my voice, I think I sound like a little boy with a cold. But in reality I'm a female old bag & I don't have a blocked nose or any nasal problems.

Granjeanne Tue 24-Aug-21 13:15:08

As a former MFL teacher, I sympathise! I've never got used to it. But remember, you normally hear your own voice through your head, not as others hear it. The recording probably isn't totally accurate either. In retirement, I try not to let these things bother me too much. People must take me as they find me. Their opinion doesn't actually matter!

Nannan2 Tue 24-Aug-21 13:09:40

Gawd yes, not my accent as such, but my voice on a recording sounds 'flat' thats the only way i can describe it.??

Lulubelle500 Tue 24-Aug-21 12:51:09

Back when my sons were teenagers (and before they had mobile phones) one of them asked me not to answer the phone when he was expecting one of his friends to call because I sounded 'too posh' ! On the other hand, my DH told me once he fell in love with my voice when he heard me talking in the corridor outside his studio when we worked together!

kittypaws49 Tue 24-Aug-21 12:45:19

I don't like hearing my voice , but I hate even more seeing myself in photographs or on video. I look so old and tired, not at all what I see in the mirror !

Larsonsmum Tue 24-Aug-21 12:45:08

A huge NO, not least because I have friends who have no voice at all, either through throat surgery or because they are hearing/speech impaired.

GagaJo Tue 24-Aug-21 12:34:22

I know the feeling grannybuy. I have a whiny to e. When I can, I focus on lowering my voice to get rid of it, but I can't be that aware all the time.

nexus63 Tue 24-Aug-21 12:32:52

i don't mind my voice, only problem i have ever had is going to england and people saying i talk too fast, but i think that is a common problem as i am from glasgow. other people in coventy think i am from newcastle.....i laugh and say wash your mouth out i am from glasgow...lol

grannybuy Tue 24-Aug-21 12:28:46

I was a teacher, and feel so sorry for the children who had to listen to me day after day. My Scottish accent is pleasant enough, my expression is good, but the actual tone is nasal, and, I feel, grating. Like others, I would never have known this if I hadn’t heard myself on recordings.

Aepgirl Tue 24-Aug-21 12:17:12

During lockdown when my choir was unable to meet, we each recorded our own voices singing our choir parts. What a shock when you hear your own voice singing (on its own). Our choir leader, a professional singer, had prewarned us, saying ‘you will hate what you hear, as nobody sounds the way they think they do.’ How right she is!

lovebeigecardigans1955 Tue 24-Aug-21 12:16:59

Surprisingly, I've been told that I sound young and, would you believe sexy - what a load of cobblers! What was he after, I ask myself? I think I sound like a slightly less excitable Su Pollard, though my accent isn't particularly broad.

Dear late husband used to say that he loved my voice and never tired of hearing it BUT that doesn't mean that he was actually listening or could recall anything I said.

kwest Tue 24-Aug-21 12:15:22

I feel angry for you. He should not have been allowed anywhere near children.