Flattered or annoyed

Ladyleftfieldlover

BigBertha1

Sadly I read now that any key nd of personal comment is inappropriate now especially in the work situation. Sad because I always thought a sincere compliment would be welcome but it seems today's culture regards personal compliments as a judgment. Very sad.

Might that just be a nastyrumour put out by the tabloids!?

Before we moved here 15 years ago, I volunteered at the local hospital. The staff notice boards had messages telling staff not to discuss anything that may be considered personal or private with other staff members as it may cause offence.

An elderly lady recently stopped me in the Lidl car park to tell me how much she enjoyed seeing someone in a pretty summer dress for a change. Brightened my day as I am rather conscious of the fact that nerve damage stops me wearing trousers. I am often the only person wearing a skirt or dress.

I would never compliment at random..
I only did this once which happened to be a person who did not appear to understand English.
I cannot imagine what they thought I had said.

I have only had positive responses when I have offered a compliment

I had a beautiful fine silk top in a citrus shade of green; I wore it one day with matching green earrings and white trousers, and a lady stopped me in the street and said 'You look so lovely in that outfit'. As I was about sixty at the time, I was deeply chuffed, and thanked her. There is a lady in my home town who must be in her eighties, and is clearly suffering from arthritis, but is the picture of elegance with unusual outfits, and perfectly matched accessories and jewellery. It must cost her a lot in effort to be so smart, and people often stop her to compliment her. I cannot imagine being annoyed to receive a compliment -why would you?

I would be very flattered
I have always told people that I like their dress, jacket or whatever and asked where they got it from. One lady said she couldn't remember the name of the shop where she had bought her dress from but she knew it was Italian made. She said 'look in my label', I did and it just said 'Made in Italy'. We had a laugh!

I have life modelled for art groups and a lady at one of the art classes said “can I ask you a personal question” I said yes. She said “ How comes you haven’t got any Verrucous veins at your age“ i toolkit as a compliment.

A waitress really admired a ring I was wearing a few years back. I was flattered that she commented on it. Still got it now.

A few months ago the paramedic who took me to hospital for a test admired my black shoes. She also brought me back and again talked about the shoes. When we got back home I took out a pair of brown shoes similar to the black ones and told her to try them on This she did and they fitted her perfectly so I gave them to her. She was thrilled.

Always tell someone if you truly like something, we need more kind remarks in our lives, after all you only pass that way once.

I like complimenting people and being complimented.
The only negative reaction I have had was when I asked a fashionable young woman about her funky glasses which turned out to be Chanel or Fendi, I can’t remember, but her reply was rather disdainful ?
I remember reading that we should avoid the (English?) temptation to downplay the compliment, saying “Oh, this old thing? Had it for ages/only from the charity shop/lying at the bottom of the wardrobe for yonks” etc and just say thank you.

Flattered definitely ?

I've always complimented and been so in return and I always say where I bought stuff!
As an add on: my 36 yr old DS once tapped a young lady on shoulder to tell her a label was sticking out of her top - and was roughly chucked out of a club!!!!! Apparently they considered it assault....... So sad. I hope she forever went around with a cheap and nasty label hanging off her cheap and nasty clothes!!!

I always tell people. Why not make their day? It doesn't cost anything.

It happened to me a couple of times in the US and made me smile for the rest of the day. One not so warm day in San Diego I was wearing a bright yellow dress and shoes and walking along the harbour on my way for lunch and a man sitting on a bench waved his stick at me. He said 'Ma'am you look like a ray of sunshine bringing back the Summer' which I thought was lovely. Can't remember it ever happening in the UK with strangers

Two contrasting memories here, Back In The Day (1969!) walking with my "young man" on an Edinburgh street we were stopped by a young lady who raced across the street to ask where I had got my lovely red shoes? I was able to tell her, they are Clark's so widely available-she said she wanted a pair just like that for her wedding outfit!

After moving to the Snooty South I asked a matronly lady (who was slumming in Iceland shop like me) which perfume she was wearing, it smelled so lovely. "You couldn't afford it" came the disdainful reply...no, I don't believe all those surveys which say this is the best town to live in!

I've often had people admire things I've been wearing and asked where I got them. I've also done the same to others. I've certainly always been flattered and always had a positive response when I've complimented other women.

I've often been complimented on something I'm wearing or using, (eg a bag) and it's usually something I've made myself which might look a little different or unique. I always feel flattered and pleased that they've noticed.

Likewise I do compliment other women on their clothes and ask where they bought them. No-one has ever been annoyed by my interest.

I compliment people quite often and they have always been pleased to accept it. As, indeed, would I! I must admit the only time I’ve ever asked anyone where they bought something, it was regarding a beautiful mask.

Oh yes, nothing like a compliment to brighten my day whether given or received.

When out with a friend I saw a lady wearing a dress I absolutely loved. Later as we walked around the gardens in the park I saw the lady again. My friend egged me on to ask her where she got it. I plucked up courage and told her how much I loved the dress and the nice lady told me where it came from and even how much it was.
As we walked away my friend said, ' I can't believe you did that?'. It was her idea!!
Anyway I bought that dress online and have had great wear out of it so I'm glad I took a chance.

When my daughter was small she had lots of Lelli Kelli shoes. Couldn't take her anywhere without people asking where we'd got them from. Now my granddaughter has some and they get the same questions.

The only time I ever commented on something a stranger was wearing was met with pleasure. However the jacket I was admiring was 20 years old and had been hand made in Bucharest.

Compliment and be flattered.

I do things like this all the time, and people love you admiring something and complimenting them. I make a huge effort with my appearance and get loads of compliments too, and what a great boost it is!

I do pay compliments sometimes but I have an amazing friend who cannot resist approaching lots of people. I've seen her accost someone who looked at her grumpily, then the accostee's face changed to a great big smile. She does it regularly and brightens up so many people. It's a joy to watch!!

I was walking into Asda one day when a lady stopped me and said what a lovely top you’re wearing! I was a bit taken aback, but in fact, it cheered me up no end.
I still remember it from 5 years ago.
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