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Streaky Tue 31-Aug-21 21:59:21

I saw a lady today in the street and really admired the jacket she was wearing. I wanted to tell her so and maybe ask where she’d bought it but of course I did no such thing. Have you ever felt like doing something similar, or has anyone ever approached you and said how much they like what you’re wearing. Would you be flattered or annoyed?

Lulubelle500 Wed 01-Sept-21 12:28:35

Flattered. I've been asked several times where I had my highlights done. They're natural. A couple of years ago the red in my hair turned yellow instead of grey - what the Helen Mirren commercial calls brassy and I didn't like them at first until I began getting compliments. Now it's a mixture of brown, yellow and silver. Won't last forever, but meanwhile.... I admired some boots a woman was wearing last Winter but turned out she bought them in Rome and they don't sell them in the UK or online.

Ali08 Wed 01-Sept-21 12:22:33

I would be flattered. I've often been asked where I bought such & such and I've always said where, & the price if I remember it.
If I see someone I think looks really nice in something, I'm often inclined to say so. It may be the only compliment they've had in a while, or maybe they're not feeling so great that day, so you might just cheer them up!
A smile is much better than a frown or tears!!

Ailidh Wed 01-Sept-21 12:19:47

I always compliment people on their clothes if I like them. I don't usually ask where they got them but for no particular reason. I wouldn't be offended if anyone asked me. In my case, the answer is usually "the Hospice Shop" but that's OK.

foxie48 Wed 01-Sept-21 12:17:13

What a dreary miserable world it would become if no-one paid compliments anymore. I always like to say something nice to friends if I can but only if I am being genuine and I like it when others compliment me.

Esspee Wed 01-Sept-21 12:01:03

It may be a Glasgow thing but I get women stop me and comment or ask where I got things. I often give compliments too. It usually is the precursor to a nice chat.

Nannan2 Wed 01-Sept-21 12:00:57

Jaylucy- i did tell the lady where i got the tote bag, as it was a recent aquirement, and i thought she might be able to get herself one , (it was 'free' with a range of bath toiletries, came all in the bag) but ordinarily id just say where i got item, or when i got it if it was something id had for years, but normally wouldnt say how much, unless the person asked.(seems like bragging otherwise?)

Nannashirlz Wed 01-Sept-21 12:00:34

You should have asked her. I was wearing a pair of shoes moda in pelle and a lady was watching me. I thought to myself sorry love I’m straight lol. She came over and said I love your shoes. I lol and said though you fancy me and I thought I was going to have to let you down gently. We both laughed. Since then every time we see each other we always chat. So out of her liking my shoes I got a new friend.

elleks Wed 01-Sept-21 11:57:19

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I have often complimented other women on their clothes, but I never ask where they got them from.

I did ask someone once, but she'd had it for about 5 years, so I couldn't get one! Also tell women I like their hair colour (if it's obviously unnatural-think blue or green)

Nannan2 Wed 01-Sept-21 11:53:22

Yes i would be flattered if someone said it to me- a lady on the bus once said how much she liked my tote bag, so i volunteered where i had got it- if you had told the lady you liked her coat she may well have just volunteered the info on where she got it from- i have told people if i like something they are wearing before now, and the same , they always say thank you and usually just say where or when they got it.I always say if i like something my DD's or DinL is wearing too-Or even my sons sometimes, or if its something new, it gives people a little boost i think.

bluekarma Wed 01-Sept-21 11:49:43

I’d say always compliment people. It makes them happy and you too

Supergran1946 Wed 01-Sept-21 11:47:25

Flattered. I like to give compliments - and receive them ?

jaylucy Wed 01-Sept-21 11:46:18

I have on occasion paid a compliment to a friend if I think it needs saying and a couple of times I have commented that I have liked something that a stranger is wearing - as long as it is part of a conversation!
I have been happy when people have complimented me - if it is about an item of clothing, am I the only one that seems to have a compulsion to tell them where I bought the clothing and how much it cost?
I think it will be such a shame if you can neither pay or receive a compliment .

ElaineRI55 Wed 01-Sept-21 11:45:49

A few weeks ago, someone at church said they really liked my shoes and where did I get them. I've had them for about 10 years I think and, on checking inside and the sole, any manufacturer's name had worn off. They won't be made any more I imagine. I do remember that they were not expensive. I was quite happy to receive the comment.
I've compliment others on clothes etc reasonably often and never had a negative response.
I suppose what we have to be careful of is that it's not a comment about someone's body shape or size etc. I had two colleagues (in their 40s/50s ) where I used to work who were both fairly petite. Another colleague (senior to both of them at that point) walked past and said to them that they looked "cute" standing together. Needless to say, that was quite inappropriate and they were certainly not very pleased at the reference to their height and the, no doubt unintentional, patronising tone.

GrannyGear Wed 01-Sept-21 11:45:17

I think it depends on the circumstances. I remember when the Corona virus was a recent arrival, I told a lady how nice her covid mask looked and asked if she made it herself.
You get like that when you have only one person to talk to!

lovebeigecardigans1955 Wed 01-Sept-21 11:44:56

Yes, I admired a post office clerk's hair and asked her how she got it like that. It was a fabulous layered cut and a bit spiky, "hairdressing putty," was her reply.

Pedwards Wed 01-Sept-21 11:38:52

Someone did this to me when I was wearing an old and much loved Boden green velvet coat, I was flattered. Not everyone is the same though, so compliments may not be given or received as intended

Moggycuddler Wed 01-Sept-21 11:33:27

Yes, I've been complimented on a couple of occasions over the years. Once a couple of years ago, about my big dangly earrings that looked like swords. A lady in the library told me they looked "fabulous and striking". It made my day! I haven't complimented people myself really, only because I'm a bit shy of speaking to strangers.

mimismo Wed 01-Sept-21 11:33:23

A woman on e stopped me to ask the name of my hair colour (silver) but I had to tell her it was natural! She was disappointed but very complimentary.

acornlady Wed 01-Sept-21 11:33:05

My MIL was complimented on a pale blue Italian-style two-piece that I had knitted for her on my machine. She was not in a position to buy expensive clothes and was thrilled to be asked where she had bought it as it was beautiful. I was also very pleased that my work had been complimented.

icanhandthemback Wed 01-Sept-21 11:31:52

I usually say I like something in the hope they will tell me where they got it from. When my son's last girlfriend first walked in, I immediately noticed her trousers and told her how lovely they looked. A little while later I asked her where she got them from and asked her if she would mind if I got a pair. I assured her I wouldn't wear them around her especially as my figure wouldn't look as lovely as hers. She found the link for them and I ordered a pair. She is now history as far as my son is concerned (thank goodness she was a nightmare!) and I have started to wear them out. All my friends love them and are asking where I got them from!

Ladyinspain Wed 01-Sept-21 11:29:15

I complemented a lady on her lovely hair! She ended up telling me who her hairdresser was! Also, in USA in a life (elevator) a younger lady said she loved my vintage polka dot earrings ! I felt great all day !! Do it- say nice things to people x

SecondhandRose Wed 01-Sept-21 11:23:24

Flattered that someone else likes my style

Cambia Wed 01-Sept-21 11:22:36

I always compliment. It’s kind to tell someone they look nice and usually makes their day. I am too old to care if it is no longer “woke” and will carry on! Who isn’t cheered up by being told they look lovely?

fatgran57 Wed 01-Sept-21 11:20:46

I think it's lovely to be complimented on our appearance - not our looks but our outfits.

My mother always used to say to me that I looked nice and said to others "doesn't A look nice today." I always preened grin

I love clothes and it's really nice to think that other people like our outfits.

I tell other women that they look nice and no-one seems to be offended by a compliment - hopefully it brightens their day.

highlanddreams Wed 01-Sept-21 11:15:45

I'd be flattered, it's only ever happened to me a few times in my life and it feels good.