Why talk about xmas in September!

Nannashirlz

I love Christmas in fact I’m nearly done just got few things to wrap then I can enjoy the rest while everyone else stresses. Would rather be a happy wrapper than a bar humbug lol

As some of us have explained why the very long build up can be difficult that 'bah humbug' comment is surely a little insensitive.

I got carried away today and bought some craft box sets for my 8 year old DGC to make Harry Potter figures and the owl. It wasn't until I got then home that I read it is crocheting, and for age 14 +. Is crocheting difficult? I am off to find a youtube tutorial in case I end up having to teach her!
Always read the back of the packets!

Bea65

Sorry going for cover but CANNOT stand chat about the December event in September/October or November..just causes more anxiety..am in a minority or majority?

I never, ever get these posts. Of course you can stand other people's chat. You are not going to spontaneously combust. Don't be such a wuss.

People organise their lives differently to how you do - so what? Just don't join in or post threads that attract just what you are complaining about.

Josianne

I got carried away today and bought some craft box sets for my 8 year old DGC to make Harry Potter figures and the owl. It wasn't until I got then home that I read it is crocheting, and for age 14 +. Is crocheting difficult? I am off to find a youtube tutorial in case I end up having to teach her!
Always read the back of the packets!

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Sorry, I shouldn't laugh but DIL (who can crochet) bought herself a kit to crochet Star Wars figure. It sat there for ages unopened and she sent it to her school Christmas Fair.

I used to love making plaster of Paris figures when I was a child, painting then glazing them. Do they still make the kits?

Did the OP mean general chat or just chat on gransnet.
Not that she is likely to return given the rudeness of one or two posters. Honestly why can some people not disagree politely?

Bea65

Sorry going for cover but CANNOT stand chat about the December event in September/October or November..just causes more anxiety..am in a minority or majority?

Of course, ironically, OP has instigated just what she says she abhors!

Exactly MayBeMaw and the OP just encouraged posters like me to chat about Christmas even more!
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I think the OP wanted to start a conversation about why Christmas seems to start so early now. That's different to starting a conversation about Christmassy stuff in general. The fact that some posters have turned it into that kind of thread is not the OP's fault.

Yes Callistemon they do still make those plaster of Paris type kits. I bought one for my gd recently. It makes two unicorns which then have paint and glitter applied.

Beswitched you understand clearly what the post was about?
but being called a wuss PippaZ is uncalled for..and I'm not a coward or a weakling but Yes do feel my confidence has hit an all time low mainly due to present/ongoing health conditions...but like to join in on threads at home alone a lot to share or give my opinions on whatever the subject..

I cant remember a time when there wasnt an August sale of Christmas toys or last years trimmings.
So I dont think Sept is that early to be thinking of Christmas.

I have quite a few difficult anniversaries around and including Christmas and Boxing day. Naturally it's been hard at times, but the world doesnt stop for me so....

One of the ways (when I feel strong enough) to cope is to occupy myself with craft. That way I'm engaged with but not swamped by, the pretence that Christmas is only for the happy few with perfect families, and a perfect bank balance.

Of course that means I have to start early, as Witzend pointed out

It's the only way I have found to cope with the emotions that flood in.

I don't think anyone expects the world to stop for them. But the very public and persistent pushing of Christmas merchandise etc from September onwards makes what should be yet another difficult occasion to get through become a marathon for those who are lonely, depressed, bereaved or struggling financially.

Why can the Christmas music, displays and lights not commence around mid November? People can still buy presents, make their Christmas cakes and puddings, arrange who is going where for the day from September onwards.

But people trying to quietly ignore the prospect of Christmas for as long as possible because it's distressing, or who simply find the long build up stressful or a spoiler of a special time of year are also considered.

I'm opting out of Christmas for the second year running, I've made sure both of my kids will have somewhere to go and am happy to spend it alone with the tv and my lovely dog.

I'm giving them money to buy/save as they wish, and have already bought my two best friends a gift which I post before the rush in early December - when the Cadbury's creme eggs arrive!

Bea65

Beswitched you understand clearly what the post was about?
but being called a wuss PippaZ is uncalled for..and I'm not a coward or a weakling but Yes do feel my confidence has hit an all time low mainly due to present/ongoing health conditions...but like to join in on threads at home alone a lot to share or give my opinions on whatever the subject..

Oh, Good Lord. How am I supposed to know all that from the OP? I said that I never, ever get these posts. That could well be my fault, but I don't.

Your post was very written in a very challenging way. You thought that having written it you would need to take cover. You did not have to write it in the way you did but you chose to do that. You could have made it less personal and just asked when people think Christmas should start. You put yourself at the centre of the question. I was asking what you expect people to do about your issue with Christmas?

I am sorry that you are having to deal with low confidence and health issues. I know what mental health issues can do to us - more than I would ever care to share. But that wasn't what you said was it?

You are coming across as quite aggressive and rude pippaz.

I thought the OP's first post was fine. She didn't insult anyone, she just expressed her view strongly and asked if she was in the majority or minority.

I shall talk about Christmas when I feel like it. Any time of year will do.

Thank you Beswitched this is how I perceived PippaZ post commenting in an aggressive manner.. ..no need for name calling..inappropriate and unkind.

I certainly hate the commercialisation of Christmas beginning in September and the constant build-up and pressure, especially on young kids.

But for some families that are split all over the place, and many with some members abroad- it is a good time to decide so that travel, etc, can be organised before prices go through the roof.

We have always told our adult kids that although we love to have them here for Christmas, or go to theirs- we never ever want them to discuss 'whose chore is it to go or have the parents this time...'. we have just been invited to go to our youngest and family- as they can't travel to us- so now we can plan our journey. Due to not wanting to fly, petrol concerns, and now no longer with Emma dog- we are planning on travelling by train. But once the travel booked, I shall put all thoughts of Christmas away until December- when, to my mind- Christmas planning should begin and no sooner. Each to their own.

Each to their own That's the spirit!
No need to make a fuss.
Christmas will be here every year no matter what.
A good idea would be to find a way to cope better with ones own personal circumstances.

Rather than expect the world to stop for us.
Because it wont. As I have found.

I haven't seen anyone ask 'the world to stop' for them.

Why can the the Christmas displays and lights not commence until November

Sorry if I misunderstood this sentence Beswitched. But it seemed to be suggesting a change in advertising ect.

I have found that it's down to me to change my perceptions as situations around me wont.

I just thought, as I found this to be the only way that worked for me, perhaps you would find the same?

Beswitched

I haven't seen anyone ask 'the world to stop' for them.

You are right. However, the OP did say that she CANNOT stand chat ... in September/October or November, shouting her wrath at us all.

That comment and her assumption she would need to take cover told us the OP set out to goad posters.

It seems we are now getting the "poor me" routine which you are supporting. Surely people can do what they like and say what they like whenever they like, with regards to Christmas?

As I said before, the OP could just as easily have been an open post, rather than a personal one. If you make it personal you will get personal replies.

Unfortunately GN gets this complaint nearly as regularly as Christmas!
It does seem that people shoot themselves in the foot by starting this type of thread. More chat more aggro.

Yes Pippaz, people can say what they like when they like regarding Christmas, including the OP who has posted on an aspect of Christmas that many people find annoying.

By all means debate and disagree, but no need to be rude, aggressive or hurtful.

Sara1954

Witzend
I guess because you want to be sure you’ve got enough, I don’t go mad, I’m perfectly aware that the shops are open again on Boxing Day, but still we never eat everything.

We usually eat everything, can't bear waste.
The only thing I threw out were gluten free mince pies, one lot with home-made pastry, the other with store-bought pastry.
I manfully, sorry womanfully, ploughed my way through about three or four but they were just awful.
The birds ate them although they did leave my homemade pastry until last, they must have been desperate.

Except one home-made Christmas pudding still sitting on a shelf all alone but they will probably get eaten this year..