Being oversensitive to something small

I don’t really understand what’s going on here. Why do you pay your friend to take your children to swimming but she doesn’t pay you for taking them home?

Why were you taking her home but dropped her off near your own house? Where were her children?

Did you say anything before you dropped her off for eg. you thought she might like to get the bus back as it's easier for her?

If you didn't and doing so is out of the ordinary, I can understand why she's concerned, so just explain.

If you had always brought her back to your house, it sounds like you may have side kicked her out the car I don't think she is being oversensitive

Why would I charge my friend to take her and the kids back to my home?
She has grown up children of her own.
Her home is sort of 5 minutes away from mine so makes sense for her to come back with us.

I guess I should have said something. Just felt it would have made sense to her why I had done it.

so you dropped her by her house?

What a strange post I m afraid I don’t understand the dynamics at all

No by mine and she gets the bus back. She can't get the bus from the swimming pool as there are no buses running.

When you said ‘the kids’ I assumed you meant she was taking her own children swimming and was taking yours as well, and that you were collecting them all.

Now you’ve clarified that, I think that as you changed the protocol this week by dropping her off, she will have wondered why you did that and is concerned she’s upset you. Why does she need to catch a bus if she’s only five minutes away?

I'm a bit confused too.

If you pay her, it's not a favour.
Does she have children who go swimming too?
Does she pick yours up from school?
Is this swimming lessons?
If not, that is quite a responsible 'favour'.
How long would she have had to wait for the bus?
If a long time why didn't you offer her a ?

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is there a reason why you cant just drop her home if she is getting on your nerves

Her home is sort of 5 minutes away from mine so makes sense for her to come back with us.
5 minutes walking or 5 minutes on the bus?

I am still rather confused.

TopsyAndTim

No by mine and she gets the bus back. She can't get the bus from the swimming pool as there are no buses running.

How does she get them there?

she said she walks them there

I got a bit lost

Well more like 10 minutes away hence the bus No pick up from school and just does this as a favour but yes, paid.
Yes. It is Swimming lessons.

I'm guessing
'oversensitive lady' picks the children up from school
takes them o swimming and supervise them
makes sure they get dried/changed
OP picks them up and normally brings oversensitive lady back to house whilst bus is due
this week just dropped her off at bus stop?

how much do you pay her?

Just to clarify I always pick them all up from swimming then back to my house. We usually have a quick chat then she goes off to get the bus.
I just thought it would be easier to drop her at the top of the road this time but yes, maybe should have said why I was doing that this time rather then letting her into the house. Didn't realise it would worry her.

JUst say that to her then? that you thought it would be easier?
It is not a big deal is it?

Tell her sorry, you were embarrassed because your house was filthy/you hadn't done the washing up /the cat had been sick on the carpet and take her back to yours next time.

Why can’t you drop her at home?

Why couldn’t she come in your house if she normally does ?
Seems a lot of worry about nothing
Why was it easier for her this week to get the bus but not other weeks
I still don’t get it at all she’s probably as confused as I am

I would wonder why you'd suddenly and unexpectedly changed things from the usual. If she's five minutes away from you, why not just drop her home?