Engagement rings and choices

It amazes me that some women are not allowed to choose their own ring. Imagine living for ever with somebody else’s taste. I was shocked when my son chose the engagement ring for his now wife. They had discussed it a lot and looked at ones she liked, but even so……

I didn’t have an engagement ring - I was never engaged. We just got married. (I did choose my wedding ring.)

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I would have run away so therefore the ring wouldnt have been a problem.

I would have run away so therefore the ring wouldnt have been a problem.

Thankfully I love the ring my husband chose. I really don’t know what I would have done in this situation.

I always feel sorry for the Duchess of Cambridge, lumbered with Diana's vulgar enormous engagement ring which she will have to wear for ever, no leaving it behind in the washroom.
As for the original question, I think the girlfriend probably realised she did not love her boyfriend sufficiently because she didn't like his choice of ring, and it saved much unhappiness later.

You old romantic, you!

My engagement ring was 2nd hand, though not antique, it saved the purchase tax.

I don’t like jewellery so compromised. I suggested a wedding ring to wear on my right hand for the engagement to be swapped over on marriage.
Says a lot about me.

We had looked at rings in jewellers windows and I had showed him the ones I liked, but certainly expected to choose it with him. My future DH would not have dared to do anything else.. Also nearly 50 years ago I would not have fancied wearing a second hand ring.

My ideas have changed as the years have gone by, an antique ring is quite appealing now, but it would have depended on what Granny’s ring was like. It might have been hideous!

But if it was good enough for the Duchess of Cambridge….

I would have kindly explained that while I was flattered by his choice of ring, i would rather had a different style and I would also have concerns about breaking up and the fate of his family heirloom.

No, I wouldn't wear a ring I dont like.

Marriage is a compromise- if it starts this way, by him imposing his choice and chastising her for speaking up, i would question my choice of partner and the future of the relationship

I would quite like it, I think.
It's a symbol of a long lasting love that stood the test of time - unlike your friend and her fiance.

No way on this earth would I wear someone else’s ring as an engagement ring, and I wouldn’t expect my fiancé to either( he wouldn’t have done anyway,) that would be a no from me

I think he should have given her the option so, I think she had a very lucky escape. Sounds as though it was his way or nothing.

I think if a fiancé chose to give me an heirloom that meant a lot to him and his family- I would have accepted with grace. I also think if an heirloom, it should be returned to be given to a daughter, niece, gd of that family, if the relationship breaks down.

We could never afford a ring, so I never had one. These things are not important to me.

It is a very personal thing, and I can't see many women being happy to wear a ring they didn't like. However, perhaps a compromise might be to have the original ring remodelled into one which did suit?

I would have thanked him for it and worn it from time to time but not as my engagement ring that would be the one we chose together.

I wouldn’t wear a ring I didn’t like for life. My style is very clean and modern, I wouldn’t have liked an old fashioned ring however pretty or valuable.
I can see why you might be miffed that your beloved didn’t like it, but you move on and pick something together that the woman suits. Jewellery is very personal.