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Mollygo Tue 23-Nov-21 17:10:04

One of my GD and her friends have just left guides because of what they are expected to do.
Helen Watts was sacked from her position in Girl Guides for her views that girls should not be expected to share showers with men identifying as women.
Now they have a Monica Tetley/Sully a transwoman as a senior leader who posts selfies with guns or as a ‘mistress with a whip’. If a woman did that, serious questions would be asked about her suitability. If Sully is being accepted as a woman, why are the same terms not applied? www.google.co.uk/amp/s/4w.pub/trans-identified-male-now-a-senior-leader-at-girl-guides-uk/amp/

FarNorth Wed 24-Nov-21 15:40:27

You're right BeverleyJB.

'TIM' & 'TIF' are banned on Mumsnet, along with 't*rf', and it's the same in many online forums.

The intention of trans activists is to cause confusion which has clearly been successful, as can be seen on this very thread, where some posters have been unsure whether a boy claiming to be a girl is a transboy or a transgirl.

We do need to stop trying to be polite by using the terms that trans activists have told us to use, and say clearly what exactly we are talking about.

FarNorth Wed 24-Nov-21 15:28:42

the rights wants of transwomen trump the rights of all other females

That's how it is, in my view.

Calistemon Wed 24-Nov-21 15:11:08

Poor Tim.
He used to be 'nice but dim', now he's a 'trans-identifying male'

Peasblossom Wed 24-Nov-21 15:04:56

Oh, I’m not sure the Tim’s of this world are going to be happy with TIMS.

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BeverleyJB Wed 24-Nov-21 15:02:36

The Girlguiding movement has been going downhill for some time. See the link below for their guidance to leaders about providing contraception to girls aged 13 and upwards "on residential events" etc.

www.girlguiding.org.uk/globalassets/docs-and-resources/programme-and-activities/lets-talk-about-sex-and-relationships-advice-for-leaders.pdf

Can I please ask that we all stop using the term "trans woman" - it's not true, these people are Trans Identifying Males" (or TIMS). Only women have the right to be referred to as women - trans activists are erasing our rights, don't allow them to erase our language too.

Chewbacca Wed 24-Nov-21 13:34:30

Exactly GillT57, they're impacted severely by this, as a Orthodox Jewish girls. But, the rights of transwomen trump the rights of all other females. I saw this post on MN and I think it sums the situation up perfectly:

The end goal of the TRA/Genderist agenda is the complete removal of anything and everything that women and girls have for themselves - spaces, services, language, clubs, associations - you name it they want it, women and girls must have NOTHING exclusively for themselves.

GillT57 Wed 24-Nov-21 13:22:18

This situation will make attending GGuides more difficult surely for those girls from more conservative upbringing, from Muslim families? What about their rights?

FarNorth Wed 24-Nov-21 13:15:03

I googled Petra Wenham - who seems to enjoy getting a lot of attention.
I guess an inoffensive transwoman baking cakes is nothing to be concerned about, but why is it not allowed to have anywhere at all that is single sex?
A single sex environment can be completely different to a mixed one. Surely there's room for both.

I have a female friend who has been attending Men's Shed recently, doing woodwork.
Men's Shed clubs are okay with women being there, if they have similar interests to the men.
Nevertheless she has told the organisers to let her know if they feel there is any awkwardness about her being there.
She recognizes that the men might prefer a single-sex environment and she is prepared to back off, if so.
Transwomen, apparently, not only don't back off but push themselves forward at every opportunity.

I wonder if any of Petra's talk attenders ask how it could have been if Petra were to present in exactly the same way - dresses, hairstyle etc - without claiming to be a woman.

JillyJosie2 Wed 24-Nov-21 12:35:22

This is utterly shocking. Similary, I have been disturbed lately by how over the top the WI have gone regarding trans women, I hope this post doesn't seem off topic.
There is a woman called Petra Wenham who is a trans woman who is all over the place on tv and radio and was on the cover of a recent WI Magazine. She came to talk to our WI and our secretary in particular bends over backwards to be 'liberal' and to lambast anyone who disagrees but I think this is all very serious and is actually propaganda.
I have never had any problem with people being gay/whatever makes their life ok but not when it infringes on the privacy and rights of others.
There was a short article in yesterday's Times about how primary school age girls who don't like dolls or dresses are being automatically assumed to be the wrong gender. It's complete madness.
The WI says it's about diversity and of course, all these organisations must apply the law but how the law is being used to subject others to the whims of a few just isn't reasonable. www.thewi.org.uk/about-us/wi-key-messages/equality-diversity-inclusion-policy

Chewbacca Wed 24-Nov-21 11:09:02

Strange that Helen Watts, who ran a Rainbows group in London, was sacked because she broke the "organisation’s volunteer code of conduct" by raising concerns that a boy who identified as a girl was still legally and physically male and that trans inclusion, while laudable, must not sacrifice the safety and inclusion of girls.

But a trans woman volunteer can pose for selfies toting a gun, a sword and a whip and that's absolutely fine.

It feels as though the world has gone absolutely bloody mad. angry

FarNorth Wed 24-Nov-21 10:18:14

I hope that enough girls remove themselves from the situation that the Guide Association has to think again.

SueDonim Wed 24-Nov-21 10:16:50

It’s being picked up elsewhere, too. Good!

thecritic.co.uk/jeepers-creepers/

FarNorth Wed 24-Nov-21 10:16:32

Now we have two classes of women, the ones who must put up, shove up and be quiet/kind and the ones who get to do and say exactly what they want because they have 'lady penises'.

Very well put.
I thought it was worth having that in bold.

Forsythia Wed 24-Nov-21 09:09:01

Whoever allowed this individual into the Guides movement needs removing from their post. You only have to look at the photos provided above to see this person is highly undesirable. It’s well known access is acquired to get at young girls through targeting organisations where they can. It makes me very angry.

Doodledog Wed 24-Nov-21 09:03:36

The problem is that any criticism of someone who says that they are trans is assumed to be phobic, and many organisations fight shy of accusations of transphobia.

As we have seen, however, a number of more enlightened organisations are resigning from Stonewall's Diversity Champions scheme, as they are realising just how dangerous it is to disallow free speech. With luck, more will follow.

Unfortunately for genuine transpeople, Stonewall has set back their cause by many years.

Riverwalk Wed 24-Nov-21 08:58:13

Chewbacca

This is the new face of a Girl Guide lead Commissioner.

Presumably a self-identifying transwoman? But of course all transwomen are women aren't they.

It's hard to believe all this crap that women and girls have to put up with, just to accommodate the gender thoughts of a tiny minority.

lemongrove Wed 24-Nov-21 08:49:13

Chewbacca

You're not wrong SueDonim, There are a lot of parents contacting GG HQ to demand answers. As one poster said on MN, everyone is entitled to a private sex life but the fact that MS made their sex life public, by uploading dominatrix photos to Instagram, has made it open for public scrutiny. To also pose for selfies with guns just beggars belief and makes me question the GG safeguarding procedure.

I’m just staggered by this revelation!
Surely now this person will be sacked?How is there a shred of credibility left for somebody in this position, no matter if they are a real woman or a trans woman?
It seems to me ( and many) that organisations are falling over themselves to prove how inclusive they are .....with dubious results.

Doodledog Wed 24-Nov-21 08:34:23

Great post, Coastpath.

Lucca Wed 24-Nov-21 08:33:03

Chewbacca

This is the new face of a Girl Guide lead Commissioner.

Don’t think they did the keeping a clean and tidy house badge. Yuck

Coastpath Wed 24-Nov-21 08:25:10

Sorry, that should have read "life-limiting things that women have to do when there are men around."

Coastpath Wed 24-Nov-21 08:22:57

Women and girls can have nowhere for themselves now. No safe spaces, no clubs, no hospitals or prisons that are solely for women. Every single area is being commandeered by men who don't always have our wellbeing and safety as their priority.

Most importantly, women need a place to call their own. To my mind, this is vital. Sadly a core part of being a woman is the fear for threat of sexual or physical violence from men. this is the sad truth isn't it? Of course some/most men are incredible and would die sooner than make women feel threatened or less than themselves...but subjugating oneself to the fear of men is in our blood.

When I was in the Guides the very essence of its point was that it was a place where girls and women could just be. Without having to make themselves small/strong/available/invisible or any of those other life-limiting things that men have to do when there are men around.

Of course there were always men around on guide camps.
The gentle cocoa-making husbands of leaders, the kindly and ancient farmer who owned the land, but that a person who might need a condom should have access to the young girls sleeping in tents on a Guide camp renders the entire concept worthless and dangerous in my opinion.

Chewbacca Wed 24-Nov-21 00:07:57

This is the new face of a Girl Guide lead Commissioner.

Rosie51 Tue 23-Nov-21 23:59:34

The female sex are under a barrage unlike anything that has preceded it. We are not to be allowed anything that is just for 'us'. And the saddest aspect is the number of females colluding in this erasure! At least in the misogynistic past while women were 'kept in their place' it was very clear exactly what was a woman. Now we have two classes of women, the ones who must put up, shove up and be quiet/kind and the ones who get to do and say exactly what they want because they have 'lady penises'.

Chewbacca Tue 23-Nov-21 23:52:47

The Daily Mail is reporting it now:

Girlguides launch probe into commissioner, 58, who identifies as trans after campaigners uncovered 'disturbing' social media messages and pictures including her dressed as a dominatrix and wielding an assault rifle.

Bus driver Monica Sulley, 58, reportedly became a guiding Commissioner in July this year, overseeing Rainbows, Brownies, Guides and Rangers in Southwell, Nottinghamshire.
Another snap showed Ms Sulley dressed in a tight fitting black top and taking aim with what appears to be a fake assault rifle with a holstered handgun hanging from her waist.

She was also seen in a third picture posing with a sword and in a Twitter picture showing off her ample cleavage with the caption: 'Boobs, or did you want to see more?'

Calistemon Tue 23-Nov-21 23:50:13

And whilst they're doing that, they've disabled their "contact us" portal on their website.

Interesting, are they in panic or self-righteous mode?