Hetty58
Chewbacca, I stand by saying 'homophobia':
My gay friend's artist husband likes to dress as a woman sometimes. When he does, he uses the female loos and changing rooms, of course.
He's absolutely no threat to women, though. He doesn't fancy women at all - ever - unlike some women (who maybe we could be at risk of attack from - who knows? - not that it's ever worried me).
We are talking about men claiming to be women to access female spaces. The fact that this your friend's cross-dressing husband is gay does not mean that those objecting to his being in a female loo (if they object) is homophobic.
Homophobia is fear of (or aversion to) gay people because they are gay. It has nothing to do with objecting to their using women's facilities.
You may as well say that someone who complains at a man with a beard being in a ladies' changing room is beardist, and ignore the fact that it is because he is a man in a female space that they complain. Not about his beard, not about his maleness, but because he is a man in a woman's changing room.
I am not aware of any men of my acquaintance who are a threat to women, regardless of their sexuality. I still don't want them next to me in a changing room, though, any more than I want to go into a gents' loo or locker room. And if ever I end up in jail, or in a hospital ward, I don't want them in the next bed when I am vulnerable, whether they are gay, straight or uncertain. That doesn't make me homophobic or man-phobic - it makes me aware of context and appropriateness.