Daughter-in-law thread - please don’t look away!

Lovely thread about positive family relationships. Thank you so much for introducing this, GA. Just the shot in the arm we need on here to help balance the negativity and squabbling. A lovely read.

The one dil I didn't mention is my youngest son's ex-wife and mother of my eldest grandchildren. We have stayed close and still get on very well. We raised the children for several years, as both parents were in the forces. It has built a bond which is very strong. No longer lawful family but close in my heart.

My DiL's are both lovely, have given us wonderful grandchildren and share them willingly. They get on well together and we also have a good relationship with both sets of parents.

It was lovely to have them all together under one roof this Christmas. We staggered the meals but the visits overlapped a little. We were still within the allowed limits as the children are all under 14. ( Here in Germany we have been recommended to limit numbers, and as from today there are strict rules, depending on how many people in the group are vaccinated). Yesterday we were all together for lunch at DiL1's. Very brave of her. It was very noisy!

Both my sister and I have lovely DiLs

I love my daughter in law, she’s the best. She’s great for my son too. I’ll give her 10/10. Brilliant lady.

My DiL isn't great with me at all. I'm very fond of her and would love to have been friends with her. But she loves my son and thats whats important.

Lots of praise for DILs here I have two DILs and they are both just lovely partners to my son's.
They both have full time jobs and care for my DGCs & my sons
they make sure I have lots of contact with my DGCs always make me feel welcome in their homes at all times,I am so glad my son's found these amazing girls.

That's lovely Granybags.

My DILs are both wonderful too. We are very lucky.

2 d.i.ls here. One is the sweetest, kindest girl I know. The other is tolerable - so is her husband (my middle son, who can be very, very difficult).

If I could have gone to a store and chosen a daughter in law for my DS, I'd have chosen the one I've got! We were all out together yesterday and I was delighted to see that they were holding hands and looking so happy together. She's a loving, kind and gentle mum to my GC and kind and loving towards me. Her mum has become one of my closest friends and we've all become a very close family as a result of having DIL in our lives. She's a good 'un!

My daughter-in-law and son-in-law are loved and valued members of my family. We have all had a lovely Christmas together with much laughter and goodwill. I am counting my blessings.

As a DiL myself, as I was, I had an equally lovely MiL. DH is an only child, and the MiL/DiL relationship can be fraught in those circumstances, but not in my case, she was the best MiL a DiL could have.

DS1's ex-wife is still my daughter-in-law and always will be. Right from the start, I knew we would be friends and so it turned out to be. I was sad when she and my son split up, but it didn't prevent our friendship continuing. His new partner is a lovely, caring person and I also regard her as a good friend. She looks after me as she would her own mum when I go to visit. DS2 and his partner have been together for 27 years and have two teenage sons. I think she is a very tolerant woman to put up with DS! She is kind and always pleased to have a visit from me. I knew her well before they even set up home together and she's also a good friend.
GA, your daughters-in-law are so fortunate to have you as their MiL, and I'm sure they know it. xx

Thank you for this grannyactivist - of course folk are going to come on here seeking advice and support for the DiLs from hell! But lovely to redress the balance!

Happy to add the wonderful young (but getting older!) women that I call 'the daughters of my heart'

I haven't got them but my SIL come up to the mark in different ways. They appear to make my DD's happy are kind generous and helpful with the GC what more can I ask,I have a better relation with them than I ever had with my MIL.

grannyactivist Thank you for a heartwarming thread.

grannyactivist

Brilliant to start this post, yes, huge shout out to all fabulous DIL's.

My own DIL is caring, loving, compassionate and loves my son which for any mum, to know her son is truly loved by his wife, it brings huge contentment.

My DIL is a loving mum to my 2 GD, very understanding, gives her time and dedication to them opposed to being drawn into doing her own thing.

To me she is loving, kind and always telling me how well i have brought my son up, which leaves me feeling very proud ..... so i say THANK YOU grannyactivist for starting this post.

I forgot, I DO have a problem with my DiL and it has happened again today. She has the same name as my daughter and I get the text messages I send mixed up. It's a good job we only say nice things to each other!

I’ve thoroughly enjoyed catching up with this thread. I knew there would be lots of other people who have lovely, well liked daughters-in-law, but such good relationships rarely get a mention.

It’s a bit like the naughty children in a classroom getting all the attention while the well behaved ones stay under the radar. It’s understandable to focus on difficult relationships, especially on a supportive forum, but it perhaps gives a slightly skewed perception of many people’s experience.

I hope one day my two AC (now both separated) find someone as loving, caring and thoughtful as those mentioned here.

Thank you everyone for sharing such lovely positivity.

I have a daughter-out-law who is absolutely lovely. She and my son have been together for sixteen years and they have two lovely girls. They live only 15 minutes walk away and she will drop everything if I have an emergency. I am included in everything and get on so well. She is Swedish and has introduced some lovely new things into the family

Also have a lovely son-in-law who amongst other things has sorted me out a new phone, put new lights up, hung a new bird feeder, cleaned up and re-vitalised my old laptop and taken stuff to the tip for me - all without asking.

You are all so lucky to have lovely DILs. My DIL used to be lovely and caring but DS did something bad unknown to us all, and she turned against his whole family afterwards. They are still together though and she's an excellent mum to DGC.

My two DILs are lovely too. They have completely different personalities but I like them both just as much.

We have four sons, two actual daughters-in-law, two ex daughters-in-law who we love as the mums of our grandchildren, two partners not married in to the family but very much a part of it with their children, 5 of the 6 are wonderful women who love or have loved our sons. Only one is a bit difficult but we take it in our stride and try our hardest with her.
We’ve been very lucky and do miss big family get togethers not allowed during covid times.