Daughter-in-law thread - please don’t look away!

We have three D'sIL. Two we have known for over 15 years.
They are very different personalities, but really lovely girls; kind, caring and wonderful wives and mothers and they make our sons happy. That's all that matters. We are good friends with their parents as well. And all of our DILs get along well together.

We have only known our third DIL for a few years. She's a nice girl and a wonderful mother, and we had built up quite a good relationship. Sadly some unfortunate events last year revealed a different side of her character. She hurt my son and my DH very much. I can forgive but I can't forget. S and DIL seem to be back on an even keel now and happy together, so we'll keep our fingers crossed for them. I'm doing my best to rebuild the friendship I had with her before but DH is still struggling with it. Hopefully time will heal us all.

Two of our Ss and their families visited over Christmas and it was wonderful to see them all together and enjoying each others company.

What a good choice your son made. ?

Libman

What a good choice your son made. ?

That was meant for Laurensnan. Haven’t got the hang of commenting or replying yet……

It’s so lovely to hear about other mothers in law who love their boys wives. I am so fortunate to have 2 daughters in law that love my (boys). I’ve always felt lucky that my boys found someone who loved them as much as me or maybe more. I’m so glad that you have had a lovely Christmas.

I have 2 absolute angels ??for daughter in laws, and my own daughter now has 2 cherished sister in laws as well. I adore them as if they were my own, and feel truly blessed to have them. They’ve both told me I’m the best mum in law in the world and it always makes me cry, how lucky am I .... my son in law is extra special too ....

Our dil is great. She is courteous and polite and trusts me completely in caring for the grandchildren. She's a wonderful mother with a stressful job too. I respect her way of doing things and don't overstep the mark. We have some lovely conversations when we have the chance and get on very well. Although we are not included in everything (!), we count ourselves very lucky that she's part of the family and really love her, and sincerely hope she continues to put up with our son! (We love him too, but he can be a pain.)

I love my beautiful DIL. She’s a wonderful mother and role model to my DGC. Couldn’t wish for more.

Not officially a DIL yet but my son’s partner (also a teacher), who is pregnant with our first grandchild, is everything I could have hoped for my son. She is kind and loving and includes me in all her pregnancy news and phones me straight after each midwife appointment to let me know what’s happening. I love her because she loves my son so fiercely it shines out of her.

My former daughter in law is my darling girl. She is kind and although she and my son have been divorced for over ten years, she will always be a part of our family. I’m grateful that she always gets involved with our family and makes sure we see our grandsons. The split was due to my sons behaviour and she’s never held that against us. I love her dearly xx

What a truly lovely thread.

My one DiL is a lovely, shining person - I wouldn't say we were great friends but I love her dearly and have great respect for her. Fortunately she is quite an easy going person as my son, lovely as he is, most definitely isn't easy going. She is almost as dear to me as my own daughter. The same goes for two sils.

I don't have daughter's in law but I do have two great son's in law. I will always sing their praises.

I don't have DILs either, just 1 SIL - He is a lovely man, a great dad to their little daughter, his Mother says she's never seen him so happy as when with my DD, we could say the same about DD, she is so happy with him and a lovely mother to their daughter.

I have a lovely DIL, she left her home country to marry my son and I think she manages very well dealing with us eccentric English and our funny ways.

M DiL is the best anyone could hope for. She is kind, considerate, loving & a wonderful mother! She gives 110% to everything that she does & everyone that needs her! Does not think very highly of herself though we all try to reassure her of how great we think she is! Best of all she loves my lovely DS & him very happy. What more could I ask? I couldnt love her more if she was my daughter!

How nice to have such a positive thread (for a change). We have two DsIL who are both lovely and fantastic mothers to the GC.
We feel so blessed that all our children, grandchildren, children-in-law, step-children get on so well with us and each other. never take it for granted

i have called my sons fiancee my dil for the last 5 years, she is a beautiful and amazing person, always willing to help with taking me to appointments or out shopping, checks every day on facebook that i am okay (been ill recently), when my grandson was born she would photograph or video him and sent to my facebook as i was ill with cancer, she has a son of her own and because of her i have 2 gorgeous grandsons. she is the daughter i never had.

I’m happy to see that lovely sons-in-law have been championed on this thread too - they also deserve to be celebrated. ??????

I’ve noted that several people have mentioned how well they get on with their daughter-in-law’s family and that’s certainly true in my case. My son didn’t exactly marry the girl-next-door, but the family lives so close it takes only 30 seconds to get from my front door to theirs! The mum is a good friend and (step) dad has been my right-hand man at work for the past five years. We have a lot of shared values and our lifestyles are similar enough that our son and their daughter had a very smooth transition to married life.

We are also lucky with our DiL. She is lovely!

How lovely to read such supportive stories of your DILs. Unfortunately I wasn't considered a lovely DIL.
My late MIL never welcomed me as she had absolutely loved a previous g/friend of my DH and was extremely close to her family, inc her mother who she holidayed with yearly for many many years, long after I arrived on the scene.
A framed photograph was proudly in her living room of DH and previous g/friend, despite my DH asking it not be.

My son is not married to his partner but they have been together for twenty years and she is like another a daughter to us. She struggles with really bad health but that doesn't stop her from being warm, loving and caring and we love her to bits. Son-in-law is brilliant. He's so good for DD and a wonderful dad. He's always there for advice as he's very practical and whenever they come to stay asks what jobs need to doing round the house. We are so lucky to have them both.

Sounds little or you're a rather special mother in law grannyactivist. No DILs but one SIL died three years ago and

The other SIL is pleasant enough and a very clever scientist but we didn't nth have the bond we had with David.

I really get on well with my DIL and SIL. They have made my children happy, given me 5 lovely grandkids, and in grateful to have them as my family.

I don’t see much of my DIL, as my son and family live in America, but we keep in touch by phone and social media.

My daughter, SIL and 4 of my (now adult) grandchildren live 10 minutes away, and we see one or more of them very regularly. They are always there for us if we need a hand.

I couldn’t be happier that my children have formed long marriages with two lovely in-laws.??

We have a lovely DiL with out eldest son. They have our 2 middle grandchildren, a boy and a girl.

We have a lovely SonIL with our only and 2nd adult youngster/daughter. They are expecting (well my daughter carrying obv) our 4th grandchildren next May on Star Wars day

I get on and have a working relationship with our ex DiL by our 3rd adult child/2nd son. They have 1 son, our eldest grandson. I'm not close to her however we get on.

My youngest isn't at the producing age yet.

I love our eldests, wife to bits. We get on well. I am also very close to her Mom. We always got on.

However we have both been widowed young, within a year of each other, in 2018 and 2019 so I suppose you can call it "widows in arms"

We all spend Christmas, the children birthdays etc together (did even before our husband's passed)

I'm very lucky with my family. Our daughter lives abroad however in this day an age of Zoom and other video linking its a small eorld.

I'm even attending the 4D ultrasound via video link in February. We are so lucky today.

My SonIL is a sweetheart, so kind and he adores our daughter. She has found her soul mate

I had the MiL from hell with the ex so I always swore I would never be like that. It isn't my nature to be however I've always checked myself out regularly and tell mine to tell me if I'm being awkward.

They laugh and say "Sometimes mom you stick up for the other half more than you would us"