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sodapop Tue 04-Jan-22 16:39:01

I've read a thread today where a poster referred to her elderly parents aged 75.
Aaaargh I'm not an elderly parent I don't feel like that, other people get old not me. Does anyone else get a shock when reading something like that smile

Mollygo Tue 04-Jan-22 19:24:18

Lucca

Old/elderly is ten years older than I am, and always will be.

Love that Lucca. I’m adopting it as my motto.??

BlueBelle Tue 04-Jan-22 19:26:46

Yay I was in yesterday Calistemon and the sea was 2 degrees warmer than Christmas Day but it was pretty wild waves so that was probably the reason it was warmer ?

Calistemon Tue 04-Jan-22 19:28:38

I love going in the sea, Bluebelle but not until the summer.

It's too far from here anyway ?‍♀️, or at least the "proper sea" is.

AreWeThereYet Tue 04-Jan-22 19:33:15

Recently unexpectedly caught sight of myself in a shop mirror and thought 'Poor old dear. She needs a few nights of sleep.'

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Aveline Tue 04-Jan-22 19:51:39

If I ever unexpectedly catch sight of myself in a shop window I always think, 'Oh there's Dad. Why's he wearing that?'

Germanshepherdsmum Tue 04-Jan-22 20:08:15

I have resolved never to be elderly, let alone old. My birth certificate tells me I’m almost 71. The figures are the wrong way round even if my body begs to differ.

love0c Tue 04-Jan-22 20:13:05

One of our three year old grandsons said 'grandpa you are old because you have grey hair, but grandma is not old because she has dark hair'! So it's a fact, I am not old!! ha ha.

lemongrove Tue 04-Jan-22 20:21:29

Aveline

Well I feel about 90 and not a very fit 90 at that. Unfortunately, I've got more than 20 years to go till I reach that age chronologically! I've always embraced my inner pensioner.

I like that Aveline ( the last line)?

lemongrove Tue 04-Jan-22 20:22:53

FoghornLeghorn

If you want to feel decrepit have a look at Mumsnet. They think everyone takes to a shawl and a rocking chair at forty! ?

There are positives in a shawl and a rocking chair, sounds excellent if you want a nap.

Aveline Tue 04-Jan-22 21:16:28

lemon grove you young whippersnapper! Shakes invisible stick

Jillyjosie Tue 04-Jan-22 21:22:18

68, I usually feel around 40, sometimes 12!! It's really shocking suddenly seeing myself described as old, I really don't feel it even if I realise some days that I get more tired than before.

I was recently asked to make the tea in a class. I was the oldest by between 10 and 20 years and I felt annoyed and pigeon holed. It's a very odd feeling that I am old in years, I hate it!

M0nica Tue 04-Jan-22 21:35:49

Well DS was 50 last year and I was classified as an 'elderly prima gravida' when I had him.

I am quite happy to admit I am old, but the problem is that the word elderly has connotations of senescence and faikling fast.

Millie22 Tue 04-Jan-22 21:47:48

I was quite happy to be told that I don't 'act old' whatever that means. I'm still middle aged anyway and always will be!

Grannybags Tue 04-Jan-22 21:55:55

I'm 70 this year. 69 sounds so much younger than 70!

I don't feel old until I catch sight of myself in a shop window or somewhere.

Still my granddaughter says I'm 'fit and cool' so that's ok!

JaneJudge Tue 04-Jan-22 21:59:15

I don't think 70s is elderly but my in laws are in their 80s and I think of them as elderly but only because of their 'health' situation

JenniferEccles Tue 04-Jan-22 22:22:47

Aren’t pregnant women of about 37 classified as geriatric mothers to be?

BlueSapphire Tue 04-Jan-22 22:58:29

I was an even older first time mum at nearly 34! And when I went to have my IUD removed at 37 because we wanted a second child the doctor asked me why I wanted one at that age!!!

I'm now 77, but in my head I'm 24 - the age I was when I met DH........ And definitely don't feel elderly.

mokryna Tue 04-Jan-22 23:06:46

I was called a geriatric mother when I had my first daughter at 23, 1973, I had my last daughter at 39., I didn’t hear what they called me then. I only stopped working full time because of covid. I don’t feel old, it depends on health.

BigBertha1 Wed 05-Jan-22 07:12:11

I'm 68 well for one more month. Head us young body is ageing fast thanks to Arthur!

henetha Wed 05-Jan-22 10:14:12

You're all so young! At 84 I can't pretend any longer that I am not old. I wish wisdom would increase just like the wrinkles do.
I'm still so daft!

GrammarGrandma Wed 05-Jan-22 10:48:43

I don't mind being old but I REFUSE to be elderly!

Riggie Wed 05-Jan-22 10:52:46

I've just got my pension so am not 75 yet but then I realise that I am categorised as "older" and that these "old" looking people I see working in shops etc are probably younger than I am!!

MooM00 Wed 05-Jan-22 10:57:53

It will be my70th Birthday on the 10th January it feels a bit of a shock to say the least. Inside I feel younger but you only have to catch yourself in a shop window to let reality strike. I’m lost to think what old age is. When I was young 18 was old and god forbid if you were 21 you had one foot in your grave.

annodomini Wed 05-Jan-22 11:03:00

I've reluctantly accepted that I am entitled to be 'elderly' at 81, though I'd like to be an 'elder' as I would be in some tribes- a term with connotations of wisdom and experience, entitling one to respect. As long as nobody calls me an OAP, a term that implies no status and no respect. Luckily, my precious family do not treat me as a 'has been'.

cc Wed 05-Jan-22 11:03:44

I feel like the OP, I'm 70 this month (and have a 45 year old daughter). But I posted the other day that bits of my body have started to malfunction and I wonder if "three score years and ten" is a turning point.