My neighbours have left and I feel sad

Peasblossom, yes. I accept we have had different experiences. It is just such a pity, we all could have been good friends and neighbours. I didn't mean to hijack OPs thread. I'm sorry for anyone who goes through this.

25Avalon:- a lovely, heartfelt post. Neighbourliness is at the centre of civilisation and you are far from silly in feeling sad at their parting. I do hope that she is able to get back in touch with you.

I think being friends with neighbours is like being friends with colleagues at work. You are friendly because they live in proximity to you and perhaps because you are at the same stage in life. We have been very good friends with neighbours over the years but once they moved we drifted apart.

Respectfully, wouldn’t you perhaps think it was more a man thing because your friends were mostly women so the jealous partners you encountered would be men?
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Oh yes. And I can give you my experience which was the opposite of a wife so jealous of her husbands neighbours talking to him that she would call him into the house if he exchanged hellos over the fence.

There’s jealousy and possessiveness in both.

Peasblossom, I can only give you my own experience and that was the husbands. Two in my experience married to neighbours/ friend were downright weird. I could not have a conversation with my female neighbour, but husband would appear ,wanting to know all about what we were talking about or monopolise the conversation. It was just general chit chat. I don't know many jealous or possessive women. I appreciate you may know different. I was also told by my friend that her husband was jealous of me. I was never made to feel welcome whenever he was around. Sadly, I am no longer in contact with either. My neighbours moved no goodbye nothing. It is very hurtful but as Ive got older, I don't get involved with neighbours or people in general. Ive been s* on too often.

My neighbour was widowed just having moved next us we got on great from the start she was a good laugh but also very thoughtful ,she went to live near family but we spoke frequently always at the other end of the phone,she became poorly but still rung after my surgery at Christmas even though she was in hospital herself ,unfortunately she died at new year I already miss her xx

"the older I have become I feel you discover that you are less important to others than you think you are."

I so agree with this.

You have a kind heart and are a good neighbour hard to come by these days. You are perfectly right to be upset. I was upset last year because my elderly neighbour also my friend moved.
Her house was sold we knew she was going but her daughter moved her out without telling us. It wasn’t nice the neighbours on the other side were also upset we all look out for each other. None of us saw her leave and we never got to say goodbye very hurtful.

So can wives. It’s not confined to one gender?

I also think some men are weird that way, husbands can seem to get very jealous of friendships.

I was in a similar situation to yourself and sympathise with your feelings. However, at least you got to say goodbye. I had what I thought were good neighbours but they moved house a while ago. No goodbye, nothing. We were not in and out of each other's houses but thought they would have said cheerio. We were neighbours for 15 years. Sadly, the older I have become I feel you discover that you are less important to others than you think you are. I now don't involve myself with neighbours or others much. Ive been hurt too often in the past, not just by neighbours.

It’s a second floor flat and they don’t really know anyone there. All of her friends and medics are up here. If anything should happen to him she will be stranded.

It is not silly, you lost a friend and do not know how to keep in touch

It also sounds like she is in a place where her needs are better served.

I hope she contacts you and I am sure she also appreciates your support