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Foster child from 40 years ago has got in touch

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Franbern Tue 01-Feb-22 09:43:15

I am so thrilled. My eldest daughter still lives in the area where my family all grew up, and she still has the same surname (which is an unusual one)

Some months back she was contacted by a man who told her that his (adoptive) parents had recently died, and going through their papers he had discovered that we were the family that had fostered him as a newborn for ten weeks before he went to those parents. This was in 1980.

He managed to track her down via facebook (so that really does have some good uses). As our family are all meeting at her house in a few weeks time for a birthday celebration, he has arranged to come over to meet up with us all. I am so excited. Evidently his partner is expecting a baby later in the summer, so I am now knitting some baby things for them.

fairfraise Tue 01-Feb-22 11:57:20

That's a really good story. Enjoy your reunion.

Namsnanny Tue 01-Feb-22 12:00:36

What a lovely story, and it's all down to you and your families kindness.
Have a good time at the family party, and I hope the reunion goes wellsmile

LauraNorderr Tue 01-Feb-22 12:04:18

What a lovely surprise for you Franbern. A heartwarming and joyful story. Happy knitting and happy reunion.

sodapop Tue 01-Feb-22 12:21:04

Lovely story Franbern makes all the hard work of fostering worthwhile.
Enjoy the reunion.

nanaK54 Tue 01-Feb-22 12:58:57

That really is lovely

LadyGracie Tue 01-Feb-22 13:50:25

A story to brighten everyone’s day!

3dognight Tue 01-Feb-22 14:07:43

How lovely that a baby you fostered for ten weeks has tracked you down.
I wonder if this happens frequently.
Good vibes all round.
No wonder you are so excited!

Curlywhirly Tue 01-Feb-22 14:26:56

Oh Franbern what a lovely lady you are; I am in awe of people that offer to foster children, a very hard but rewarding job. Bet you can't wait to meet this chap! Good luck with the reunion - please come back to let us know how it went.

PaperMonster Tue 01-Feb-22 14:31:54

Oh that is so lovely x

luluaugust Tue 01-Feb-22 14:45:01

Have a lovely time when you all meet again.

BlueBelle Tue 01-Feb-22 14:53:00

That’s really nice you must be so excited Have a lovely time at your party

Wheniwasyourage Tue 01-Feb-22 14:54:49

No wonder you're thrilled, Franbern. Best wishes for the reunion! flowers

Grandmadinosaur Tue 01-Feb-22 14:56:23

What a lovely story. I’m sure your reunion will be full of joy and happiness. Wonderful.

62Granny Tue 01-Feb-22 15:00:40

It would be lovely if you had some photos of his time with you that you could get copies made of otherwise a nice photo of you all would be a lovely gift. Perhaps you have some memories of his time with you than you can write down also.I always think children who are adopted want someone to give them memories that they would normally have been given by parents. Especially as he is having a baby himself soon. He might like to hear that he didn't settle well after a feed or he was a good sleeper etc

Luckygirl3 Tue 01-Feb-22 15:04:29

That is lovely to hear - and well done you for your invaluable fostering role.

Lincslass Tue 01-Feb-22 15:08:59

How wonderful, you must be very excited.. Much admiration for people who foster children.

Floradora9 Tue 01-Feb-22 16:08:12

I am so pleased for you . Over 50 years ago I used to foster babies who were to be adopted . I got them at 7 days old and would love to know what became of them . My daughter , when small and annoyed with me , would say she was going back to her own mummy . I had to explain she was stuck with us . My husband did unpaid work for the Social work department driving kids to school , visit relatives etc. and we got very fond of some of these children . We saw a lot of one little boy and knew his family as they lived in the same town as we did . DH took him and his mum to prison often to visit his dad and we always hoped that this boy would have a better life than his parents. Sadly we saw a report in the local paper about him , a prisoner , pouring boiling water on another inmate and he got years added to his sentence . He always said he wanted to be part of our family which was really sad.

GillT57 Tue 01-Feb-22 16:15:37

What a lovely story Franbern and how kind of you to share it. Your foster son must have mixed emotions having lost his adoptive parents and expecting his first child, please update us when you all meet up!

Floradora9 Tue 01-Feb-22 16:20:58

I just had an after thought Franbern did people used to say to you things like " Oh I would be too upset when I had to give these babies backs I am too soft hearted " did they think we were heartless ? I cried many a tear as I peeled the potatoes for tea when a baby had gone as I am sure you did but when I was told that if I did not take them they would go to the children's home that decided me .

Kali2 Tue 01-Feb-22 16:22:01

That is lovely.

JaneJudge Tue 01-Feb-22 16:33:06

How lovely smile

Allsorts Tue 01-Feb-22 16:44:31

Bought tears to my eyes, thanks to selfless people like you these little ones have love to start their journey through life, nothing is more important than that, to know he is happy and he must have had a good home must make your heart sing.
Flora, how awful for that little boy you had and turned out to be so wretched, things could have been so different, life can be very hard for some children, a bad de is ion made can destroy a life.
? to both if you for what you did.

Baggs Tue 01-Feb-22 16:51:20

Aww. I hope it is a wonderful occasion, franbern.

JenniferEccles Tue 01-Feb-22 19:12:32

This is such a lovely story so thank you for sharing it on here.
I bet it was a wrench to give him up after caring for him for ten weeks even though you knew that’s what would happen.

Very best wishes for the reunion!!
I bet it will be quite emotional.

CanadianGran Tue 01-Feb-22 19:26:08

How nice for your family to have a reunion with a foster child. You will have to let us know how it goes.

My family fostered children for a few years in the late 70's. We accepted them as siblings for the short time they were with us. It would be nice to hear of a happy ending for some of these children, but our placements were mostly short for a few months while their family situation improved.